To Be Slightly Jealous - DP & ExW

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DP has been divorced for 4 years.
They have 2 DSs 20 & 18.

ExW has recently got a new DP.

Firstly DP made enquiries with a friend of his who works in the same field as the new DP to find out what he was like , career prospects etc.

He then checked every social media site trying to find out about him.

Last week he bumped into him for the first time & gave him a ‘talk’ about looking after his family.

I know he’s being protective so not sure why I feel a bit green eyed

I know the update is not great.

I feel like such an idiot

Did the exW give you a 'stern talking to' when you came on the scene?

No, I thought not.

He is in a relationship with you but can't stop himself setting rules for his ex.

He is being a Tom cat. Very territorial. Disrespectful to his exW, when he is in a relationship but is supervising her doing the same. Disrespectful to you as it signals he remains overly invested in how she lives her independent life.

He sounds alarming. Totally fine for him to have a new partner. But his ex has a new partner and he comes over all willy-waving. It’s not protective, it’s misogynistic.

I mistakenly just bought it up & he’s stormed off into the spare room because ‘ I didn’t support him during one of the most difficult afternoons of his life’
I always have to pick away at him

Please get out while you can.

I think it's nice. Even if his kids are adults I'd assume they will be at home for a few years - he wants to know who will be living with his kids.

You think it’s nice Lemony?

He made professional enquiries about his ex-wife’s new partner, stalked him all over social media, sat outside the ex-wife’s Home and finally gave the new DP a “talking to”.

That’s not nice. Inviting them all out for a meal together with the OP would be nice.

Stalking him isn’t.

I think its quite normal to check that person out on fb and possibly google their name but totally and utterly no more. Esp not deliberately bump into them and make a comment like that, esp as the children are older. No no no way. Theres more to this than he is letting on, hes the one who jealous !

Why was it a difficult afternoon?

What a drama queen - he thinks he’s in an episode of Eastenders, doesn’t he? I think he sees himself as Danny Dyer.

He still loves his ex. Or he’s scarily controlling. Or both.

One of the most difficult afternoons of his life?

Leave him before you get further entangled.

Is your partner Max Branning ?

One of the most difficult afternoons of his life??

Tell me; did he ask about your life event at all?

Get. Rid.

You're only 18 months in, just ditch the controlling creep.