To have a hen do if only family are attending wedding

[princessdaffodil]

Thats it really, me and my dp only wanted a small wedding with close family mainly because we want to get married as soon as possible but we cant afford a big do and we dont want fuss. We are getting married abroad next year.

My sister will be maid of honour and she has just brought up the hen do? AIBU to have a hen do if most of the people attending would not be invited to the wedding??

If you don't want one don't have one.

I don't think it would be rude to have one, given that most of the people there wouldn't be attending the wedding, so it's not as if you're inviting one or two also rans along with a load of 'better' friends.

But if it's not something you want then don't be pressurised by your sister. You're having a party when you get home, so that should be enough for everyone.