To be livid about this!

[AnonyMousee]

Ugh I hate Facebook. So my boyfriends family (mostly the girls) like most of his ex's photos/statuses on Facebook but very VERY rarely like anything I post!

AIBU?? Or would that wind you up also. Makes me feel like it's pretty obvious who the favourite girlfriend was out of me and her! I try so hard with his family to get involved and speak to them all so I'm quite upset about this.

And also, she dumped him by the way!!

Livid? Really? You sound like you’re 13!

If it upsets you that much...... step away from the social media!

Livid? Really?

Cross posted with lottie.

Livid? No, because it’s FB which has no bearing on reality and ultimate, they can ‘like’ what they like!

How old are you OP? Sounds all very playground to me...

Why do you care? Sounds pretty stalkerish to know who is liking someone else’s posts tbh

I don't think you understand , I am constantly with his family, every day, doing my best to be a part of the family. I know it sounds pathetic as it's only Facebook, but it hurts? It feels like I'm being left out when I share good (and bad) news on Facebook and they're no where to be seen, yet his ex gets all of their attention

@Sirzy she is a friend on fb hence why it comes up when I scroll past x

Stop using Facebook. Stop trying so hard. Just be who you are and let them like you or not.

You’re totally at the mercy of Facebook algorithms don’t forget. They may well not see what you post unless you’re tagging them

It’s social media. Don’t read anything into it.

Stop using fb. Things will be so much easier.

Well defriend her.

Or delete Facebook.

I pay no attention to who likes what!

Share good and bad news in person?

What are the family like towards you in person? Do you feel like they include you and like you? If the answer is no then you need to take a step back from them all, focus on yourself, your own friends and family and what you like doing. You’ll never measure up if you don’t already. In fact, sod that, focus less on his family either way.

To be honest, I never like or share or comment on anything my ILs put on FB because they’re irritating as fuck and can’t ignore them off FB.

Maybe they don’t feel the need to interact online because you see them everyday. Surely if you’re with them all the time they know everything you could possibly post on Facebook anyway?

How are they in person with you? Are you included in family things?

Facebook is not the place to look for validation. You might not come up in their feed. They might like her posts out of habit. They might just not like what you post.

Oh and block his ex. Then you wont see ILs liking her posts.

From another thread OP lives with her BF’s family. And is pregnant.

OP: Move out. Care less.

You’re trying way too hard.

I will agree it's bad form. My youngest BIL was with a lovely girl for nearly 10 years. We all are still friends with her and like her posts. He is now with someone else and had a child with her. She isn't my kind of person, but you know what, she's now part of the family and she means well so I make an effort to be welcoming, you should give people a chance and respect the choices family members make.

They knew her first. They may like her.

Stop trying so hard.

They can smell the desperation

Be yourself. Be nice and fun and pleasant.

But make it very clear you've got your own life and your own friends and just keep a bit of mysterious distance from them and do your own thing a bit more.

They'll flock to you and start liking you to a standstill because they'll get the message that you're cool and fun and they will want to befriend you. Human nature I'm afraid.

Find something more worthwhile to think about

Oh really?

You do not want to be feeling like this when pregnant - an outsider, and a bit on edge. Not healthy.

Can you move out? You need space from his family and if you feel like this now, you will feel MISERABLE when you have your baby and they try and take over but still treat you as an outsider.. no no no.

Distance, now!

They are allowed to be friends with her. Let it go.

"Ugh I hate Facebook'

delete it then

yr welcome