To be livid about this!

[AnonyMousee]

Ugh I hate Facebook. So my boyfriends family (mostly the girls) like most of his ex's photos/statuses on Facebook but very VERY rarely like anything I post!

AIBU?? Or would that wind you up also. Makes me feel like it's pretty obvious who the favourite girlfriend was out of me and her! I try so hard with his family to get involved and speak to them all so I'm quite upset about this.

Stop using Facebook. I did. I'm now happily oblivious to who likes what, is eating what, is going where and is shagging who. It's great.

They knew her first! They may actually quite like her.

Life isn’t a competition.
Facebook is full of attention-seekers.
Back away from Facebook.

Is your life so sad that you consider a like to be socially important

Are you a responsible adult or a school child?

It's understandable that this bothers you. Ignore people who say Facebook shouldn't upset you. If something happens on Facebook it doesn't magically stop being hurtful. That said you do have to take into account that Facebook likes don't necessarily mean much. If your DP went out with his ex for a long time it's likely his family knew her well. Just because their relationship broke up doesn't mean his family want to give up someone who they might have grown attached to. They may feel they have to make extra effort to keep their links going and let her know they aren't taking sides.

It might be easier to unfollow her for a while as stressing about it and questioning it isn't going to achieve anything. In terms of his family I would continue to be nice, friendly, helpful etc. Probably over time they'll grow attached to you and you'll be one of the family if not the problem will be purely theirs.

so what?

why would they interact with you at all on face book when they see you all the time in real life?

surely face book is to keep in touch with people who are not in your vacinity

what do you post on face book that you couldn't tell them in real life?

Stop living your life through your phone screen.

HTH

Delete FB - life goes on without it.

Big deal. It's FB...where everything is ruled by weird algorithms. And maybe they just aren't interested in what you post...they are allowed to like the ex. You can't micromanage who they like. If you're coming over half as needy as you are here, they're probably backing away like crazy.

If it really, really bothers you; delete FB. Or block them. But try and get a handle on your priorities here.

Remember what someone said above about facebook algorithms. If you "like" a post you get more of that person's post in your newsfeed, at the expense of a "friend" whose posts you've never "liked". So they'll be seeing an awful lot of ex's posts and maybe none at all of yours. Just because you've posted on FB doesn't mean to say that anyone sees it.

And people use "like" in different ways - some people use it to say they actually do like a post, some people use it just to keep FB sending them posts from that person, some people seem to use it just to keep an eye on the post, to see if someone else comments on it.

Why are you friends with his ex? Unfollow her at least.

It's nice that they still like her. Don't take it as more than that. Mostly I was always sold I was part of the family, and then as soon as we finished, never spoken to again. Dropped like a hot potato, but they said they loved and missed me before. I knew it was all bollocks.

This is juvenile. Delete your Facebook if its making you "livid"

My niece didn't talk to me for a year because I liked an update from another niece and didn't like hers. She's 14 though....

Stop liking their things on FB. And spending every day with his family sounds too intense. Give yourself a chance to miss them and vice versa!

If you are constantly with his family on a daily basis they don’t have to like what you are doing on fb because they are with you when you are doing it.
People who get this upset over fb shouldn’t have fb

Why do you see his family every day? You shouldn't have to try so hard.
Plus maybe they interact with her online because they don't see her every day.

Why do you see his family every day?

She lives with them.

Well then! Why should they be liking her Facebook posts?!

Why would they like your posts when they live with you and see you everyday?

And no way on this earth would I be friends with DP's ex's!

How long have you been together?
Why are you living with his family? Can you or he not provide a home for your unborn baby?

If you live with them maybe they don't interact with you on Facebook much because they talk to you in real life? And I'm good friends with my brother's ex - she's lovely. Doesn't affect how i feel about my SIL, she is also lovely, but I'd be very suprised if she gave 2 shits about my "liking" any posts from the ex. I think you need to put it in perspective a little bit and remember they're allowed to be friends with anyone they please without it being any reflection on how they feel about you.

Why on earth would you expect them to give you likes on FB for sharing news when you live with them!!

You are 18 so now an adult and about to become a mother. Stop acting like a child over FB, close it down and focus your energy on a career and your own home fit for your child. Teens have dramas over Facebook likes not grown adults.

Eh? You see them every day (why I don't know) so of course they're not going to 'like' everything you put on there. You sound very young. Stop living your life through Facebook - it's NOT real!