DH keeps talking to me

[sallysunflowers]

DH wants the football on. Fair enough, it's the Works Cup, once every three years, blah blah blah.

I'm not in the slightest interested in football, and I'm trying to Mumsnet read. He keeps talking to me though, asking my opinion, and expecting a response. It's really annoying, I'm not interested in whether that was a foul and I don't appreciate getting dragged from my book.

AIBU?

I hate the 'it's only every 4 years' argument - what about the European cup and all the other 'really important ' championships- it's obsessive and dominating. No room for any thing else. I've retired to the garden.

Lovely??? God i would hate that!

I’m lucky that H doesnt care about football. But teen Dc1 does.
However, he has learnt a long time ago that not everyone likes the same thing and nothere is no point asking me (I think his dad is worse tbh!) what I did about xxx
I do make an effort to ask how everything goes. I do have a (quick) chat about the results or how xxx happened.

I would refuse to get involved in the matches that way and would just escape the bedroom.
Any comment about how I dint spend time with him you be met with a ‘no. I dint want to spend time watching football. Would you be happy to as two hours talking about ??’
Seeing that he wouldn’t be happy to spend two hours talking about MY interest when he doesn’t acre about it, I’m not going to spend two hours watching/talking/commenting about football.
It goes both ways.

I'm so glad my DP isn't into sport, except boxing which is few and far between and I also don't mind it and can get on board with it. He also rings his mates when it's on and talks to them about it win win so I get uninterrupted MN time :)

I’m actually quite glad of the World Cup. I miss club football every summer, and my national team is shite (I’m Scottish) so I can watch every game as a neutral.

Football isn't every four years - it's on all the time. Even when it isn;t on people drivel on about it.
Why is it unsociable to read a book ?
How is it bad manners to be quiet when you are reading a book ? It is bad manners to talk at someone who is reading a book surely.
If I see someone reading I don't keep dicking on at them about something only I am interested in - it is mad behaviour.

Why do people persist in yapping boring football shite at you when you have made it clear you aren't interested.
A taxi driver did it to me the other day
Him: 'Did you watch the game last night?'
Me: 'no, I'm not interested in football
Him 'long description of the match, goals stuff, players I've never heard of and don't care about crap, off side bollocks, referee yada yada yada, commentators bore bore bore'

Then he had the cheek to give me his card in case I ever needed a taxi. That'll be a great big 'No thanks, I'd rather eat a slug'.

None committal Hmmm, really, oh , is that good etc Far too many years with footie folk - can't stand it my self

Yeah, you're being a bit unreasonable tbf but I'm with you there, mine asks me questions about eastenders etc (which he totally doesn't care about) just for the sake of talking and it gets on my wick because it means I miss stuff. Totally unreasonable but I do talk to him at other times, honest!

God, my DP does this. I call it taking AT me rather than TO me. Even if I do reply he’s not listening.

He came home today after I’d had a few blissful hours to myself. He was really psyched up from his visit out and was really loud and talking nonsense. Don’t get me wrong, I love him to pieces but there are times where I wish he would just shush! He’s the type of person that has to fill a silence. Thankfully he doesn’t notice that my “mmm” responses don’t actually mean anything.

You have my sympathy OP!