DH keeps talking to me

[sallysunflowers]

DH wants the football on. Fair enough, it's the Works Cup, once every three years, blah blah blah.

I'm not in the slightest interested in football, and I'm trying to Mumsnet read. He keeps talking to me though, asking my opinion, and expecting a response. It's really annoying, I'm not interested in whether that was a foul and I don't appreciate getting dragged from my book.

AIBU?

😆😆😆. Mine does this. I don’t care about football. He want to talk to me about the technicalities. I’m watching Netflix “The Killing” on my iPad with my noise reducing earphones on 😊. I nod occasionally and it’s keeping him happy.

Love the American version of The Killing.

Dh is trying to train dd to watch it with him with limited success. I’m free of football as I’m in hospital. Silver linings an all that. That would piss me off too. If he can talk about off sides, he can talk about other things too.

The World Cup is every four years. Even I know that.

Surely you can just go and read in another room, or outside. That would make it more of an effort for him to keep blethering away at you.

I can tell you it doesn't necessarily solve all of the problems though. My DH shrieks and yells as loudly as if he were actually at the match. I am sure he can be heard at the other end of our street. He drives me up the wall with it as he is so loud.

I do actually quite like the World Cup if, and it can be a big "if", England get beyond the group stage.

I don't know why they put the works cup on at the same time as the World Cup. What are they thinking?

Is it really that bad that he's trying involve you with his interest and ya know, communicating with you? Or would you rather he does what you want and sit there in silence, ignoring each other. I'm sure there's plenty of things you ramble on about that he has to feign interest in, it's every 4 years and he's probably a bit excited..

Mine insists in rewinding and showing me things when I literally could not be interested in the slightest. He knows this too. But it doesn't stop him! I'm with you.

I’m watching out of the side of my side of my eye and can still comment and mumsnet at the same time. Nice seeing the mighty German side performing poorly.

But if you’re sitting beside him surely you’re inviting conversation?

I don't mind him jumping up, shouting "lovely ball" at the tv, running towards the screen... I just don't have an opinion on whether it's a lovely ball or not

Can't believe I mistyped World Cup

Do your own commentary, on how cute their arses are, analyse their haircuts, whether the colour of the kit suits them or not, the weather. Anything at all so long as it's not about the football. By the time you've done that incessantly for 10 mins he'll be relieved when you shut up and go back to your Mumsnetting.

I hate football but DH has insisted on having it on every available moment since it started. I can happily ignore it to read or Mumsnet or whatever, but every so often he asks ‘did you see that goal?’ or ‘how did he miss that??’ and insists that I look up and watch the replay

I DONT CARE. Yet if I offer to watch Netflix read my Proust in the bedroom he gets offended that I don’t want to spend time with him

My DH just got in from a walk and spent about half an hour telling me where the toilet is on the refurbished Clevedon Pier. I'd kill for football.

Tell him to invite a friend to watch it with - then sit in the garden in peace!

Oh, I hear you! My DH constantly does that when I'm trying to read. Not sport, then he's all absorbed and deaf to the world. He does it about politics and his hobby. We agree on politics, but that doesn't mean I want to hear his opinion when I'm reading. And I don't give a rat's arse about his hobby (neither does he, about mine).

I usually say 'I'm not listening, I'm reading' and just continue with my book.

I thought the last World Cup was in 1996.

I love this thread title. It's a perfect AIBU.

Talk to him about your book,read out paragraphs and ask his opinion on it see how he likes being interrupted all the time.

I ask mine questions about everything. I will soon be an expert.

He doesn’t seem to mind, oddly.

I did find it amusing that your thread title in AIBU was that your husband insisted on talking to you though

Perhaps I could commentate on MN? Gradually getting louder?

"Oh, it's a really good thread, she is being unreasonable, no she's not, YES SHE IS!!!!!" and then slide across the floor on my knees triumphantly holding my iPad up?

I have given up with the football and joined in. At least I can Mumsnet continuously while it's on

However DH has given up on me expecting to know the rules but I can participate with a bit of 'why aren't they playing Rashford?' which seems to keep him happy.

Also I can wind him up by taking a great interest in the half-time comentary, especially anything Jermaine Jenas has to say

We went to visit my DM, he insisted on watching the football, up pops Jermain Jenas and my DM, who has never watched football in her life, is in like a shot "Oh, who is that?"

This is lovely. At least he cares to involve you. Maybe compromise and spend the first half watching and interacting then the second half reading or something.

If you think about it a football game is the same length of a standard film. I’m sure he’s sat through a film with you he really didn’t want to watch. Maybe you could do the same?

I’m crying because my partners a dick and won’t spend time with me, count your blessings OP.

Disclaimer: am very upset so might be seeing this through wistful glasses.

I just don't have an opinion on whether it's a lovely ball or not

I completely put the shitters up DH a couple of nights ago because he was shouting ‘offside!’ and then insisted that I watch the replay and agree with him.

I watched and said that no, it wasn’t offside because XYZ. The ref called it: onside. I went back to reading and DH was agog

Just because I hate watching and hearing about the game, doesn’t mean I don’t understand it!

Oh sally the visualization of your last post has really made me chuckle. I think more of us should do that!

Well I think YANU!!

My DH does the same, boils my piss.

If he's watching a programme on TV and I start talking to him he gets annoyed because he can't hear/follow what's happening.

But if I'm reading a book then oooh I'm fair game to be quizzed/regaled with stories etc etc.

Fuck off, works both ways mate!!

IMO talking to someone when they are reading a book is just as rude as talking to them when they are watching say a movie or TV programme - you wouldn't do that so why is it ok when it's a book?? It's not.

Ah What

It is a bit tongue in cheek really. It's our wedding anniversary tomorrow and he's going to the pub to watch the England match with his mates. I'm sure they'll be much more in to it that I could ever pretend to be