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AIBU to let my 15 year old son have his ear pierced?

110 replies

Flamingosandunicorns · 23/06/2018 14:12

He's desperate to get it done and I don't mind supporting Teenagers have a bit of control over their style (within reason).

But I just told my sister who thinks that it's horrific that I'm even considering it.

Would you let your 15 year old son have his ear pierced?

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I8toys · 23/06/2018 16:05

Only if he gets a Lewis Hamilton blingy diamond stud.

Sundance65 · 23/06/2018 16:05

100% yes - cannot even begin to understand why anyone would say no.

Vitalogy · 23/06/2018 16:05

This is it, it's his lughole.

GrimDamnFanjo · 23/06/2018 16:08

A professional piercer will need you present for permission as he is underage.
I don't see the problem tbh, apart from checking the school rules.

kirta · 23/06/2018 16:08

Yep. I'd echo having it done at start of holidays so school rules aren't an issue.

rosesandflowers1 · 23/06/2018 16:20

I'd let him.

Even if he doesn't want it later on, what's the problem?

And I don't know if he's the rebellious type, but I remember one of DD's friends asked to have her nose pierced and her mother said no. The rather rash friend had it done - but for £4 out of a truck, since she didn't have any source of funding! Grin Not to terrify you, but I think that some teens will always "find a way", and with smaller things like this it's best it's a way with no risks that you can supervise.

AnotherDayAnotherName745 · 23/06/2018 16:27

I don't like earrings on boys and men so I would try to discourage him but ultimately it's his ear and his choice.
Crikey, can you imagine the reaction if a man said on here that he didn't want his daughter to have something that's pretty common for boys, just because he didn't like it on girls!
Seems pretty sexist, and odd, to object because you don't find the look appealing Hmm

Original poster
Flamingosandunicorns · 23/06/2018 16:29

Very very good point about daughters! Our daughter had her ears done she 8!

Well he's going to have it done and is very excited! I don't mind at all, but my sister made me think I was doing something wrong!

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BertrandRussell · 23/06/2018 16:30

I don't like ear rings on men particularly either. I told my ds it was his choice, but he would have to pay for it himself. He went as soon as he was 16 (you have to be 16 to have a piercing without a parent present) and I admit I quite like it.

agentdaisy · 23/06/2018 16:37

I'd let him get it done but at the start of the summer holidays to give it time to heal.

My 9 year old ds is getting his done when school finishes as he's been asking a while and dd was allowed hers done at 9.

Its an ear piercing and his ears so if he wants it doing then I can't see the problem. No one would think twice if it were a girl wanting hers done.

notgivingin789 · 23/06/2018 16:52

Another I’m sorry, but boys with pierced ears isn’t a good look. The ones I’ve seen, make them look chavvy and rough.

LankinMcElf · 23/06/2018 16:54

My 30 year old nephew has had a tattoo (tasteful & discrete) but he dosnt feel able to tell his parents (my DB) how sad is that?
Your sisters opinion really isn’t important, what’s important is that you are supporting your DS

totorosfluffytummy · 23/06/2018 16:58

Yes 15 is more than old enough

BitchQueen90 · 23/06/2018 16:59

Of course! I had 3 earrings in each ear, a tragus piercing and my belly button pierced by 15 Confused

Elasticity · 23/06/2018 17:00

Good decision. His mates will be jealous

Lad lad lad!

SuperSuperSuper · 23/06/2018 17:02

When I was 15 back in the late 1980s loads of boys had pierced ears. I didn't think it was a thing now. Must be coming back into fashion!

I agree with the majority: his ears, his choice. I'd say the same if he were a girl or if it related to hair or clothes - at 15, they can decide how they want to look, school rules permitting.

Omzlas · 23/06/2018 17:09

If he knows it will hurt and if school are ok about it, then yes

I don't know many parents who would say no to a 15 yr old girl so why not. It might well be a passing phase and he may well leave it out in time.
Might also be worth having it done nearer the summer holidays so that he doesn't need to take it out for PE etc

lanbury · 23/06/2018 17:09

Glad you're supporting him. My mother said no to me when I was thirteen (all the girls were getting them as a "teenage" birthday present) so I went into town and got them done in difiance anyway! The boys at school used to pierce their own with a safety pin, so you don't want that!!

AnotherDayAnotherName745 · 23/06/2018 17:15

Another I’m sorry, but boys with pierced ears isn’t a good look. The ones I’ve seen, make them look chavvy and rough.
In your opinion, which isn't universal, do you see that Hmm? Parents can't continue to develop use exactly how their DCs should look as they grow up, they're not our possessions, to be dressed as we choose..

And if the OPs DS decides that later, he can stop wearing an earring - simple!

AnotherDayAnotherName745 · 23/06/2018 17:16

'develop use' should have been 'dictate'

FrangipaniBlue · 23/06/2018 17:19

My DS is 10 and has both done, had them done when he was 9.

If they're old enough to decide they want it done for themselves and understand the aftercare etc then let them I think.

Soon you wouldn't be able to stop him even if you didn't want him to as he'll no longer need parental consent once he's 16.

AttilaTheMusical · 23/06/2018 17:21

Sounds fine to me, and good for him that he has talked to you about it. Some teenagers wouldn't bother asking, and just get one of their mates to do it with some horrible instrument Shock

grannybiker · 23/06/2018 17:27

Better he does it with your blessing at a reputable outlet rather than you forbidding it so he or one of his mates performs a DIY job with god knows what as a tool!

SoftBallSophie · 23/06/2018 17:47

My daughter had hers done at 8 years old, so 15 is fine in my eyes.

I haven't seem a teenage boy with an earring in years, it's really not fashionable atm, so I would worry about him just 'following the crowd' he obviously really wants it.

xoguineas · 23/06/2018 17:51

Of course. Not sure why this is even a question to be honest Hmm