Moving so soon

[Stardustmemories]

Hi everyone,

I have a bit of a dilemma and I’m sure you guys will be able to give some good insight.

We (my partner and 2 boys) have just moved house about a month ago. Which was to a new area and meant a new school for my oldest.

A couple of days ago my partner was offered a job within in his company for quite a big pay rise, but it’s on one of the Scottish Islands. I would be a great opportunity for him career wise.

There isn’t really a question of him going. The job would be for a minimum of two years. It’s more a question of do we stay here or do we go with him?

If we hadn’t just moved it would be a no brainer and we’d go. But I just feel bad that we’ve recently uprooted my oldest and I’m not sure it’s fair to do it again.
On the other hand it’s not fair for them to not get to see their dad very much and might be quite fun to go live there for a while.

The boys are 6 and 2 (3 end of August)

So it’s not really an AIBU, more a WWYD. Hope that’s okay!

I’m not sure I would if it is likely to be a temporary move. At least I wouldn’t make the decision immediately.

Minimum two years is still a long time. Possibly longer than two years is even longer.

Your children are young enough to be resilient. Move with him for the sake of the whole family or turn the job down.

Do you own your home or are you renting? Are you likely to be able to come back to the same area and school? I do have a friend who moved their family much further than Scotland for 2 years and the kids were fine.

Basically, my arse is firmly planted on the fence! 😂

Depends on the island - if it’s a “big” one like Skye or Arran, yes.

Go... Your children will know for a short while an amazing life of freedom... They will remember this all their lives.

I'd go with your DH. Kids are only young and as their not at any crucial part of their education they'll be fine.

I would go. At that age your kids will be fine, and the difference in culture would be a lovely thing to do with your kids. If your sons are anything like mine all that sea and wildlife and beauty would be fantastic for them.

Which island is it?

I say go for it, the children are young. life is to short not to do everything You can.

It would depend on which island for me.

I would definitely go. Great opportunity for your boys and you'll all be together and they are young enough for it to be ok educationally. I have 4 friends whose husbands work abroad and make it home at most once a week, at the least once every few weeks (job MUCH further away). They are strong women, they make it work and never moan BUT imo all the kids have struggled without dad around.

We are already in Scotland, in the Borders if that makes a difference.
We own the house and would look at renting it while we are away.
It's Orkney.

I’d move up there as a family.

Move

I would be packing right now!!

I’d absolutely move. The kids are at an age where the lifestyle will be perfect for them :)

I’m a little envious ;)

Ah okay so you are in Scotland already, and Orkney is beautiful.
I would rent out your house, and move together.

They're so young, I would.

Agree that you should do this as they are so young. Enjoy! Its so much harder to move or make changes when they're older.

I’d go without a second thought. I’m debating a year secondment in Europe and I’ll take the whole family (human and canine but not other four leggeds) with me.

It’s an adventure.

Presumably ds1 is only P1 and almost done for this school year. I would definitely go. They are both young enough to adapt and it's a fabulous adventure at that age. I wouldn't spilt the family if it's possible not to

Do it! What an amazing opportunity for your boys.

Orkney? I’d have my bag packed already. It’s stunning up there.

100% Yes, great opportunity, your children will be fine.🌸

Go, it's an amazing opportunity