AIBU not to give a shit?

[ceilingdaisy]

AIBU not to give a shit about some of the topics that some people in here think are the end of the world? Organic food, vegans....schools...just get on with your life and deal with these things. People spend too long being 'fuming' about stuff that really doesn't matter. As long as your kids are fed, watered and loved. Who gives a shit about darling Hugo being made to cry at school and do I go and speak to the head...no, teach him resilience at home! I got asked by a Y% parent at school this week..When are you going to teach them about stranger danger as 'Tarquin' ran off and spoke to a stranger the other day.....FFS love, we are paid mainly to educate your child...some of this is down to parents..and yes of course school had taught about stranger danger before you yummy mummy's start...oh AIBU to hate that sodding saying too!!

If people could see what goes on behindthe scenes maybe they'd understand the issues a lot of teachers have with petty things. The child I bought a warm coat for so he could go on the residential. The child on the residential who had no money to spend miraculously 'finding' and envelope with money in it. The child I drove out of my way to collect and bring to school because they were safer at school than at home. These are things many school staff do without batting an eyelid. Only to be verbally abused by parents for little things like a list jumper (usually with no name..) yes of course I'll have a look for it, but please don't shout at me when I can't find it. That's all....

What the fuck has any of that to do with the poor crying kid you don’t give a shit about, @ceilingdaisy? The child that I was (see my post just before your last one).

As a former teacher I do kind of understand what you mean.

I think she means who gives a shit about the silly things

the thing about the crying child was one that was crying at home not being bullied at school..

maybe she doesn’t mean ‘the silly things’, @LovelyBath77 - but she specifically mentioned a crying child as one of those things - and I think that is just wrong.

You don’t really deserve to be in the teaching profession, you sound like an utter bitch, so yes YABU

ceilingdaisy Well then, tell us about the things you do that we don't see. Don't rant at us and make our concerns, feelings or whatever seem insignificant and that you don't give a shit about your charges or job - because you clearly do!

Grrr - I meant to day maybe she does mean ‘those silly things’ - I should proof read before hitting Post.

Meant to say...

Summer holidays are nearly here... not long now OP!

4 weeks op, drink wine till then

My comment about a crying child was more aimed towards a situation where a child may go home and cry because they perhaps didn't win at a game or get all their times tables right. Of course it's ok and natural said child is upset about these events and a parent will console them and explain that not winning a game sucks but in life thats going to happen etc however it is unreasonable for that parent to then take to social media and rant about how DC came home from school in floods of tears and they'll be up there tomorrow sorting it out. Obviously if it was an ongoing issue and the child was worried about coming to school thats a whole different ball game and would of course be dealt with accordingly. Perhaps I was too naive to presume people would take for granted that i was talking and the minor issues that get blown up and not ignoring genuine concerns.....

Oh fgs, ther are plenty of reasons as to why a child is crying.
It’s rarely the case that the child is being bullied.
But it’s likely that they didn’t get their way and need to learn that sometimes other children can and will say NO.
And tbh it’s ok.

There is a difference between other children been mean to one child (eg to a SN, diagnosed or not). And children just not wanting to spend time with a child on x day or play with them or whatever.
Not all children are angels but neither can you say that all children are awful bullies.

I don't know any child called Tarquin. Can you consider early retirement? You sound like you have a massive chip on your shoulder OP.

Xpost.

I think what you wanted to say was clear OP.
It’s just that some people like to take one bit of an OP, a sentence, sometimes just even a couple of words, take it out context and then have a right go.

Everybody gets fed up with people at their job occasionally. Rage on OP.

Personally I don’t think it’s enough for schools to feed, water and educate. I expect my kids to be safe in school and to feel the world opening up for them rather than feeling corralled into a certain role. And their primary school did that well for the most part.

But I could do without all the lessons in conformity. The demand I let them substitute their judgement for mine over how sick my child is. The religious indoctrination. The bans on certain foods. The focus on tests. The parent/child projects for homework. The patronising letters about what to do with them in the holidays.

When I was in primary school nearly 50 years ago we had lessons on crossing the road, brushing our teeth, stranger danger, what to eat, not wasting energy, how to say prayers before a meal, how to wash your hands and a bunch of other “life skills”. It’s hardly new.

Governments have long used schools to try and indoctrinate the populace and that’s bound to lead to expectations from parents (as well as annoyance!).

bad case of endofschoolyearitis there OP. Hols are coming, take a breath.

Perhaps I was too naive to presume people would take for granted that i was talking and the minor issues that get blown up and not ignoring genuine concerns.....

You said in your OP that you were referring to issues that “some people on here think are a big deal”. And I can’t recall a thread where something minor has had anything other than short shrift. People only support posters whose kids have come home in floods of tears over losing a race when there’s been more to it than that.

So unless you are really asking “AIBU for getting annoyed at the people most of the rest of you get annoyed at who post about trivial school things?” (Which, really wtf is the point in that?), then that’s a bit of a back track.

Really? People rant on SM that their child lost a game and then go into school to complain about it?

I’m not aware of that ever having happened in either my real
life experience or on MN.

I just don’t believe that anyone complains to the school because their child lost a game.

Tbf there have been a few threads of the sort the OP is talking about.

But I'm happy to report that the thread starter inevitably gets their arse handed to them on a plate.

You are frustrated but quite frankly you are coming across as bitter and nasty as I said maybe teaching and dealing with stuff isn't for you.

To be honest you sound like a pretty useless teacher. Maybe you should get another job. Road sweeping perhaps? Paving grabs have no pesky, inconvenient feelings .

Imagine if parents started a complaint letter about something trivial and were raging but then when questioned it turned out they had a different but wholly genuine and appropriate concern. That is what you have done here OP.