AIBU not to give a shit?

[ceilingdaisy]

AIBU not to give a shit about some of the topics that some people in here think are the end of the world? Organic food, vegans....schools...just get on with your life and deal with these things. People spend too long being 'fuming' about stuff that really doesn't matter. As long as your kids are fed, watered and loved. Who gives a shit about darling Hugo being made to cry at school and do I go and speak to the head...no, teach him resilience at home! I got asked by a Y% parent at school this week..When are you going to teach them about stranger danger as 'Tarquin' ran off and spoke to a stranger the other day.....FFS love, we are paid mainly to educate your child...some of this is down to parents..and yes of course school had taught about stranger danger before you yummy mummy's start...oh AIBU to hate that sodding saying too!!

Actually I agree with you OP. So much drama on MN about nothing, just everyday life.

I admit I do keep coming back though as there are some very entertaining, informative and interesting discussions. I am learning, very slowly, to click aware from non issue threads.

*away

People who think posh people call their kids 'Tarquin' make me cringe.
Also when people use that thing 'do I think xyz? NO'

Its also really odd to write so much, in such a passionate way, about something you 'don't care about'

I'd put on your favourite PJ'S and have a cup of tea. Sounds like a bad day.

Parent complaint?

Are you at work now OP?

Cake and wine OP, sounds like a tough day

Nearly the end of year Op, hang in there.

Zero fucks given on here 😂

I give a shit about lots of things. Children being educated and taught resilience, mindfulness and growth mindset. It just gets tedious when schools are expected to take on more and more of what has traditionally been the role of the parent. Crossing the road, using cutlery correctly, stranger danger to name just a few of the skills that some parents expect their children to learn in the school day. Don't get me wrong, I am all for supporting parents in their job to keep their children safe, but surely it's the job of the parent it do the bulk of that teaching? I think that's the point.

To be fair parents make me intolerant, not the children....

Well said daisy. I am completely with you on those points.
count the the days to the school hols and you be away from the fuckwit parents for a wee while.

I think that's the point.

I wouldn't be too sure. From here it looks like you don't have one.

FFS love, we are paid mainly to educate your child...some of this is down to parents.

If that is true, why are there a multitude of teachers who have threads started about them every day on here because they have been constantly obsessing over and warning parents about food, clothing, hair, acceptable stationary ownership, mobile phones, shoes etc. (Anybody remember the mum who's daughters teacher kept accusing her DD of wearing makeup just because the kid had naturally rosy colouring on her cheeks and lips or the teacher who was obsessed with stopping a girl touching her hair)

You might not give a shit but some in your profession clearly do.

Also, have you considered some of the shit you find importance in, parents couldn't give a shit about.

It constantly surprises me that posters pontificate on here about simple things they could get an answer to simply by asking. My sons' school used to put in its advert "table manners a speciality".

Whatever you're teaching OP, I hope it doesn't include the plural of mummy and where to put an apostrophe.

You do really seem to give a very big shit to be honest.

I agree people go out of their way to be offended, to want to be rude, to sweat the small stuff, but ehrm, it would appear you're one of those people.

I'm not sure what all your class and stereotypical implications are either, with the Hugo and Tarquins and yummy mummy shit is. But it seems you've a chip on your shoulder as well as giving a shit.

Not giving a shit is defined as not caring. You clearly do. Very much.

ceilingdaisy At our recent introduction evening to our son's new school, they reiterated pretty much what you have said - that our children's behaviour, manners and ability (using knives and forks correctly, ability to dress and toilet themselves) is wholly our responsibility as parents. They will of course enforce/encourage these things but that they start at home. I was stunned they even had to say this tbf.

You must remember that you teach 30 odd kids and see a plethora of things which may or may not be normal to you. I, for instance, have one child and have no experience of other children so have no clue what is/is not normal for a child of his age. Sometimes, we as parents do look to you for guidance and reassurance as a teacher and also from other parents.

It helps to take most of what is posted on here with a huge pinch of salt. It's a rare thread that isn't entirely made up or heavily embellished in some way, or a journo!

I get you OP. Many people seem to get worked up at the slightest thing, and don’t seem to be able to cope if their (often excessive) expectations are not met.

Man there are a lot of angry parents here

no, teach him resilience at home!

Bearing in mind that loads of kids with SN have an emotional age about two thirds of their actual age, this attitude about 'It's the parents' fault they are not resilient' from schools can be absolutely vile and used as excuse after excuse to excuse bullying or doing anything to protect vulnerable children.

really?

YANBU not to give a shit about some things.
YAB massively U if you think you can decide what people care about or not.

I hope you read the excellent post from cjt110.

I would add that some adults do not have a clue about using correct cutlery. It's not the school problem, but how do you expect these people to teach their own kids?

Who gives a shit about darling Hugo being made to cry at school and do I go and speak to the head...no, teach him resilience at home! I
bollocks to that, any decent parent WILL give a shit, you don't have kids, do you? You can't expect parents to teach resilience and to stand up to bullies but then have the kids punish the kids if they dare defend themselves. If a little shit bully makes my kid cry, I would absolutely go straight to the head and demand that they keep the little shit out of the way!

You sound unhealthily angry

ikeepaforkinmypurse I'm right handed but was taught how to use cutlery by my left handed mother so eat the "wrong" way round. As such, I've taught my seemingly right handed son how to eat left handed. I am a heathen.

@ceilingdaisy - I WAS the kid who went home from senior school in tears - because I was being bullied AT school. Sadly, not only did my teachers not give a shit about it - either they didn’t give enough of a shit to notice, or they did notice and didn’t give a shit about helping me, but my mum thought I should be ‘developing resilience’, and told me ‘sticks and stones would hurt my bones, but calling names couldn’t hurt me’.

As a result, my five years at that school were a misery of bullying and exclusion, and I felt utterly alone, dealing with it. I didn’t develop resilience - I developed clinical depression. I was having suicidal thoughts by my mid teens, and I am still suffering today.

Sometimes a child needs HELP - not a teacher who doesn’t give a shit and thinks they should just become more resilient.