To be upset about manager's email

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I've been doing some training over a few months, a day a month. Two of these days have clashed with a meeting I have been expected to attend, which I haven't due to the training. I got an email this evening from my manager saying he wants to talk to me about the missed meetings, saying it's disappointing I've not been there.

I'm now lying in bed unable to sleep due to feeling upset. It's not my fault I've not been at the meetings, I've been training. I'm stressed at work anyway and 13 weeks pregnant and now I'm worrying about trying to explain myself tomorrow. It's not even my fault.

AIBU to expect my manager to just talk to me about it tomorrow and not stress me out at home with an email so I have time to worry about it all night?

And any tips for sleeping when you feel upset and your heart is racing?

Not sending emails to you out of working hours or when you are not in the office seems a reasonable one for you.
Err I’m sorry but I don’t understand that.
I wouldn’t expect someone to be checking their emails out of hours.
Which means that, if the person is out of office, this is probably the least intrusive way to send a message. I think that’s a perfectly normal thing to do.
He didn’t ring or text her and disturb the OP. Which wouod have been unreasonable.

I stress over things like this too but it's because I work in a hostile climate. Sometimes the anxiety becomes unbearable and then nothing happens. It's so stressful. Is there a back story OP?

Do they know you’re pregnant? Could they be trying to push you out?

massively what I meant was, the manager just sent the email, so I'm suggesting the OP should get in there quick and respond to it, while this is a current situation.

If she leaves it and doesn't respond to the email, these things have a habit of festering. Better to bat it back to the manager while it's fresh in everyone's mind and regain the control.