Argument with friend?

[LuxeLisbon]

She messaged me to ask to borrow money.

There have been 2 instances in the past where I’ve paid for her in good faith (train ticket, concert) that she then decided that she couldn’t go and never paid me back.

I said no because of these instances and she went mad at me. Now said she can’t afford the holiday we planned to go on (nothing booked yet.)

She's not a friend. She didn't borrow money - she never intended to pay it back. Thieving cunt.

She probably is one of the only ones who’s single and can afford it.

Oh well no holiday for me this year.

Have you posted about her before? The concert and train ticket borrowing rings a bell.

Tell her to fuck off.

It doesn't need to be someone single to go on holiday with! I'm not single and I still go away with my best friend every year.

Go on holiday on your own, it's great! No compromising or anyone else's timetables to deal with!
I've done it loads of times and always ended up meeting folk, I've also been on holiday with people I met on previous trips - try it, you might be surprised

What's your holiday budget, OP?

Obviously there's not much fun in going away and sitting on a beach on your own all day (though some would love that!) but there are fantastic singles holidays where you do activities etc.

Look up SPICE
Make new friends and go on holiday

Get rid of CF friends

Fuck her. Go on your own.

If the situation arises again to go on holiday with her (if you make up and she has the funds etc) DONT DO IT

Seriously. I did with a cf friend. We went Saturday to Saturday and she "ran out of money" on the Tuesday.

I spent a fortune and when we got home she slagged me off to mutual friends about how I didn't want to book all these activities (well obviously, since I knew id be paying double each time)

You were never friends I'm afraid she has been using you! It ducks to find out but probably best you have now before you throw more time and money away.

If you'd have gone away together she'd have sponged off you all week.

It's probably not personal she's probably a CF to everyone and hates being called out on it. YADNBU.

You say you have been friends for 10 years, has it been an 'equal' friendship? Or has she had the upper hand all these year? As you get older you realise a lot of 'friends ' keep you down to feel better. You don't need these toxic types in your life . A true friend doesn't take advantage of your good nature or make you feel guilty for not financing their lives.
Age is a cf tell her to do one

*Age =she

What a rotten friend. Seriously! You do know she'll be asking to borrow the last payment for the holiday even if you book. And more. You don't need friends like that. All those bitchy texts too. You haven't done anything wrong. It can't be very relaxing going away with someone like that.

Consider it a lucky escape OP. You would only end up paying it for her, either before or when out there.

Go on your own, bring some good books and movies downloaded to iPad and just suit yourself every day. Be brave, it will be lovely!

And she is not nice, you don’t need her.

Leave her to it

Holiday is mentioned so you'd react no doubt

She’s a leech,tell her to fuck off then block her.Experienced this also.

I’ve been travelling on my own before. It’s really not for me anymore.

So chuffing what if she can't go on the holiday, plenty of people can't afford to get away this year, you owe her nothing.

I've just spent a week away learning a new skill (sailing) on my own. I met lovely people in my group. Would you think of doing something like that?

Friend is a CF.

Why not do something where you join a group doing something? So, volunteering or walking, cycling, crafting, swimming or yoga etc

We can help find different holiday alternatives