not to stalk this woman?

[Serendipite]

My guy bestfriend is asking me to stalk a woman he's interested in. I told him why not talk to her and ask her out.

I think he got pissed but isn't stalking too immature?

We're in our late 30s.

Mxyzptik

I know this guy personally. We used to live in the same country until I moved.

My other friends said this guy is just asking me to google the woman because that’s his way of telling me he’s interested in another woman.

There’s nothing going on between the two of us now, but ten years ago, we had a bit of romance but we never got together.

I never thought of the possibility that he’s been blocked until I read the thread.

He’s a creep.

How weird that he can't do it himself, and how weird to ask you...

Are you single? Could it be a way of trying to make you jealous?

I’m not single. He’s going through a divorce.

To be honest, I struggle to think that he was blocked for being a creep but maybe friends have rose colored glasses on when looking at friends.

Yes there might be a tiny possibility he’s trying to make me jealous as we had a thing many years ago. But we were never together.

Perhaps he thinks now he is single he has a chance to get in there with you?

Well he knows I’m not single.

A person who asks someone to cyber stalk on their behalf doesn’t respect boundaries such as being single or not single, I don’t think.

You asked "AIBU not to stalk this woman?"

No YANBU.

That's creepy as fuck.
I check guys out beforehand. A quick look to ensure that they aren't criminals or that anything negative isn't associated with them. I don't use this info to then try and get a date from them. I chat to them and get to know them as a person.

I also suggest to guys they do the same. Again, just as a quick background check to make sure nothing comes up.

If someone asked me to do this for them, I don't care who they are, they would be told to jog on. There is no reason why they couldn't do this themselves, even if shy or whatever. Unless they couldn't because they have been blocked, injunctions etc.

And as for making you jealous, what planet does that thinking come from? Oh I want to make Serendipite jealous, I know what I will ask her to stalk someone online. Yea cos that's just as creepy as fuck.

Old enough to date. Mature enough to go about it responsibility.

If he has an internet connection he can do it himself!