not to stalk this woman?

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My guy bestfriend is asking me to stalk a woman he's interested in. I told him why not talk to her and ask her out.

I think he got pissed but isn't stalking too immature?

We're in our late 30s.

She's blocked him. He doesn't have the access a randomer (you) has. As you now know that she definitely doesn't want him to track her, don't do it.

There is something creepy going on here.

I’d be reconsidering the “best guy friend” designation tbh.

He’s asked you to do something weird and inappropriate.

What has him being shy got to do with it.
You don't have to be outgoing to Google someone. .

Terry I normally respect everything you say but you have gone off on a tangent on this one.
OP if he hasn't got the bollox to ask her out that's a good thing. For her. And you are being ridiculous.

And you are being ridiculous.

How so?

I'm sick and tired of all the false equivalency. 'If a women did this...' My point is that if a woman did this, likely it would be for a very different reason. The same reason we make sure a friend knows where we are and a friend makes a call to us.

But yes, I was being overly dramatic.

OP because you are not his fucking mother presumably

Sorry pressed post too soon..
Is he 5 and in nursery? The whole thing is creepy and bizarre. Do you clean his bottom as well?

I’d be suspicious as to why he’s asked you rather than press a few buttons on a keyboard himself. As a PP said, it could be because she has already blocked him on social media. If that’s the case, she would have had reasons for doing so.

This is a woman googling a woman on behalf of a man. wtf

OP because you are not his fucking mother presumably

What made you say this? Still does not explain why am I being ridiculous?

This is a woman googling a woman on behalf of a man. wtf

No. This is a woman being asked to google a woman on behalf of a man.

I don't see why Mrs. Terry's comment was so rounded jeered. I thought fear of meeting a dangerous man was one of the reasons women are recommended to google a strange man who has asked them out.

Wake up! Men are abused by women on a regular basis but there is almost no support for them because people refuse to believe that a man can't always defend himself against a woman. But spousal / domestic abuse is not limited to physical violence.

That being said, a woman can wield a weapon just as well as a man.

It is a terrible idea and a crime

Terrible idea yes, crime no.

I would be extremely wary of getting involved in this in any way.

There must be a reason that this man cannot "internet stalk" this woman personally

• either he is blocked by her on social media for previous creepy behaviour
• or there is a legal reason - such as a restraining order - that means he wants to leave no trace of having viewed her pages

Years ago I was a on an expat site where this guy popped up periodically under different names trying to get people to help him find the "love of his life" - however the reality was a nasty DV case where his ex had a restraining order and was living at a protected address. But he still hoped to convince some gullible person to internet stalk her before he was blocked.

Your story stinks. Why can't your mate do this little investigation himself? I am sure he has internet connection, google and all the rest.
Are you asking for yourself? Because posts that start with a friend of a friend wants to know are very transparent.

I'd see that as he doesn't want anything showing up on his search history.

Has he given you a reason for asking you to do this, instead of doing it himself?

At best, he doesn't want the chance of her seeing he's checked on her.
At worst, as pp said, she's already blocked him and wants to be left alone.

Just Say No.

All this "in a different country" stuff - is this guy someone you have never met in real life?
All the more reason to say No.

If a woman Googles a man before meeting him to reassure herself he is unlikely to rape her, this is very different than if a man Googles a woman to "fact find" and gain ammunition to make her more likely to go out with him.

And, yes, I stand by this statement if gender is reversed.