Knowing ex's partners address?

[amilosingitor]

Name changed because he's a nosey fucker amongst other things. Happy to be told I'm wrong here.

Without going into the worlds longest story, if you had children with your ex partner, Ex has been with their new partner approx. 3 years and plans to spend at least 2 of his 7 contact nights staying at her house (as well as the children being there at other times also) is it completely unreasonable for me to want to know her address?

Its not unreasonable to want to know it ….. you would be unreasonable to demand to know it ….. your Ex is either responsible or he isn't. He has PR presumably. Do you tell him when you're off to Great Aunt Mary for a long weekend and give him her address in Greater Glossop? To you tell him every time the children have school sleep overs? My guess is no you don't.

Occasional nights aren't a problem....don't expect to know their whereabouts at all times....however if his plan is live x days at one address and y days at another on a weekly basis - surely that's different?

Your dc is with the father.

You’re able to contact the dc/dc father by phone/text/email.

I am pretty sure you have a legal right to know where the children are staying.

People will call you unreasonable but I wouldn’t be happy not knowing.
My ex has always known my DP’s address as we stay there a lot, I think it’s just common courtesy.

Totally ok to demand to know. Supported by court of this

LadyRussell
I am pretty sure you have a legal right to know where the children are staying.

Bizarrely not in the general scheme of things. I know, it's weird.

Nope when I went to mediation I was told I had a abousloutr right to know where ex lived and if anything happened the police would actually question why I didn’t

If you have PR you have the right to know we’re your child is even parents whose children live in foster care have the right know foster carers address

No address no contact I am afraid and no court would blame you op

Exactly @Flowerpotbicycle I'm not being an unreasonable bitch as far as I'm concerned, I'm certainly not a "wrap the kids in cotton wool" type mum but I think it's perfectly sensible to be aware of where you're children stay on a regular basis....he's been with her 3 years....should it really still be a secret? he knows full well he'd want to know if roles were reversed but it's always his way or no way. I'm actually embarrassed at having to deal with a pair of adults so childish as to refuse to tell me her address!

I am pretty sure you have a legal right to know where the children are staying.

^^ this is why you shouldn't get legal advice from a chat forum.

LadyRussell
I am pretty sure you have a legal right to know where the children are staying.

You do

My ex tried this shit and unless their is a reason eg domestic abuse you would be made to revel it

If you have PR you have the right to know we’re your child is even parents whose children live in foster care have the right know foster carers address

^^ again - this is why you shouldn't believe anything you read on a chat forum. Its opinion, not fact.

@NewYearNewMe18 it's a good job I wasn't asking for legal advice then. Merely opinions as ex thinks I'm utterly ridiculous for wanting to know. We've just been through a lengthy court battle and with everything going on I stupidly didn't make this request in court but by the same token, didn't think for one minute he'd be so childish about it

How old are the children? Are they not able to tell you?

If not, do they take a mobile with them for emergencies? I’d be tempted to add a “Find My Friends” type app and check to see where they were

www.terry.co.uk/forum/read.php?2,19250

If there is domestic abuse you have no right (perpetrator) if you have PR you do.

I work in CP.

*Sorry PR and no DA.

I get why you want to know. And I am sure you're a normal reasonable woman.

However maybe hour ex has painted you ad a but of a phsyco and so partner does not want you to have the address?

Tbh I wish dps ex didn't know where we lived because she is A psycho but she has to pick up and drop off her son so it's not really possible!

Children are 7& 9, I have a rough idea where she lives and I'm certain if I drove them there they could tell me but it all just seems so juvenile. Just tell me her bloody address, I'm not going to come and look through your windows because believe it or not I don't give a toss! I just think it's sensible to know. What if there's an emergency? There's plenty of reasons why it's sensible and I just think the pair of them are behaving like children

I am pretty sure you have a legal right to know where the children are staying.

That’s what my solicitor told me when I refused to give my ex my address. She said he had a right to know where his child was staying.

You can refuse to let the children stay if you don’t know the address.

You can refuse and it’s completely valid why should you ask the kids if he won’t give you all his contact details
Then stop contact and let him tell the judge why he won’t let anyone know where he lives

I know in my divorce my solicitor had to apply to keep my address confidential due to dv. So although not actually child contact sure it must transfer through

I wouldn't give my address to my partners ex. When we move in together I suppose she will have to know whereher son lives 50% of the time. And it won't be so bad as my partner will be there most nights. I wouldn't want her to have it now as I live just with my toddler and don't trust her not to try and cause trouble for us. She hates me and hates that her son gets along with my son and I for no reason other than I'm with her ex (no affair or anything, she's just like that).

Ifnot, do they take a mobile with them for emergencies? I’d be tempted to add a “Find My Friends” type app and check to see where they were

How intrusive! I have a terror that my oh ex wife does this with their dc phone, the woman literally is unhinged, no way do I want her to know where I live!

you don’t have a right to demand her address. You can ask, but you have no right to demand anything