Knowing ex's partners address?

[amilosingitor]

Name changed because he's a nosey fucker amongst other things. Happy to be told I'm wrong here.

Without going into the worlds longest story, if you had children with your ex partner, Ex has been with their new partner approx. 3 years and plans to spend at least 2 of his 7 contact nights staying at her house (as well as the children being there at other times also) is it completely unreasonable for me to want to know her address?

Hissy

Yes she dose

Starlight345

I know in my divorce my solicitor had to apply to keep my address confidential due to dv. So although not actually child contact sure it must transfer through

Exactly meaning in all other circumstances you have to fess up when their are kids

The only people saying you don’t are people who have not actually been to mediation or court

Ex-W has had our address precisely once in the last 10 years (we've moved a few times) and funnily enough a few weeks after we found out a family member had given it to her against our wishes we started getting all sorts of ridiculous junk mail, and endless comments about our house, the street, how much it cost etc. She refuses to do PU or DO and OH is always contactable by email or phone so there is actually no need for her to have it at all. Funnily enough when we take DSC away she's not remotely interested in the name of the hotel, or the address of whoever were staying with, so we know full well the only reason she wants ours is because she thinks it's her right to have it / use it for negative reasons.

The judge told DPS ex that she had no right to know our address, but it wasn't a straightforward case, and there were other issues with her and her family. She's also not to know the address of the holiday location we go to yearly. She is the RP. Should there be an emergency, we're to call her, and meet at a prearranged location.

So it depends. Yanbu in wanting information for emergencies, but I wouldn't try demanding it.

please don't take the advise of posters saying you can refuse contact if you don't know the address

you can refuse contact for any reason really, but a judge wouldn't look kindly on it that's for sure...

I would need to know that information and it's not unreasonable to want it. If you were the one spending half the week at a new partners home he would need to know also. The children have links with both of you and you both need that information to be known to each other.

I'd just find out from your DCs, but not let ExP know you know.

This has 2 potential benefits:
1 - you are more reassured
2 - at some point in the future, it will become apparent you know, but they'll see that you're not interested in using the information to make life difficult for them