About queue skippers

[Shockaholic]

So full disclosure, I am hot headed at the best of times and hate bad manners,and I'm also pregnant at the moment and extra hormonal,so I may be over reacting!

School pickup,children in reception so collected from the classroom. Parents all queue up against wall then teacher calls kids names one by one so not a mass exit. There's one "lovely" mother who regularly - 3 times a week maybe - strolls past the 6/7/8 people ahead of her to stand right in front of the door. Annoys me every time I see it but have never said anything. Today she did it again. So I moved back in front of her and said, quite calmly not aggressively or loudly "you know there is a queue". Then stood there with back to her (so facing the door) and didn't engage further. She started saying something about "but there was a space there" I didn't turn around as I didn't see the point in discussing it further. It wasn't a one off "oh I'm in a rush today" or a mistake in not realising there was a queue,she is doing it regularly since September. But now I feel embarrassed and that I should have just left it go. Over analysing as usual and I'll cringe about it now for days.

So how unreasonable was I? (Sorry boring I know!!)

Bluntness

Where was the OP rude - I really dont get that.

I am convinced it is you, I honestly am. What on earth are you defending?!

Why make it personal? Because I have a different opinion to you or others you think you can bully me?

No i am not making it persona I just feel you didnt answer my questions.

If you see a group of people waiting (you arrive and there is already a queue) - why would you walk to the front?

And I don’t think the OP was rude.

Nothing personal at all - i just dont understand how you can justify this. First week of term, ok maybe. Nearly a year later -

Umm I have to admit I did this (dc started midway through a term so I didn't know the protocol) the first time I picked dc up. There were a load of parents milling around chatting, didn't look like a queue. The teacher gently called me out on it and said oh I think Mrs X was next. I felt embarrassed but it was hopefully obviously unintentional to the other parents and I never did it again.

I think I probably would have been a bit less confrontational and just said, I'm not sure you realise but we all queue to pick up our DC, in case she's just a bit oblivious to what's going on.

Obviously if she pushed in after being told she's a cf and a more confrontational tone would be appropriate.

Yanbu Op.
Well done fore calling her out on it. She sounds like a total cf. Queue jumping twats like this need to be challenged each and every time.

Maybe the parent is just refusing to engage with a silly system. Kids come out, look for parent, return to teacher if parent not there, simple. If there is a corridor they can go out to playground, I wouldn't allow parents in corridor at all.

Also cfs that think a friend/relative can save a place in the queue. Fuck off to the back or ask if people mind

Kids come out, look for parent, return to teacher if parent not there, simple.

because that wouldn't be a complete mess, would it! There's always one parent that knows better.

because that wouldn't be a complete mess, would it! There's always one parent that knows better.
Worked fine at my child's school. Four reception classes and a R/1 class. Some parents waited outside the classroom, some outside one of the gates, some kids went to bus lines, a few walked home with older siblings.

Well I rather admire queue jumpers. It’s such a bore, queuing, and if I can get away with it I do it.

Iceweasel
My kids have been to different schools, teachers have used different ways to give them back to their parents.There's always one parent who is not happy about the system!

@tinkobell: exactly what I was thinking. With the op’s opening I thought ‘gobby cow kicks off and wants approval’ Wow was I wrong!

Absolutely right response op, YANBU!

My kids have been to different schools, teachers have used different ways to give them back to their parents.There'says one parent who is not happy about the system!
That's what I liked about my child's school, there was a choice. Parents could wait outside the classroom if they chose, but they didn't have to. There was a list of which kids were to go to which gate or bus at the start of reception. They went with year 5 and 6 helpers initially but quickly learnt where to go and it worked very well. This was a school of 700 kids.

Sorry I haven't read the full thread OP but what I really want to know is, did she jump the queue again today?!

Queue jumpers give me irrational feelings of anger and we have a few people who skip the queue at my DDs school as well (although even worse are the fuckers that run to the newly opened till even though YOU were the next one in the queue )