To be upset about this?

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So basically I sent a message to a friend about a dispute I was having with someone else, I kept it short and just asked her in the end who was BU? It was just a small thing and I wanted a third opinion. I sent this message Sunday, she didn't reply but read the message.

Then yesterday Tuesday, I sent a message saying it's ok if you don't want to get involved, just let me know. Expecting she would say something if that was the problem. No reply, but she read it.

Today is Wednesday, and I'm like WTF? I've given her every benefit of doubt, what can I do?

I want to add, before I sent the message about the dispute, we were chatting normally, but as soon as I sent that message, she just started ignoring me.

What do you think ?

It’s normally to ask a mutual friend not involved in an argument for their opinion when both parties are friends.

I agree though! It is completely normal to talk to your mates. She's being a bit shitty IMO.

That should say it is not normal ...

Is she shagging your dh behind your back so can’t enter into a bitch fest about him with you?
Or maybe she is just busy, has some of her own shit to deal with and will get back to you when she can.

I have a friend who sends some stuff about her relationship, and it's like I'm taking part in a quiz to which there are definite right answers, and I WILL be penalized for getting it wrong.

So I don't reply when she has clealy messaged me in the heat of the moment (I try to leave it unread).

I get away with replying hours or days later with a "sorry, sounds like it sucks" and changing the subject.

Since when did an argument between friends become “someone must be shagging your Dh behind your back”.

I was gonna reply but Sodding covered it for me!

Look, it’s been three days. You’ve messaged her THREE times. Just leave it now. Let her get back to you when she’s able to. I suspect she’ll get back to you eventually with a ‘sorry I was busy hope you got it sorted, hows things?’ or something casual, so stop worrying.

You’ve made it weird now with the pushiness so I don’t think you can be the one to now change your tune and message all fake casual. Leave the poor woman alone! Do you honestly never go longer than a few days without messaging your friends?

Maybe she's heard this argument a 1000 times and is fed up listening to it if it's the same old thing. Personally, I don't take my marital arguments outside of our four walls! My friends don't need to know my business....but then I'm not 15

Ok, she's now read my last message I sent to her couple hours ago, but no reply. I've even apologised FFS.

Anyway, I'm just gonna leave it for now, see if she gets back to me.

I ignore one of my friends over this sometimes- its because shes in an emotionally abusive relationship, knows it, and does fuck all but moan about it.

You sent a half arsed apology OP. Now let her be, if she chooses to respond, fine. If not, that’s her choice.

Maybe she’s going through something rough at the moment? Or has been poorly, or is tired?

@SoddingUnicorns yeah I guess so, I'm just gonna let her take the lead tbh.

Ok, she's now read my last message I sent to her couple hours ago, but no reply. I've even apologised FFS.

So...you ask her opinion on your marital arguments, chase her when she doesn't reply, get annoyed when she still doesn't reply about something she clearly doesn't want to comment on, send a 'sorry IF' apology, then get fucked off when she doesn't reply within TWO HOURS?

This is why someone called you pushy. Pushy, dramatic and ridiculously unreasonable. I bet she is seriously fucked off by now.

Has she lost her phone?

She's probably thrown it under a bus by now....

You could post your dilemma on here. You won’t find the Mumsnet jury shy.

That's really weird OP, why would you do that?

I would actually like her opinion tbh if you're usually demanding or its a one off.

Maybe post your dilemma on here and you might get your answer.

I'm guessing she thinks you're in the wrong and doesn't really want to get into it with you!

Are you always asking her for advice re DH?

Any updates yet ?

@daffodillament nope, thought she'd get in touch once she finished work, but no. I'm just waiting for her to contact me. If she does, great. If she doesn't, that's ok too. Night