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AIBU?

to hate unisex toilets?

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SprinklesOnSeat · 19/06/2018 10:24

NC for this as a bit embarrassing :(

I drive my sister to hospital every month or so for an eye treatment. Hospital has unisex toilets, and although they're clean, there's so often splashes on the seats, or seats are put up. When they're up, the cover is over the sides so there's a lot of handling involved to get them down again, and often they're wet anyway Hmm

Yesterday the toilet I used had the seat up, and the rim of the bowl was wet. So I decided to hover. I don't know how I managed to do it, must have been bending too far forward, but I got my knickers drenched, and a huge puddle on the floor Blush

I was dancing around, balancing on one leg, trying to get my jeans off without getting them wet as well, tiny room, bouncing off the walls. Knickers were saturated and had to be stuffed into sanitary bin. Pee all over my hands. When I came out of the loo my sister was waiting for me, she became hysterical as well when I told her what happened Grin and pointed out a big wet stain at the bottom of my t-shirt that I hadn't even noticed Blush

AIBU to wish that organisations would just fuck off with their fucking unisex toilets, and let men have banks of urinals where they can piss as they want, up the walls if they feel like it?

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Shoxfordian · 19/06/2018 10:58

Why didn't you just wipe it down and sit on the seat for a wee? How precious are you. It's not going to kill you.

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RatRolyPoly · 19/06/2018 10:58

I assume it's for the same reason that tom cat piss reeks so much more than lady cat piss.

A cursory Google tells me there is little marked difference in human wee.

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velourvoyageur · 19/06/2018 10:59

When I do toilet checks at work the women's loos are just as gross as the men's in terms of not having been flushed, hair/pee on the seat etc, oh except men don't tend to leave smears of blood anywhere. There are inconsiderate people of both sexes. Women are not dainty pure creatures, we create mess like men do.
Ridiculous flappery (and I'm sure the attendant dealing with your cubicle will have found it just as hilarious as you). Why would you hover, was this not flagged as a biologically unrecommended move during toilet training?

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BarbaraofSevillle · 19/06/2018 11:00

While 77 per cent of males clean the toilet seat before sitting, just 59 per cent of women do - and when it comes to cleaning it afterwards, 52 per cent of men take the time compared to just 42 per cent of women. More men than women also admitted to avoiding touching things in the bathroom they knew others had

That doesn't necessarily mean that men are cleaner in the toilets than women.

It could also mean that men know that other men piss on the seat more than women do, assuming we aren't talking about mixed sex facilities here.

Also that because fewer women piss on the seat, fewer women need to wipe up afterwards.

I travel around for work a lot and need to go to the toilet a lot, and on some occasions have no choice other than to use garage toilets, which are used by a lot of lorry drivers, which are predominantly men.

It is a rare and pleasant surprise to not find the seat up and disgusting mess and smell. Also the same at some of the industrial sites I visit where the nearest toilet is one that is used predominantly by men.

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BottleOfJameson · 19/06/2018 11:01

Women are just as bad in my experience peeing all over the seat and leaving dirty sanitary pads around (even when there's a bin).

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siwel123 · 19/06/2018 11:03

I agree @velourvoyageur.
Both sexes aren't perfect and each group can have disgusting toilet habits Grin.

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RatRolyPoly · 19/06/2018 11:03

The worst people for getting wee everywhere are toddlers. Separate toilets for kids?

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NewGrandad · 19/06/2018 11:07

What's wrong with the seat being up? If it's up then it won't have been peed on.

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Hefzi · 19/06/2018 11:32

I am a disabled toilet user - ours only come in unisex, but I've never felt the need to stage a dirty protest like OP Grin

Seriously - sometimes people pee on the seat. Sometimes the flush splashes the seat. Sometimes people leave the seat up. Luckily, I have one functioning hand so I am able to wipe the seat or put it down. As you weren't using the disabled toilet, I assume you have a similarly functioning hand - next time, give it a go instead of weeing all over the cubicle and yourself Grin

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ElMarineroBaila · 19/06/2018 11:38

There are so many times I've witnessed women's toilets being left in a frankly disgusting state, and you caused more mess than the "bloke" before you!

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bigKiteFlying · 19/06/2018 11:43

I was in ladies in supermarket dealing with toddler sitting them on loo when we suddenly had to content with an entire river of wee running through cubicle curtesy of old lady next door – that's my worse ever toilet experience.

I'm not sold on unisex toilets and have seen good arguments against them- but with young children of both sexes they'd have been useful and single loo unisex I’ve encountered haven’t noticed a huge issue.

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T1M2N3T4 · 19/06/2018 11:47

If the toilet seat is up take a few squares of loo paper and use it to hold the seat to put down and give a wipe of the seat.

It is the hoverers that make the mess in the ladies. I sit on the loo and have never managed to piss all over the floor or myself.

Though yanbu - unisex toilets are the devils work especially the one I went to in Scarborough that had no sanitary bin and there was used products on the floor.

Upside - men have to queue too

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T1M2N3T4 · 19/06/2018 11:49

Shock bigkite - that sounds horrific. Hope you didn't get covered.

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Takfujuimoto · 19/06/2018 11:56

I must be lucky, the only time I can remember finding a female toilet left in a state was in Secondary school, I have never seen used sanitary protection left out. Envy Have people really seen this in public toilets?

I can tell a difference when my DS or DD uses the toilet and Male toilets in public have a different odour to me.
I must have a sensitive nose, I quite often get a whiff of something when out and about and DH sometimes looks at me like wtf? Confused

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TheViceOfReason · 19/06/2018 12:05

One of my summer jobs years ago involved cleaning the toilets (male and female) at a national trust property.

The womens was by far the more disgusting.

Yeah, ok, piss on the floor in the mens - easy solved with a mop.

The womens?

Used sanitary products strewn around (despite bins in every cubicle which were regularly emptied).

Piss all over the seats (so not just a mop job).

Massive unflushed turds - which following visitors also didn't flush.

Blood and faeces wiped on the cubicle walls - obviously off of a finger by the shape.

Just revolting.

If there was ever a cubicle out of order i would lock it and put a clear sign on the outside saying "out of order" - it would be forced open and the next morning i'd find it absolutely FULL to the brim with shit, piss and toilet paper. Literally emerging above the level of the seat.

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bigKiteFlying · 19/06/2018 12:08

bigkite - that sounds horrific. Hope you didn't get covered

I was luckily wearing boots which helped a bit - but trying to toddler wrangle at same time meant I did get splashed.

I dropped dry toddler with DH and other children and went and bought some more leggings and changed lucky supermarket had large clothes department and whole bank of empty self service tills I could race through.

I was just shocked - one she was so well dressed and behaved like that and two sheer bloody quantity. I said nothing to her.

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AngelsSins · 19/06/2018 12:20

It boggles my mind that so many women are quick to jump to men’s defence on this forum, god forbid we say anything bad about men ever, but fine to call women dirty cunts apparently. I NEVER see this behaviour on male forums, other men rushing to defend women for every perceived slight. Hmm

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velourvoyageur · 19/06/2018 12:25

That's certainly a spin you could put on this thread if you also wish to denigrate the female posters here Hmm following your logic

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SprinklesOnSeat · 19/06/2018 12:25

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RatRolyPoly · 19/06/2018 12:33

It boggles my mind that so many women are quick to jump to men’s defence on this forum, god forbid we say anything bad about men ever, but fine to call women dirty cunts apparently.

It does women no favours to paint us as the only ones able to keep things clean.

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siwel123 · 19/06/2018 12:38

Well I hoped you cleared your mess up

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FreudianSlurp · 19/06/2018 12:39

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DN4GeekinDerby · 19/06/2018 12:47

Hefzi I was thinking the same, I've never had such an issue with disabled toilets. Maybe we're just cleaner? Grin

Also, I live with two men (and a teen boy) and I've never noticed any particular man-piss smell in our toilet.

I get why others might hate unisex toilets for a whole range of reasons, but I think everyone can be gross. Sometimes we gotta do what we gotta do and I think cleaning up a few drops would have been less of a faff and less disgusting than this hover-disaster.

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busyboysmum · 19/06/2018 12:50

When we go caravanning my husband always complains about how disgusting the men's toilets are. The ladies are always fine and smell of perfume and hairspray. He says the mens stink to high heaven - especially on a Sunday morning when they've all been on the beer the night before.

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SerenDippitty · 19/06/2018 13:01

Never had a problem with the unisex "loo for all in my workplace. I have had to flush away turds and bloodstained loo paper and clean off blood drops in the ladies.

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