Do You Fancy Your Partner

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I was married for 25 years.

I have been with my current partner for about 3 years & we have been living together for about 8 months.

I’ve been feeling a bit blurgh about us for a few weeks & over the weekend I realised I just don’t fancy him .
We get on well and as with all couples he annoys me as I’m sure I annoy him .

I just don’t know if I should look at him & think I want to rip your clothes off IYSWIM?

I’m mid 40s & wondering if this is it ?

Opps

With a look he does. And sex is spontaneous at the moment! I'm not complaining!!!!

Yes. Together 8 years, two small children, and still think he’s gorgeous.

No, but that is due to his defective personality not his looks.

I have been with DH 17 years, married 8 have 2 kids 2 and 4 still fancy him and want to sleep with him am almost 40.

I personally could not sleep with someone i didnt fancy so if I was you if be moving on as you sound like you are just friends?

10 years. Most times, yes, I think he's handsome as hell and I fancy the pants off him, BUT I do go through periods where I just don't. They're never more than a few weeks, and I still love him, but something's off. It always has an explanation and always goes away.

Been married 24 years and still really fancy my DH. He is a very attractive man.

There's no huge desire in me to rip anyone's clothes off at the moment as I'm in a perimenopausal, hormonal state, but after 30 years, yes I do still fancy DH.
More importantly though, I love him.

No, it makes me sad and I have no idea what to do about it. It’s nothing to do with his looks, it’s as though our entire chemistry is off these days.

I try to avoid sex, I can’t even stand the smell of him any more. It’s not me, it’s us.

I don’t know what to do about it though, how or whether to talk to him. I don’t want to hurt him but once that genie is out of the bottle there is no putting it back.

7 years - and while not that first lust thing there is still an attraction. Is that fancying someone or just appreciating their every good bit (visible and not) that makes you want to demonstrate it physically?

Of course, sometimes he is a massive twat and then I don't. But he usually apologises (or I realise that actually I was the one on the wrong and get over myself).

I've been with DH for 20 years, and can't really relate to many of the responses here. We're very comfortable together, don't bother hiding our farts, have experienced each other's morning breath etc. so it's no wonder we don't want to rip each other's clothes off. We're happy though, I wouldn't change him for the world. Like letstryagainaaahhhh we got together because we've always got on really well, sex was always rather secondary. Works for us.

I’m guilty of taking him for granted but do look at him fairly regularly and think “phworghhh” especially when he’s mowing the lawn in a vest top and his lovely strong arms are on display!

I should definitely jump him more however and get over the day to day tiredness

Yep! Two years in at 33 and I can't get enough of him. If anything, he is even sexier now that I live with him.

I absolutely fancy him, without going into any specific details I'll jusy say we're very intimate overall.

We've been together 5 years, married 1.5 years, have one baby, I'm 37, he's 27.

Yes. I couldn’t bring myself to have sex with someone I didn’t fancy.

(Together 9 years, married 6, two young children and pregnant with third)

Over 20 years. Yes I do still fancy him. He fucking annoys me massively too.

Yes, married for 34 years in August. It was a sort of love at first sight when we met on holiday 34 and a bit years ago, and we were in bed within hours (!) . There is something about the way he smells and looks ( slender but fit ) that I find very attractive indeed. I certainly still desire him and want to be close even when we are not in romantic/sex mode.

I don’t anymore because he looks old and it frightens me. Of course after 30+ years together I probably look old too but I’m in denial.

I still love him though.

I love mine to bits.
He's rude, very non pc and scruffy but boy do I fancy him. We have a very active sex life and beem together a decade.

I never really fancied my xH. It was more an attraction based on who he was as a person but eventually that just grated on me . We rarely ever had sex and I do think that was partly to do with the fact I didn’t find him attractive.

Been with DP for just over two years and definitely fancy him. It makes a huge difference imo, I value our relationship and who he is more. Superficial or not, I don’t care. I feel proud to call him my partner.

We've been together for about 17 years, and no I don't want to rip his clothes off. I do fancy him, but in a civilized way, where there's time for folding...

Been together 25 years and I still fancy him.....even when he is being an arse, love him to bits as well.

18 months in and I still very much fancy him, I often look at him and think how handsome he is! ~swoon

I really fancy my DH. We've been together 10 years, married for 5. I fancy him more with every passing year probably. He's tall, dark, handsome, broad shoulders, yum!!

Yes, it's not a constant butterflies type of fancying, but I do look at him occasionally and think how lucky I am. He is a good looking man and has the sexiest come to bed eyes. We have been together 19 years now.