Are there a lot of perfect people on MN?

[Pepperypig]

Or AIBU? I feel I don't really measure up to the perfect individuals on here with their perfect OHs and DC. The ones who are perfect friends and never criticise anyone or gossip. The ones who work full time, run the PTA, volunteer at weekends and run up a dress for work the next day. I can only aspire to be like them.

I just imagine the perfect ones sitting in their stained old dressing gowns.

I roll my eyes a bit sometimes at how sugar, alcohol, smoking, foods with an ounce of fat or caffeine are all so "horrific" and "disgusting". I've lost count of the number of times I've seen "my child prefers a glass of water to a can of coke". If people want to live that way, good for them. But they do tend to look down on the rest of us mere mortals who might indulge in something unhealthy from time to time.

Personally, I think the 'oh, and you're perfect?' response is lazy, defensive and unimaginative.

Same. I got kicked off a message board once for my response to this particular assertion.

The poster who had Weetabix 'as a treat' was a cracker.

Yes, people on MN like to Virtue Signal.

Hence on here you'd think that nearly no-one speeds, shouts at their kids or does anything that's "not on".

Just take it all with a pinch of bullshit....

But say, for example, the discussion is smoking. I don't smoke, never have, never will.

In that regard, by current social mores, I am 'perfect'. But I'm not making that claim, only stating a fact. The fact anyone has to tear someone down for having a 'better' standard than themselves says more about them than it does about the person with those standards.

I find MN to be 50% people who are struggling with something/need advice and 50% people that are more perfect than me.

Plus the same poster can be a bit perfect on one thread and not on another (using me as an example..my DS loves vegetables so I could probably make a 'smug' meal plan, but OTOH some people would think I was irresponsible planning another DC while we are still renting)

Virtue signalling is ridiculous on here. As said upthread they never gossip ever. Their kids hate cola and only drink water. Even milk is too sugary for their darlings. Everyones kid eats hummous like theres no tomorrow. Rarely anyone has a fussy child.
Their children never answer back and they never raise their voices in anger.
Anyone remember ages ago that poor poster who was in a massive argument with her husband and he scared her so she pushed him out of the way to leave? Everyone on that thread told her to hand herself into the police station as she was violent and shouldnt be around her children or husband.

OP in the history on mankind there has never ever been a perfect person. There never will be.

I actually think it’s the opposite. I am often shocked by how dissatisfied people are.

OP, there was a thread a while back about disgusting habits people had. I had to stop reading. 🤢 Really so far from perfect. Look it up if you need convincing.

Bet she's typing that from her bedsit in Croydon (apologies to all those happy Croydonians on MN).

You'd better apologise. We is well 'ard in Croydon, innit.

I'm perfect on some threads and horrifying on others. DH is perfect and I tell people to leave arseholes. But I hate housework, don't wash my sheets 40 times a week and own TWO toilet brushes. I run but am still not thin. DD is great but watches too much TV. And so on!

There is not a single perfect person on the planet let alone mumsnet.

I can make a chicken to last a whole day week between four people. I also knit my own gin yogurt. Yes we are all the same

I agree with succulentest there seem to be some pretty low standards with regard to lazy husbands here. My DH can be grumpy and annoying but he cooks, cleans and makes me feel amazing. I would not put up with anything less. My kids are teenagers, therefore they can be massive arseholes, but they are also amazing people. I am grateful for my life, so fucking what if I am smug with my perfect life, it wasn’t always this way. You just sound bitter OP.