To think I wasn’t nasty?

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I’m in a diet support group (think slimming world but not etc) and a woman posted about how amazing the 30 day squat challenge was.

I disagreed with her because I think those types of challenges are silly to promote for many reasons.

She then went psycho on me, saying I was negative, I shouldn’t ever post on her posts ever again, I’m a witch etc

That was yesterday and now she’s created another post in the group again calling me childish names. This woman is almost twice my age

I think just because I didn’t comment “that’s fantastic hun!” and gave an educated response then I wasn’t being nasty or negative?

Sounds like a drama queen.

She probably felt silly and went on extreme defensive.

I'd be tempted to reply to her new comment with 'sorry, I'll rephrase my response, that's fantastic hun!' If that's what you think she wants 😂

Jesus, just block her. So much drama over social media!

She has totally over reacted but why did you have to piss on her chips? You shouldn’t have replied to her post at all.

I’d ‘like’ her other post.

What a complete drama queen. She seems like an attention seeker to me. I'd put a laugh comment on her post and say "oops did I say (whatever your first comment was) I actually meant 'that's amazing, well done'" but that's just me haha

What did you write?

That behavior is so common these days. I’m on a fb old movie page. A man posted a pic of Marlene Dietrich, and a woman commented “not one of my favorites, I just never really liked her movies”. It started ww3! She was accused of bullying and trolling, and the admins reprimanded her. It went mad...I just don’t understand why people are not allowed to disagree.

I’m in a diet support group

At what point were you supportive of her?

I wouldn't say you were nasty and I think she may have overreacted, but I do think you could have just scrolled past. If she was doing it safely and correctly, what's it to you?

I wasn’t pissing on her chips but if people think a 30 day squat challenge is going to achieve weight loss and a big bubble butt then they’re wrong.

It’s dangerous because you might have poor form, it doesn’t allow your muscles to rest and continually putting the same muscles under strain isn’t healthy.

Sorry but my support is from a I don’t want someone to injure themselves and get no results rather than a wow hun you’re incredible type reply.

You don’t know she has poor form though. And anything that encourages exercise should be applauded particularly if she is a bit older and has perhaps struggled with exercise.

Maybe she won’t get results but why shouldn’t she try without you telling her there is no point?

I can see why she was pissed off with your comments but she seems to have over reacted.

depends how you worded it really.

You don’t know she has poor form though. And anything that encourages exercise should be applauded particularly if she is a bit older and has perhaps struggled with exercise.

I never said she did, but it’s a large group and she’s encouraging others to do it.

Presuming this is a group of adults- they make their own choices at the end of the day.

what exactly did you say.... that upset her ?

She encouraging people to do squats, not inject smack.

While her reaction was obviously over the top, your post was a bit crap really.

I appreciate why you wanted to put a warning up, but people don't like that sort of thing when they're just expecting a big pat on the back.
Doesn't make them right, and doesn't make you wrong - but it wasn't the place to do it, maybe.

Next time, start a new post/thread explaining why repetitive exercising of only a few muscle groups could cause some negative effects on certain body types instead of on her "whoo look at me!" thread.

People do seem to be a lot more oversensitive on social media these days, I'm finding. :(

Yeah maybe I should have kept my mouth shut and 99% of the time I just scroll by but in this instance I didn’t.

She is still on there now talking about me and threatening to get the mods to remove me ... I’ve not commented once

"I’m in a diet support group
At what point were you supportive of her?"

I totally agree with that. It's for everyone to do their own research about exercise, she isn't anyone's keeper. You could have just put something friendly about protecting her knees.

The rest should have been sent as a PM.

"instead of on her "whoo look at me!" thread."

She is posting on an exercise/diet forum, that's what you do, share your positives.

OP, you could have found something to post about safe exercising.

I was in a Woman only over 45 weightlifting group. The amount of assumptions used to piss us off. I'm stronger than my eldest DD (and a couple of Men that I know) and have always been able to out exercise her.

My relative did the NHS challenge after two strokes and Cancer, in his 60's. He now does triathlons.

Get rid of your opinion that us older Women need unasked for advice.