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About Father's day grrr

47 replies

NoKnit · 16/06/2018 20:25

My husband has just announced it is father's day tomorrow. This in itself is fine but since he didn't even remember mothers day and did nothing to make up for forgetting (our kids only 4 and 2 so can't remind him) I haven't bothered to do anything.

Arghhh I am going to have to get up with the kids in the morning and let him have a flipping lie in and then take them to the park or something for him to have some peace in his shed aren't I?

Grrr wouldn't mind but Sunday is usually my lie in day and I get up every other day when the kids wake at 6 whilst his backside stays parked in bed until 7 (or later on Saturday) because you know, he goes to work. I have the luxury of staying at home with the kids (which isn't seeming like a luxury most days and I have packed in my job for this)

Pfffffft got huge cob on now, I might have to go and eat some cake.

Not unreasonable am I?

OP posts:
Hengine · 16/06/2018 20:29

If he didn’t do Mother’s Day then I wouldnt do Father’s Day

ProudThrilledHappy · 16/06/2018 20:31

Did you get a lay in on mothers day? I’d say if he didn’t mark your day he’s set the tone for his own

starryeyed19 · 16/06/2018 20:31

Hell, no. No Mother's Day, no Father's Day

Butterflykissess · 16/06/2018 20:31

why would you?

Acrasia · 16/06/2018 20:32

Just tell him that you enjoyed what he had planned for Mother’s day so much that you wanted to reciprocate.

Aprilshouldhavebeenmyname · 16/06/2018 20:33

Take your dc out and leave him in bed. He gets a lie in and you get some time with dc without the thoughtless twerp.

Celticlassie · 16/06/2018 20:33

Don't take the kids away. It's FATHERS' Day. He should want to spend the day with his kids. It's not husband's day.

UpstartCrow · 16/06/2018 20:33

Its not Fathers Day that's the problem. Its him being a dick.

Dementedswan · 16/06/2018 20:34

It's fathers day....therefore he gets the pleasure of having a day out with the kids being a fun dad while you get to stay in and cook a meal for their return Wink

LordNibbler · 16/06/2018 20:35

Give him what he gave you, but in a bigger box. I know that's being a little facetious, but he did nothing for you. And if you do him a 'fathers day' you're really setting yourself up for a lifetime of the same. I'm sure you were very hurt on Mothers day, and it doesn't sound to me like it bothered him very much. Do the same for him, not as revenge, but to show him how it feels. Then maybe next year he may be a little more thoughtful.

Iloveacurry · 16/06/2018 20:36

Just say you didn’t think you did Father’s Day as you didn’t do anything for Mother’s Day?🤷‍♀️

Original poster
NoKnit · 16/06/2018 20:37

Just tell him that you enjoyed what he had planned for Mother’s day so much that you wanted to reciprocate.

Love it yes should do this.

Yes got a lie in on mothers day but only because it was a Sunday and my normal lie in day anyway. I wouldn't mind too much but he was away the other weekend on a stag do and never bothered offering to make up for me missing a lie in when he had a weekend of freedom.

Guess this desperate housewife could do with an airing Smile

OP posts:
Genderwitched · 16/06/2018 20:39

No you don't have to do anything, he's not your boss.
Dh is taking the kids out to see Jurrassic World, and I'm not going because I don't want to see it.
Let him moan and sulk, maybe it will make him think a bit.

LokiBear · 16/06/2018 20:40

One year, my dh didnt do anything to mark mothers day for me on behalf of our dd because, as he informed me, im not his mother. I said it was absolutely fine. Come fathers day, I returned the sentiment. He also 'reminded' me the night before. I smiled sweetly and told him that he wasnt my dad and carried on as I would on any other Sunday. He changed his tune the following year. Enjoy ypur lie in, OP.

Jammycustard · 16/06/2018 20:43

Have your lie in.
I think Father’s Day, mother’s day etc, the stuff is done by the kids, cards, present etc. If they’re too young to bother, don’t do anything.

PositiveVibez · 16/06/2018 20:44

Just tell him that you enjoyed what he had planned for Mother’s day so much that you wanted to reciprocate

Hell yes to this ^^

Elspeth12345 · 16/06/2018 20:48

Just say that it's important for the kids to spend special time with their father on father's day!

letsallhaveanap · 16/06/2018 20:52

well as you got a lie in on mothers day id give him the lie in... and do a card. But I wouldnt take the kids out.... id say he gets to spend some special bonding time with them... and then go out yourself for some cake

PhoebefromFriends · 16/06/2018 20:52

Why don't you get up and go out leaving him with the kids, because it's fathers day and he should spend some quality time with them and suffer the consequences of being a twat

Fruitcorner123 · 16/06/2018 20:54

Sounds like the father's day treat should start and end with a lie-in. If he makes a fuss just say you assumed you weren't doing fathers/mothers days this year.

HostaFireAndIce · 16/06/2018 20:56

Arghhh I am going to have to get up with the kids in the morning and let him have a flipping lie in and then take them to the park or something for him to have some peace in his shed aren't I?

Honestly, what kind of a father's idea of a father's day treat is spending the day entirely alone? Hmm

upsideup · 16/06/2018 20:57

Well if you had a lie in, I would give it to him too.

Rachie1973 · 16/06/2018 20:59

Honestly, what kind of a father's idea of a father's day treat is spending the day entirely alone?

Mine goes fishing :) Then again he also fishes on Mothering Sunday (he's high level competitive).

I think it would bother me if it wasn't made up in other ways

piggie88 · 16/06/2018 21:01

Last year my husband got me some chocolate but our daughter was only a month old so wasn’t too fussed, I got him last year some personalised cufflinks to wear for our wedding and a plate with her footprint on. This year he got me chocolate again, he goes to the shop on the way home from work to get milk and comes home with chocolate so I was really disappointed. He’s got a card for tomorrow, nothing else.

ZenNudist · 16/06/2018 21:02

Just roll over tomorrow and go back to sleep. You get your usual lie in on a Sunday. He didnt have to make any effort for mothers day. Why shoukd you for fathers day

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