To ask do not to eat chocolate biscuits?

[MrsPepperpot79]

Not in general, but specifically not when I'm trying to persuade an over-tired toddler to eat their lunch?

Toddler had just - literally just - sat down and started eating when DP waltzes in, takes the choccy biccies from the fridge and offers them round. When I say no, DC is eating lunch he says "well you can have one" to which I reply again - no, DC is eating. So he gets huffy, announces "well I can" and then, seeing my face, says, oh, I'm going or we're going to have a row and fucks off. (We have previously had misunderstandings when he interprets my "what are you doing" expression for something much stronger).

I now have had 30mins of tantruming toddler (who now just wants biscuit), and has now fallen asleep having eaten one banana at 11.00 and no fucking lunch. So will be hangry when wakes too.

I don't think iabu in expecting him to not eat biscuits at lunch time - or am I?

Go out for the afternoon and let him deal with the hangry one.

You are a bit.

Couldn't the child have had a biscuit with lunch?

No yanbu and its unfair you were left to deal with the fall out.

He clearly needs to master the art of stealth chocolate eating I may or may not be able to scoff a chocolate bar with my head in the fridge without so much as rustling the wrapper

Strikethrough fail!

And when you go out and leave him to deal with the hangry toddler make sure you take the biscuits too!

The issue is not him having biscuits, it's him not eating them discreetly. He could have taken the pack to another room.

Sounds like it's your responsibility to ensure dc is fed and put to bed. Does he do his share? He might realise why dc can't have a biscuitjust before lunch.

Yanbu

It's really unfair to expect a toddler not to want a biscuit if he can see them. Your dp is an adult so presumably could have waited 20 mins.

Or as Queen says, just learn the art of stealth chocolate eating! I thought this was pretty much an essential parenting skill

Your dp sounds pretty selfish.

"choccy biccies"

You're not speaking to your toddler now, you know.

Bit thoughtless- but I would probably have said to toddler “4 spoons of lunch then a biscuit” But I am very slack.

This doesn’t need to be a big row.

Just explain why you didn’t want him to distracted her from her meal with junk food and as him to be stealthier next time.

Well yes the child probably could have phosphorus but after rather than instead of, lots of kids won't eat the main if they see or think there is the offer of sweets/junk instead.

It's not him having it that's the problem it's that he couldn't be bothered to think I should at least wait until child has eaten first.

BertrandRussell I tried that, but DC was at tipping point before this, and by now "after two mouthfuls" translated in her head to "never ever having a biscuit again" and complete unreasoning melt down.

Agree stealth eating would have been fine - but he didn't even try that, just waved the fucking packet around!

And as he's stropped off (properly, out onto the farm) I can't now mention stealth eating or will be "making a mountain out of a molehill, bringing that up again now" when he comes back.

Full disclosure - I may also be hangry as am dieting...

Grr.

This is why all parents hide the chocolate biscuits and eat them furtively and secretly in the kitchen on their own isnt it?
He should have used some nous and ate them quietly somewhere else.

Well yes the child probably could have phosphorus but after rather than instead of

I think the choccy biccies would be a lot healthier, actually!

(I'm so easily amused by typos/autocorrect!)

He also needs to stealth eat around you. Yes it is dippy to overtly eat a biscuit in front of a small child when they’re eating. What I would say is that little kids often don’t care about the order of their food so perhaps you could have given your ds a biscuit to eat with his lunch.

Please never say choccy biccies again.

But surely it's the toddler who is behaving badly, not your DH?

Toddler could have had biscuit after lunch, but chose not to, and threw a tantrum.

Just because toddler is a difficult eater, you can't expect everyone else to revolve their eating around them.

I have zero tolerance for fussy eaters though, and wouldn't be cajoling or negotiating. If toddler chooses not to eat, that's up to them, but they don't get treats, and they will be hungry. Make sure you don't offer a biscuit or other treat food when they wake up, otherwise you're teaching them that if they refuse food, they get given a treat.

So, apart from the toddler, he knows you’re dieting and deliberately waves chocolate biscuits under your nose. 🙄

Sorry that wasn't a typo it was a reply to username phosphorus.

It would have been a great typo though!

Why do you keep chocolate biscuits in the fridge?

YABU to use the word hangry

Good point wonderwine, yabu for keeping them in the fridge.

Full disclosure - I may also be hangry as am dieting...

This is a worse example to set for your child's attitude to food than eating chocolate biscuits at lunchtime, imo. No one should be on a 'diet' that's punitive or leaves them feeling either hungry or angry.

He sounds well mardy.

LTB