You know in the midst of a separation/divorce, you reflect back on your marriage and just think about everything that went wrong. This has always bothered, and I need to hear other people’s view on this.
Don’t get me wrong, I’m extremely happy that he’s getting out of my life, but like I said this has always bothered me.
My MIL is a typical if not worse “my boy can do no wrong, nobody is good enough for him” MIL, we’ve had so many problems and arguments in the past, I’ve always tried to have a relationship with her but she’s very difficult.
What annoyed me the most is her lack of social life and her relationship with her son. Her not having any friends has stopped us from doing certain things. For instance, I’ve always wanted to move out of London but he would refuse and say he don’t want to move that far from his mum.
Even moving to a different London borough is out of the question, we had to stay in the same borough.
Going on holiday is a difficult one too, we once had a 2 week holiday booked to Spain, and he almost cancelled it because two weeks was a long time to be away from his mum. That would have been the longest time he’s ever gone without seeing her, and he felt bad that she was upset. So she managed to go away to Rome with one of her ex partners(that she doesn’t like) whilst we were away, so she wouldn’t have to be alone in the UK for two weeks.
She spends most of her days at our house, he’s constantly taking her out for lunches, coffees, shopping whilst I stay at home with the kids.
If she needs to go to the doctors he’ll go with her, her GP is literally 2 mins from her house. She needs to buy new shoes? He’s coming! Dentist? He’s there!
She’s in her 60s and fully capable of doing it on her own, but wants him there for some reason.
Her WHOLE life is her son, she has no social life no friends. He could never go backpacking around Europe for 2 months, he would feel too guilty because his mother would be “alone”.
I could understand if she was 90 or 104 and she needed care, and he wanted to be close to her but she’s a 60 something women FFS, it just pisses me off that she makes no effort in making friends, socialising do anything with her life, she just relies on her son.
I see people 20 years older than her out and about, doing interesting things. Some people her age are still working. We’ve suggested in the past she should join clubs, but she refuses and thinks they are for “older people”. She’s just fucking lazy and just want to rely on her son.
My three children are under 7, but when they’re grown up and they want to go explore Asia for 6 months, I would be more than happy for them and wave them off. I want them to enjoy their lives and do things they want, no way am I gonna sit in their houses 3-5 times a week drinking tea. Nope, I’m busy wining and dining, travelling, exploring the world.
Even though we’re getting divorced, I feel sorry for him sometimes because if he does something that doesn’t involve her, she makes him feel guilty and he ends up not doing it.
In the past when I would say something, he would accuse me of being jealous. This is not a normal relationship right?