to be so angry and pissed off ALL OF THE TIME

[stopfuckingshoutingatme]

I am getting a bit worried, as my anxiety and anger/annoyance levels are through the roof. Including

work stress, everything is a stressful hurdle and people don't do their role (think they are all stressed too!), but I work in a target driven environment and want to success and often cannot due to external factors
poor performers not doing their stuff, ALL THE TIME
an unemployed, sad and angry DP
an estranged family issue which makes me sad (bereavement related)
A pre pubescent gadget addicted child
friends are great but I feel like I cant see them as it makes me anxious to plan anything
anything make me nervous, a car drive, a change in plan, anything, everything

I am angry, ranting, swearing all the time and this isn't sustainable, or healthy, or nice for my family

CBT? Perimenopause? mid life crisis? depression?

I don't know what to do and I don't like myself right now . I know I can be a better person

just wondered if anyone managed to address and overcome similar?

It sounds like it would be worth talking to your GP about to understand whether it's depression or hormonal.

I'm a believer in counselling if there's an issue to be dealt with, though I've also felt it can create more emotions and issues at times.

It sounds like you have a lot of different things going on and that's what's making you so stressed. Maybe dealing with each thing might help.

The job - not much you can do if others aren't pullig their weight. Can you look for another job? Even it takes a while to find one you will be doing something to change it which might make you feel better.

Husband - why is he unemployed? Is he looking for work? Is it possible he could be depressed as a result which is why he is sad/angry? If so, encourage him to see the doctor for help.

Child - most kids that age are gadget addicted to be honest so don't stress to much. Perhaps introduce a rule that it's homework/jobs/whatever until after dinner and then they can go on the gadgets.

Can you try something like yoga? I tried and it's so relaxing and will give you some breathing space. Or just go for a walk/coffee on your own to have space.

Could it be your thyroid op? I was very agitated when I was taking too much thyroxine, it was horrible. I second what the previous poster has said though, you should make an appointment to see your GP

I was exactly the same OP, angry anxious and irritable. I was prescribed anti depressants a couple of years ago but never took them. I went back to the doctor recently and the ad's have done me the world of good, I feel so calm and my family life has improved greatly.

Thanks everyone
Have booked GP - by some quirk I got an appt at a time that works and receptionist was lovely
You know what I am talked out. I have had MH in and off all my adult life and every time I take myself dutifully to therapy .
I don’t think I want that . I have no desire to talk . I want some pills to take the fucking edge off . If they exist

a believer in counselling if there's an issue to be dealt with, though I've also felt it can create more emotions and issues at times

Exactly ! Exactly !

Glad you've made a GP appointment. I have an underactive thyroid and I get exactly like that (anxious, angry, irritable, intolerant, jittery, anxious) when my thyroxine dose is too high.

Hope you feel better soon.

I've been the same, and trying to manage it is exhausting.

I eventually persevered with sertraline, and feel so much better. I also needed vitamin D, and iron.

Keep the medication advice coming !

I feel so bad but after 4 bouts of therapy I am fucking done (for now )

And joking aside I can’t go in like this . I can’t even drive without calling people a cunt at least 20 times under my breath

My colleagues must be

And my children deserve so so much more

Will you come back and tell us how you get on at GP OP?
I feel similar and am periemenopausal. I've had HRT but have a couple of weeks each month where I'm angry and anxious too. I've just managed to get done assertiveness training at work too (did a taster session and the trainer said I was being very passive at work whereas I thought I might be aggressive. It's hard when there is so much going on.

Yes . Feel so much better today maybe because I have vented and done something

In the cold light of day I don’t know what u need but that’s because probably I have spent a calm morning gardening ....,

And again thanks xxx

I had these problems just before I had my burn out. Seek help from your GP now and consider making radical lifestyle changes to reduce any stress possible. Also make getting good sleep important.

Had a nice meeting
Basically have to keep a diary and track mods and see if hormone linked or life .
I am ‘mildly depressed’
We agreed that AD are a major step and ironically this week have been much better (maybe cos I took control) ?

So will monitor for a month

Onwards and thanks again

Sleep. exercise. Say what you mean and take no shit. Vitamins. Don't make plans to see friends, just go see them for an unwind.
Try not to rip too many people's heads off while you know yabu.

Such sage advice miss I could tattoo that

I felt similar - went onto escitalopram - gave me my life back. It was anxiety and anger rather than depression.

I love screaming obscenities in the car. Every other motorist gets called some variation of a stupid fucking cunt! Foul but therapeutic!!

How old are you? Perimenopause can give you the absolute rage, plus anxiety attacks and all kinds of other lovely symptoms. Fluctuating hormones are powerful things.

Bit of a left field question and feel free of course to ignore it and not answer but have you suffered any bereavement?

You could be describing me OP!

Frequently angry, anxious, tearful... I think in my case it's definitely hormonal plus stressing about lots of shitty stuff in my life...

Nearly 45
Yes 2 in recent years

Glad it not just me

Well not glad . Relieved
Wish none of us felt this way

I empathasise.

I think bereavements can make you a more angry person.

I have taken citalopram over the years and it has helped. It’s very similar to sertraline, though some people find one or other suits them better.

Mindfulness has been great for managing these angry/irritable/agitated tendencies for me.

Also, there a lot of annoying people out there, so YANBU

Moodscope.com is a good website for monitoring your mood.

I was in a great mood for a short break away- then I got home and have been foul. It's not me, it's them

You could be describing me at 40. I walked and walked and walked rather than open my mouth. It helped, as did HRT and time.
A local circuit walk which takes 15 minutes, will divert your anger away from the family. A fast pace will release endorphins and lift you just slightly.
You are not alone.