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Son is embarassed by me

32 replies

daydreamer45 · 15/06/2018 14:53

I had a meeting near to my son's school yesterday so gave him a lift in (he normally takes the train). I needed to walk past the entrance to school to get where I was going but my son didn't want to walk with me in case anyone saw us. I wasn't going to kiss him goodbye or even hug him but he refused to walk with me and couldn't understand why I got upset. AIBU to feel really sad about this? He is 16.

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SleepingStandingUp · 15/06/2018 14:53

He's 16, that's all.

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gracielacey · 15/06/2018 14:55

Very normal OP. Happens to us all.

Pleasedontdrawonyoursister · 15/06/2018 14:56

I wouldn’t have wanted to walk with my mum at 16 either! Love her to bits Flowers

TheyBuiltThePyramids · 15/06/2018 14:57

Completely standard behaviour.

Chouetted · 15/06/2018 14:57

Be glad, not sad - it's normal and healthy.

nellieellie · 15/06/2018 14:57

Oh crikey, totally normal. My 10 yr old DD refuses to let me get anywhere near the school.

FlyMaybe · 15/06/2018 14:57

Don't fret, OP. It's a teen boy thing. My DS is just the same.

For you Thanks

wizzywig · 15/06/2018 14:58

Main thing is you didnt embarrass him by snapping and farting

Mountainsoutofmolehills · 15/06/2018 14:59

90% of teens find their parents embarrassing. 10% are their best friend.

It's normal. It means you have independent kids who want to carve their own way. It's fine.

EthelHornsby · 15/06/2018 14:59

He’s 16 - if he wasn’t embarrassed by you, you’d be doing it wrong!Grin

sonjadog · 15/06/2018 14:59

Entirely normal behaviour,

WhenISnappedAndFarted · 15/06/2018 14:59

Very normal, nothing to get upset over and he will grow out of it.

sandgrown · 15/06/2018 15:02

My son's last day at school today. I knew to give him a hug at home. I drive an old banger so he likes me to drop him away from the gates !

MereDintofPandiculation · 15/06/2018 15:03

Quite normal. I'd be walking down the street and a group of boys would start shouting "Hello Mereson's mother!" and then I'd spot Mereson himself trying to hide behind them.

MrsJayy · 15/06/2018 15:03

Don't worry it is totally ridiculous but normal

One of mine used to walk off in the other direction if she saw one of her friends in town. She once ducked into superdrug i was still nattering away turned round and thought she had actually vanished Grin

DramaAlpaca · 15/06/2018 15:04

Yep, it's normal. He'll be OK to be seen with you again in public in a year or two, don't worry.

Scoopofchaff · 15/06/2018 15:06

As mothers of teens, it's practically our job to embarrass them! Try not to take it personally op Flowers

Tawdrylocalbrouhaha · 15/06/2018 15:07

Totally normal. As small children we adulate our parents, then as we approach independence we reassess and start to think they are wrong about everything, and hideously embarassing to boot.

As we become truly independent and start to mature, we hopefully start to understand them better and have an appreciative adult relationship with them.

Your son is in the middle phase!

ItsalmostSummer · 15/06/2018 15:09

Normal. Let it go. He will come round and be proud you’re his mama. This age overloads kids with feelings of being judged by others. Dont take it personally and go easy on him. Just love him lots. This is a crazy time for teenagers and the teen brain. From 18 years+ the chemicals begin to change and it gets easier.

topcat1980 · 15/06/2018 15:14

Embarrassing teenagers is revenge for every time they did something horrendous in the supermarket as a toddler.

MrsJayy · 15/06/2018 15:14

My Dd is mid 20s she no longer vanishes into thin air it passes

bigbluebus · 15/06/2018 15:15

You've not had a teenager before have you? Absolutely normal behaviour for the majority. On the rare occasions I dropped DS at school in the car, I had to drop him at the end of the road. Also if out in town together he would walk a few yards ahead or behind so it didn't look like he was with me! They do grow out of it - eventually

MirriVan · 15/06/2018 15:27

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NotAnotherUserName5 · 15/06/2018 15:28

You are not alone!! It's part of parentening a teen, I coming to realise.

SilverySurfer · 15/06/2018 15:29

Every single teenager since the beginning of humankind has been embarrassed by one or both of their parents on at least one occasion. Please don't take it to heart.