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To have been humiliated and stop sport for good

43 replies

Metoodear · 14/06/2018 19:53

Started a sport don’t want to put myself this week and was told by one of the ladies that their was more sporty today I am very keen after years of doing nothing finally able to make activities after kids are in bed

Saw somone getting out of their car heading to the court

She looked at me with amusement and said not sure who told you to come but our team is full someone else may take you if you hang around and just walked off

Feel humiliated really shall I just stop going the lady in question attends the other session I attended at the beginning of the week

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DrAdmin · 14/06/2018 19:54

Absolutely not!

MeanTangerine · 14/06/2018 19:54

I wouldn't pack in the sport but I would look at a different club. She sounds flipping horrible.

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Metoodear · 14/06/2018 19:55

I feel like a arse and really took a lot to go to the first session

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Metoodear · 14/06/2018 19:56

I

Feel really deflated

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Passportto · 14/06/2018 19:56

Oh wow, that sounds awful and not my experience of adults playing sport at all. Usually they're very friendly and encouraging IME, although every club has one of the other sort!

Don''t give up, I'm sure there are others there who will be lovely.

Casmama · 14/06/2018 19:56

Sorry I’m struggling to follow your OP as it doesn’t have any punctuation.
You should of absolutely not let one rude person put you off though

AssassinatedBeauty · 14/06/2018 19:58

She was horribly rude and unpleasant. Don't let that put you off. It sounds like this group might not be very welcoming or supportive so I would be looking for another place to do your sport. Or just keep doing the session earlier in the week if you're happy the people there are friendly enough.

unicorn56 · 14/06/2018 20:20

Big hugs, well done for going to the first session, dont let this horrible lady get you down

soulrider · 14/06/2018 20:26

I can't quite follow but is it just a misunderstanding, i.e. I belong to a club where some sessions are 'everyone welcome' and others are only suitable for people at a certain level. So the first session at the beginning of the week was for anyone and the second session is not suitable for everyone?

Be a shame to give up something you enjoyed if it was just down to something like that.

MrsMozart · 14/06/2018 20:28

Bugger the other person.

If you enjoyed it then you just keep going.

If you get into it then you'll be getting fitter and stronger, which sounds like it might help your confidence.

Nodancingshoes · 14/06/2018 20:31

I had a similar experience with the local club for a particular sport. I went elsewhere and found somewhere much more welcoming. If its the sport I'm thinking of, I am not surprised. I never met a more bitchy group of people....

lljkk · 14/06/2018 20:31

That lady sounds very abrupt; she probably offends a lot of people, if you ask around. Charm-deficient.

Were the other people nice (the team you did get on)?

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Metoodear · 14/06/2018 20:32

Well as I understand it from the lady I was invited by it’s for beginners just a non league thing

The lady who invited me didn’t even know the training session existed and only found out through going on a Thursday

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Homemenu1 · 14/06/2018 20:34

Wow what a horrible nasty thing to say, tbh if she’s a reflection of the ‘team’ I really wouldn’t bother going back. But if email and tell them why. Mark her card

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Metoodear · 14/06/2018 20:35

The Monday session is training and then game the Thursday one is just mums playing no league game

No wonder women’s sport take up is so low

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dinosaursandtea · 14/06/2018 20:41

Is there a list for this, though? Or maybe there’s only a certain number of people allowed at any time. I think she could have been more polite but I don’t think you should be put off by one person’s off the cuff remark.

StarUtopia · 14/06/2018 20:54

Is this tennis? If so, doesn't surprise me. Nasty bunch of old women generally rule the lower leagues. That's the main reason i won't play now as an adult, even though I was a fairly decent standard as a child.

WhyBeUnkind · 14/06/2018 20:57

It’s a little hard to follow your OP,

Is it badminton or tennis? I play both and find badminton more friendly and more suitable for mixed ability groups. I say that as someone who is strong in tennis.

It’s not a ‘no strings badminton session’ by any chance?

LighthouseSouth · 14/06/2018 20:58

sorry I'm a bit lost

is there a section for new people? The horrible woman sounds like she is saying there's no room, but if she's just being horrible and there's actually a bit for beginners or newcomers, then just ignore her and go.

WhyBeUnkind · 14/06/2018 21:21

OP,

I’m getting more confused.

Who runs these sessions?

TheGoodEnoughWife · 14/06/2018 21:29

I bet it is netball. See adverts on my FB for local teams but never been brave enough to go!

VaggieMight · 14/06/2018 21:47

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skippy67 · 14/06/2018 21:52

My money is on netball too. I don't fully understand the OP, but I'd say don't let one gobby person put you off.

Pollaidh · 14/06/2018 22:05

One of our local squash clubs is really accepting and friendly, the other is snooty and rude.

Those people sound horrible. If you can't find nice people in the club look for something else. You shouldn't let an idiot put you off doing sport.

RunMummyRun68 · 14/06/2018 22:18

I'd love to join a netball team again

Walking netball is 'a thing' on my fb