To decline christening invitation

[Fruitteatime]

Dp, dd and I have been invited to a christening. It's two hours away and I'm considering not attending. I'm pregnant and I am finding it hard to travel. Would it be considered bad etiquette to allow dp and dd to attend alone? It's dp friends if that makes a difference. He's not desperate to go and is happy to either not attend, attend with me or without me.

clue is in the name: invitation. So 'no thank you' is acceptable.

wish them all the best and send a gift if you wish. Something useful and ideally something that gets used up so it vanishes.

Selfish, i hope no one turns up to your future events and see if you think its fine

It would be fine if your dp and Dad wants to go without you.

Nothing wrong with saying no either.

Not your dad. That would be weird!

@flintastic how is it selfish if the OP is pregnant and struggling to travel? Doesn't her health and babies come first?

I think it's fine for your dh and dd to just go. Also gives you a rest from childcare!

Why on earth is it selfish to decline an invitation? It's an invitation not a summons!

Of course it's fine for DP and DD to go without you.

Enjoy a restful day whilst you can!

I can't imagine accepting an invitation to a christening 2 hours away unless it was family or exceptionally close friend.

Fine not to go, I struggled with travel pregnant too

Do what you like. If it turns out to be a fuss/awkward, go nc with them, there isn't enough time in life. If your DH feels his own friend won't really care then that's good enough for me.

Don't go and don't worry about it. As others have said it's an invitation not a summons. If DP want to go then that's his decision. I'm sure the hosts won't mind either way.

I would be mortified if I had invited you, you attended and I then found out that it had been a real struggle for you to get there. So as a host I would far rather you stayed away and kept comfortable

have you never declined an invitation?

@Fiintastic what the fuck, you weirdo

This would be a really dull thread if Fiintastic hadn't brought along the batshit.

Ignore Fiintastic she is talking nonsense.

It’s completely fine to send your DH and DC on their own with your apologies.

It’s also fine to decline politely.

I had a friend pull out of attending our Christening the day before because of pregnancy issues. It never crossed my mind to think that she was anything other than very sensible for staying home with her feet up.

Fintastic isn’t a she, it’s an under bridge dweller

Selfish, i hope no one turns up to your future events and see if you think its fine

what a ridiculous comment, there are many reasons why people have to decline invitations, not wanting to go is as good a reason as any

course it's fine.

Don’t go op- if your dp wants to he can, with or without your dp. I’ve been to one, bloody hell was it boring and trying to entertain my ds was hell on earth.

*disclaimer, not religious in the slightest and nor was the person who held the christening for their child, purely school admissions related

If it was your friend, sending dp with dd might be odd but they're his friends, how is it not ok to not go if you can't?

I assume flintastic you've either never had anything more pressing than a party invite or you're incredibly bad at looking after yourself

It's quite possible that the parents aren't expecting you to come, but sent an invite because they didn't want you to feel left out or slighted. It's quite unlikely that they would really expect you to travel so far.

Of course it’s ok to say no, even for no good reason. You can’t go to everything.

Of course you don't have to go, why do you feel you can't make that decision without asking strangers? Do you suffer from being a people pleaser to your own detriment?