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Pebblesonthesand · 14/06/2018 15:13

I've NC as don't want this on my regular account...Had lunch with a friend today and saw she had a very expensive bracelet and necklace by Tiffany...I said it was lovely...her reply was "yeah bought it yesterday with the money I got from one of mum's old codger's that popped his clogs a few months back, his will only paid out last week".

I was a bit taken aback and started to feel uncomfortable!

She said that for years her mum cleans, cooks, shops, personal care and sorts things out for old people, cash in hand, that live on their own as they don't have anyone else! As a thank you they put her Mum in their wills (usually as the sole beneficiary or her and her Mum as she helps out once in a while-there's a few of the old people she's known since she was at school so see her as a daughter/grand daughter) leaving houses, cars, money, jewellery, cash; over the last five years she's made over £400,000.

I don't know why but it doesn't sit right...I get that she's helping people not be lonely but it's the wills thing that makes me feel uneasy! I think I was a bit surprised in the way she referred to the old people.

AIBU that it's not right to earn money this way? She doesn't work...mainly just shops from the wills stuff for her and her family! She said that her and her Mum aren't the only ones that do it and there's plenty of people up and down the country do it and everyone's a winner! Old person isn't lonely and they aren't working a low paid jobs. I didn't really know what to say so cut our meet up short as felt really uncomfortable as she was talking about her next big purchase Confused

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KatyaZamolodchikova · 15/06/2018 07:41

@Pebblesonthesand good for you, I’m so pleased you’ve decided to act!

I’m sorry if I was a bit terse in my post. I’ve had a week of dealing with a couple of safeguarding issues that other people have known about & failed to report, that I’m just starting to unpick weeks, or months down the line, when if those people had spoken up sooner we could have done more to protect the adults in question. It’s frustrating for me, and I’m sorry if it came across in my response to you.

Pebblesonthesand · 15/06/2018 10:18

@KatyaZamolodchikova no offence taken at all! It's spurred me on to do something about it...so thank you and to everyone else.

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