AIBU to be so upset I can’t lose weight?

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So depressed, been doing ketogenic diet for three weeks, have been a total saint and appetite magically totally suppressed to the point that I’m eating once a day.....

I’m not starving myself, but god I’ve been virtuous

I’ve lost precisely 1lb
I am 44 and angry
I just ate a load of carrot cake.

I only had a stone to lose a year ago it would have done off super quick

I just can’t lose weight.

AIBU to think I may have to accept being overweight?

AUBU to think that this is being 44?

If you're only eating one meal a day, your metabolism has probably slowed down to almost a complete stop. I lost 3 stone about 12 years ago and kept it off by eating 3 healthy meals and 2 snacks every day (so eating approx every 3 hours). It was fairly high protein, low carbs but I'd never cut them out completely as this was more of a long-term plan and would I could sustain forever.
I knew you must be so frustrated as you wanted a quick fix for the wedding but you're making yourself miserable. Chin up and try to find something else nice to wear. Try to just enjoy the wedding and then start thinking about a longer term plan to get into the shape you want to be

Oh please stop spouting rubbish about metabolism slowing down 🙄

If you ate at starvation level for months then yeah. Maybe. A bit.

But otherwise - no.

Are you calorie counting? Regardless of whether you're on a ketogenic diet, if you're eating more calories than you're using you won't lose weight. It's easy to eat high calorie foods on a keto diet because it allows lots of high calorie foods like oils and dairy. Every pound of weight loss takes a 3500 calorie deficit so it's quite a lot of work!

Try a couple of weeks of logging everything you eat on a calorie counting app like My Fitness Pal and see where you're coming in at. If you log your height and weight in the app it will tell you how many calories you can eat daily for a loss of around 2lb per week.

not sure why people are arguing against metabolism slowing down - if you read the studies and dont be pedantic about the wording the overall effect is the same. u absorb more of what you do eat, TTE goes down, resting metabolic rate lowers, calories burned through activity reduces, non exercise activity thermogenesis reduces. really easy visible evidence would be looking at body builders or other athletes with really low body fat who eat 6 plus meals a day in their cutting phase.

You're not drinking anywhere near enough, you need 3 times that. I'd pop over to low carb boot camp... If anything omelettes and chicken once a day is just boring. I'm doing the same diet and don't feel the need for cake or chips because I'm eating so many interesting and delicious foods, tonnes of lovely veg and different flavours. If I was having 3 egg omelettes everyday (which I do like) I would want cake too.

I was quoting Birdsgottafly actually @pipkinport - I don’t believe the menopause makes you look crap.

You have to exercise over 40, because once you are post Menopause, you look like crap and a lot of people feel crap, as well.

This is what I was referring too, it’s a lot of nonsense.

I feel your pain. I’ve tried so many diets. Stuck to them really well. Have quite an active lifestyle. When I did triathlon I did a very healthy plan and lost nothing. The guy running it kept saying I must be cheating on it but I wasn’t and that was when I was in my 20’s so now I’m in my 30’s it’s even worse. I never lose weight on any of them however good I am. It’s depressing.

I recently watched a Sandford University lecture (on YouTube) that said that how well a diet works depends on your liver and how sensitive you are to insulin resistance. It explained really well how one “diet” didn’t result in weight loss for everyone.

OP, look up Dr Jason Fung on YouTube and research fasting and robe role of insulin resistance.

not sure why people are arguing against metabolism slowing down

When this comes up on MN threads, it feels like people are saying you could take 4 women ("ABCD") exactly same weight & activity levels, & feed them exactly same amount of calories (say 1200/day)... but mostly they have no hope of losing weight, because
A used to yoyo diet so has knackered her metabolism, she needs to actually eat MORE in order to lose weight
B is over 50, her age means she has a knackered metabolism unless she takes HRT, can't possibly lose weight
C has pcos/thyroid/something else, so even if she is exactly as active as the others her body will magically ignore a calorie deficit & she can't lose weight

Meanwhile
D is only 30 & never yoyo dieted & doesn't have PCOS etc. so is the only one who could possibly lose any weight.

It doesn't sound helpful or believable to talk about metabolism as that important. When I try to find numbers, the dramatic comparison in energy needs is between say 80yo to 20yo, not the more typical 40yo to 30yo type comparison we'd be making on MN.