AIBU to be unsure about giving up my job?

[Giveitupornot]

I need some advice about what to do.

Dp is self employed, I have 2 jobs. One weekdays 3-6 and a different weekend job. I took the jobs so we wouldnt have to pay for childcare.

It's not working very well, Dp is struggling to finish jobs and fit all his work in. At the moment he is fully booked for the next few months.

It makes sense for me to give up my week job and for him to go back to working full days again. He can earn more in a day than I do in a week and working full days will pay more.

My worry is that sometimes customers are a bit slow at paying and there can be a long time between payments. Also there has been a 3 month period before when he had no work at all.

I'm just a bit scared at the thought of giving up my job and just wanted to see if anyone saw any issues with it I havent thought of?

[SeriousSimon]

We don't want to use childcare because it will take up most of my earnings

No no no.Childcare is a SHARED expense, you pay in accordance with your incomes.Why do so many women think childcare is their expense only?

I truly hate comments like this. You're either stupid or wilfully misunderstanding imo, with the aim of...God knows.

We're a two parent family, 3 dc. Parent A is employed full time. Parent B is self employed. We'd like to cut down the dcs childcare from 3 to 2 days. We've decided that Parent A will drop one day in work because childcare costs more than their earnings on that particular (short) day. We want our family to retain the most income possible and make decisions, as a unit, accordingly.

That doesn't mean that Parent A is solely responsible for paying for childcare 🙄 What would be the point in working out the childcare bill, deducting parent A's percentage, based on income, doing the same for parent B...and coming to the exact same conclusion.

'Childcare is more than my wages would be' is most often used as a quick, simple illustration of the whole family change in financial position if a new job happened.

[pinkdelight]

"Childcare is more than my wages would be' is most often used as a quick, simple illustration of the whole family change in financial position if a new job happened."

... a simple illustration that also correlates with a massively disproportionate number of women losing their financial independence and ending up fucked if/when the man leaves with his career intact. Sure on one hand it's merely turn of phrase, but on the other it's indicative of the fundamental power (im)balance in relationships where this line of thinking crops up. If it was really about the whole family, the woman's wages wouldn't be trotted out as the example. It's said all the time on here and many people have internalised the idea that the sums make it not worthwhile for the woman to work, and then it's them giving things up for the whole family, not the guy, funnily enough.

[Miladamermalada]

No no no.Childcare is a SHARED expense, you pay in accordance with your incomes.Why do so many women think childcare is their expense only?
You'd pool your incomes and pay from that.

[Giveitupornot]

Childcare is a SHARED expense you are correct but paying for it is still going to take a chunk out of OUR monthly income whether me or Dp pay for it.