AIBU (mean) or teaching a lesson

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DD (14)has not tidied floor robe for 3 weeks. Finally doing it now as lost school skirt she wanted to wear.

Handed me PE kit, as I had just finished the last dark wash and put towels on.

Transpires ( I knew) that she has PE am tomorrow. I said 'you will have to take it out of washing basket and wear it with lots of deodorant then.'

I cannot tumble the PE kit, another rant about silly school stuff, and the towels take nearly 2 hrs to wash.

DD said I will get a C1 then. I said 'well at least you will remember to hand in PE Kit to me or tidy floor robe up to find it!'

DD not impressed that I am not going to wash it. I also have dinner to prepare.

DS to take to scouts.

She either washes it herself when the washer is free or she goes without/wears it dirty.

Can't see that you have done anything wrong. She had her chance.

She could hand wash it, but YANBU and the solution is hers to find

Stick to your guns! This is not mean at all, it's a prime 'life skill' lesson. You can't keep dirty clothes on the floor and expect them to be ready last minute.
She'll learn and hopefully won't do it again!

What’s floor robe?

Her responsibility to make sure she has a clean kit. Why should you be the one running round getting stuff washed at the last minute.

She might take more care next time!

Put it through a rinse cycle with fabric softener and hang up to dry. It should be dry by morning. Over the tops of doors is handy. Or make her do it

I know they're supposed to learn but I couldn't let them go to school in smelly gym kit.

If she did it again I would because she knows the score then.

What’s floor robe?

Most teenagers (and some adults) consider their wardrobe to be their floor, eg, instead of putting clothes away properly in the wardrobes, they’re strewn all over the floor, hence floordrobe

Floor robe is when the clothes that should be in the wardrobe are all over the floor.

Oh yes and OP. If the lesson is not taught, DD will never learn.

Surely she can wash it on a quick wash and it will be dry tomorrow.
But YY why aren't uniforms bloody tumble dryable?!?!

What is a floor robe?

Why can't it be washed?

Is there any reason it can't be tumble dried?

It's warm and dry in most of uk, can't you just hang it out in the line to mostly dry or hang it in the warmest room of your house (probably upstairs as heat rises )..

It isn’t being washed because at 14 she is old enough to put her dirty clothes in the basket more than 24 hours before they are needed to make a load instead of when the laundry is already done.

She can wash it herself if she’s that bothered.

She is 14 - she can use a washing machine right?

I think fair enough that you won't wash it - but I'd have given her the option of washing it herself. Sure a PE top and shorts would be dry for tomorrow.

My mum had a rule as we were growing up - If we wanted something washing with the general washing it had to be in th was 2 days before needed. Otherwise it was our responsibility to sort. (Excepting if a kit was needed two consecutive days obviously)

Let her wash it if she wants to. Or buy a new one tomorrow morning using her own money if she has it.

She can stick it on a rinse wash and hang it somewhere warm. It will be dry by morning

Tinseltower a floor robe is what I call her bedroom floor. Not to her obviously!

Basically clean clothes neatly folded up and handed to put away are put on the floor, chair, bed or desk by her. I refuse to put away as my neatly Marie Kondo folding of drawers was dismantled in 2 weeks.

Thank you all for your input. x

Once the washings finished I am going to tell her it is free to use. If she says 'I don't know how to' although has been shown loads of times. then I will tell her(not do) and let her get on with it.

Tell her she can handwash the kit if she wishes.

P.S. OP, YANBU, your DD has had plenty of opportunities to have you wash the kit before now.

YANBU at all ,
I would send her to the shop to buy some hand wash powder and she can wash it in the sink, then roll it into a thick towel and wring it out and put it ( and the towel ) on the line . if its not dry by morning tough look .
( do girls still have to wear them big blue knickers to gym classes )

It's likely that her PE department will have spares, they're a bit skanky, but it's that or C1.

Yanbu. If she wants clean clothes, she can put them in the wash. Let her solve this problem herself.