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if I find people like me slightly annoying...

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bohemianbint · 21/05/2007 21:22

Ok, here's the thing. I was feeling a bit depressed a few weeks back because I don't know many people round these parts who think like I do. (I'm still bf at 9months, no plans to stop, don't want a baby walker, cook most of DS's food from scratch (but by no means all!) and use cloth nappies etc.) Anyway, so I thought the answer was to try to find like minded people and someone recommended I went to a sling meet. So I did, but I found it a bit....eurrghh. And I'm not entirely sure why and I'm a bit disappointed. Sure, it was a bit Milo/Tarquin-ish. And there were some fairly humourless discussions about how some babies remembering their births etc. So why, when I am classed as a bit of a tofu welder did I not really enjoy being in a room full of other welders? Apart from the slight unfriendliness and lack of humour?

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handlemecarefully · 21/05/2007 22:14

You need to get yourself a dog Bohemianbint. Lowers stress levels and lifts the spirits

jajas · 21/05/2007 22:16

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pirategirl · 21/05/2007 22:20

see, see, Loveangel lol

yep Totnes, love it but god, just follow your own chill ethos people.

I was doing the unrecycling wey b4 he left, just things like opening tins YES TINS, and chucking the lid inthe normal bin.

Well he was far more interested in his 'path' than ours!!

He is now shacked up with a wanton, grubby, mother earth type, who allows him to have half of the devon hedgerows festooning the dashboard of the car.

I digress, where did you get those shoes btw

LoveAngel · 21/05/2007 22:26

lol@Pirategirl

They were a gift from a man who is now an ex (and has been for about 10 yrs). Ah...the days when I was young and received gifts of shiny red shoes, eh?!

p.s. I secretly love Totnes. The people can be a bit annoying, but at least they're peace-loving, green annoying types. It could be worse (like, um, confrontational, wasteful annoying crackhead types a la Hackney!).

moondog · 21/05/2007 22:28

What the hell is a slingmeet??

I'm a right old hippy but don't take meself too seriously and happily mingle with consumers of nuggets Fruit Shoots and Lunchables.

Crusty types are good entertainment value though eh?

moondog · 21/05/2007 22:30

Booboo,I live near Bangor.No sling meets in these parts (yet...)

Booboobedoo · 21/05/2007 22:32

I miss those darn mountains.

Am in The Smoke now. (sigh).

moondog · 21/05/2007 22:33

Were lovely today.Paased a car full of Czech tourist on road to Bethesda clicking away madly at them thar hills.

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bohemianbint · 22/05/2007 12:35

Oh, I'm so pleased I posted this thread!

The Wife Swap thing was interesting because I was thinking while I was watching it "I bet people think I'm like that" until they all went proper barmy and disgraced themselves. Absolutely loved watching smug hippy dad squirming as his new wife pointed out the utter hypocrisy in owning a 4x4. I think that's what made him see his arse and call the whole thing off. Fascinating stuff...

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Kathyis6incheshigh · 22/05/2007 12:44

PMSL @ 'bit of a nutroaster'. Is it only me who thinks that sounds like a form of sexual deviancy?

Kathyis6incheshigh · 22/05/2007 12:48

Coming back to the OP, I think the problem was that these weren't just tofu welders, they were tofu welders who couldn't get on with the non-welders and hence had to have their special group.

I mean, why would you need to have a 'sling meet'? I use slings but don't see that as marking me out from other people.... maybe I should arrange a Mothercare Jive stroller meet as I have one of those as well? (but only the same pattern as me - not interested in people who have the a green one or a pink one, obviously.)

LoveAngel · 22/05/2007 12:59

I went to an attachment parenting meet once, when I was a naive, hormonally-messed up wretch of a first time mum who did such needy-arse things.

I'm not strictly an AP-er, but I was going through a real 'fuck the Baby Whsiperer and her evil routines' phase and met a like-minded mum who was a member of this group. and invited me along They were the most horrible bunch of bitches ever. The premise for the formation of the group was (supposedly) the hostility they faced from the Gina-Ford following, anti BF-ing, 'co-sleeping kills' brigade...yet ALL they did was sit around bitching about those horrible, misguided people and being unbelievably smug about their own choices. It was truly awful, and the folliwing day, i went back to my local one o'clock club with my tail between my legs, had a jammy dodger and a nice cup of tea with non-organic milk & 3 sugars, and had a bit of a chat about Huggies versus Pampers. The blessed relief!

3andnomore · 22/05/2007 13:14

Hm...I suppose just because you have the same parenting ideas doens't mean you have to get on with eachother.
Must admit, from another sites Breastfdeeding board, I went to a Breastfeeding meet-up, and it was fabby...but then it was a bit more mixed, their were full blown lentil weavers and the more classical Parents, and all varieties inbetween, so to say...so, it was a nicely mixed group.
Lots and lots of slings though....

pirategirl · 22/05/2007 13:54

kathy, yep I certainly like to get the best out of men tis true.

woe betide any man who crosses me

pirategirl · 22/05/2007 13:55

pmsl @ 'Mothercare Jive stroller meet'

tibsy · 22/05/2007 14:20

have just found this thread and pmsl
i have done things so differently this time round with my daughter and was almost in danger of disappearing up my own recycling, soon to be composting, cloth nappy using, pro bfing arse,.......... you'll be glad to know i've climbed out and am now (almost) quite normal. am still doing them all, you understand, just dont feel the need to wear it on a t shirt,.... organic cotton of course

ScottishThistle · 22/05/2007 14:23

I find a lot of Nannies to be awful company!

Just because your a tofu welder it doesn't necessarily mean you'll get on with others!

Kathyis6incheshigh · 22/05/2007 14:27

(thinking about it, I suppose the point of a sling meet would be if you wanted to go somewhere up a lot of steps with no lift.... say the top of a tall tower.... you could all go up there with your slings and point and laugh at the people with buggies who can't get up stairs.... Was that it?)

katelyle · 22/05/2007 14:45

I am a yoghurt knitter and I don't mix with tofu welders. Welding is an industrial process and thus renders the tofu poisonous. Unless it's locally welded by an artisan welder of course. And as for lentil weavers........

3andnomore · 22/05/2007 19:24

lol kate...so there are differences there then???????
LOl

Kathyis6incheshigh · 22/05/2007 19:25

lol @ the artisan tofu welder.

FrannyandZooey · 25/05/2007 14:13

Oh great thread (alerted to its existence by MP's round up)

I feel exactly the same, the humourlessness etc

I bet I come across the same way though

plus it takes a lot of time to get to know someone properly. I used to frequent a certain lentilly group but stopped going in part because they were all mad and annoyed the fuck out of me. Having since got to know a few of them individually I can now say they are in fact all jolly nice

madamez · 25/05/2007 14:20

Of course, all us meat-eating, packet-of-frazzles, Pampers-using bottle-feeders get bored with likeminded company too. Perhaps we shoudl come and invade some of the tofu-slingers' clubs and PATRONIZE them a bit more :-)

FrannyandZooey · 25/05/2007 14:22

Oh I don't know, you seem to have enough work on your hands patronising us lot on here madamez

twynkle · 25/05/2007 15:06

Sense of homour is defo the key. I bfed dd for over 2 years, some of my friends think I'm a bit hiipyish, but I can laugh at myself.
Just cos someone makes their food from scratch doesn't mean they must be like you does it?
I would say give it another go though - you might find there is at least one other person there who feels the same - you could form your own break away group then

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