Aibu or is this disrespectful

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Long time lurker here...first time poster. Scrolling through my Facebook feed earlier to see a selfie posted by a family at a grave side of a grandparent, headstone in the background. Aibu to think some things should be private, grief bring one of them & this is just attention seeking or is this a nice way to remember a loved one?

Loving the term ‘Cinderella complex’ there’s definitely a lot of that about on MN.

There is real developed photos of some relatives at my Grans grave she died 25 years ago it isn't a new thing but I guess with SM everything is online I don't think it is that disrespectful if it helpsthe living then what harm are they doing.

Had a distant relative video (without our knowledge) the lowering of my Dads coffins into his grave. He posted it on FB with a comment about how awful the weather was (it was truely horrific weather!) First I knew was when I logged into FB a few days later to come across my Dads funeral online!!! Some people have absolutely no sense or sensitivity!!

I wouldn't care or find it that disrespectful.

Disrespectful?? The dead person is dead, how can this be disrespectful? Digging them up and posing next to the corpse having stuck a sombrero on its head - that would be disrespectful!

This is not what I'd do - have never visited anyone's grave after they were dead and buried but it is hardly disrespectful!

On her sons birthday, my friend and her children visits his grave (he was still born) they take cards and balloons and teddies and take photos to remember the day. They post the pictures on facebook for family and friends to look at, just as they would for if he was there to enjoy the day with them. How that is disrespectful I don't know.

Not disrespectful, but very disrespectful of you to start a thread slagging them off on the internet when they believe you to be a friend.

If you don't agree with what they do then unfriend them and move on.

YABU.

I’ve taken a selfie at my grandma’s grave and posted it on Facebook. I wanted to share my special time remembering her with my friends and family.

How is it disrespectful? I am remembering her, including her in my life. Why should grief be a private matter? Everyone goes through it.

Witnessed a person taking selfies at a wake recently. Smiling and throwing peace signs as they leaned beside the deceased laid out in the coffin. They then posted them to social media. I’m not friends with them on social media but I have to admit my jaw hit the floor

Loving the term ‘Cinderella complex’ there’s definitely a lot of that about on MN.

Thanks :) Yes, there's a real hatred of anything deemed 'attention seeking', although nobody has ever yet explained why it is so immoral not to want to be ignored all the time and why it is so terrible to want a little acknowledgement.

I've seen women on here derided as 'attention seeking' for exercising too hard in an exercise class, taking their clothes off in communal changing rooms and playing with hula hoops in wide open public spaces.

It's also reserved almost exclusively for women, which is very depressing. It's almost as if many people have internalised misogyny about women needing to sit down and shut up.