To want a lie in on holiday????!

[Goldmonday]

Going on holiday with DH is becoming extremely aggravating.

We are currently in Venice for a week and he insists that we wake up at 7.30 am every single day and are dressed, eaten breakfast and out of the hotel by 9. This is commonplace wherever we go. So we are out of the hotel by 9 am and not getting back until after midnight.

This coupled with the fact that we are up late drinking wine every night means I am becoming more exhausted than what I am at home, as he also doesn't like to go to bed before 11!!!!!

AIBU to want a holiday where I don't have to fit around someone else's sleeping routines?!?! I'm sick of being called boring because I want to sleep in and drink coffee on the balcony all morning.

I pointed out that I was too exhausted to have sex when I was being woken so early. I get my lie in now.

Unless there’s a specific thing we want to do or see early then if wakes up early and is good to go, they’ll go.

Big fan of a tactical nap in the afternoon. Also I struggle to stay up past ten....

Dh jogged off round New York on his own, I wandered round Venice at 6 am....alone.

I’m a bit wanting to get my moneys worth, dh sees weekends away as shag time...that causes more arguments...

we have come all the way here why do you want to waste time sleeping

There's a fairly simple answer to that - because it's even more of a waste of time going to see the sights if you're too tired to enjoy them.

You're getting around 6 hours' sleep a night and wandering around in the heat all day. That's not a holiday, that's an endurance test.

I’m like your DH, if I’m on holiday I want to use my time wisely to see as much as possible but I do see your point. He should let you have a lie in (not every morning but maybe every other).

I can't abide early risers. I can walk for miles, but I'm slow to warm up because I loathe mornings. Knowing he was like this, we'd have gone on separate hols.

You're there for a week, which is ample time for sightseeing and relaxing. I enjoy a slower than everyday pace when I'm on holiday, and would get fed up and stubborn if someone was chivvying me along all the time.

We flew half way around the world for our last holiday and sat on the same sun loungers for two weeks. Bliss.

@Goldmonday A holiday is ideal for sleeping. My last holiday was after my wedding and I was exhausted, the first two days I slept only getting up to eat. It done me the world of good. My DH was in his element because he loves to do nothing and just lie in the sun.

Point out to him that its not just you - Ask him to do a survey of his friends and family as to what the preferred holiday routine is.
I think you have been amazing doing that for him! Now some compromise. My preferred routine is

Lazy breakfast after lie in, out by 10 or 11 depending on plans, somewhere to chill and read book at some point in the afternoon, nice meal and quiet evening. DH prefers to do a little more, so he will often go for morning and evening walks too and I sometimes join him. We also usually have one day where we just chill at the house/hotel.

I don't think a siesta has to mean literally sleeping - but you can relax on a balcony or in bed or somewhere shady and quiet with a book. It does mean there is time to recharge.

YANBU.

DH is the same. Wakes up at the crack of dawn, whereas I like to sleep until at least 10am (at home, as well as on holiday!)

Our compromise is that we get up early on sightseeing days, but we have an earlier night the night before. We also chill in the hotel afterwards, rather than staying out ALL day.

On hotel/lazy days, he gets up when he likes and leaves me be. He'll usually go for breakfast on his own and then come back up and read on the balcony until I wake up.

This is why I often didn't enjoy family holidays when I was younger. At most I'd be allowed one lie in during the week :/

Last holiday me and DH woke up in time to take advantage of the very nice AI breakfast then went back to sleep for a couple of hours.

I totally recognise this.

I am an early bird and consider 8.00am as a long lie in. DP is the opposite.i don't mind being up late but only because I like drinking!

DP used to pretend to be a morning person but used to spend hours getting ready, having breakfast and then would be grumpy as fuck by 10am.

We found the afternoon siesta thing works wonders. He doesn't mind pretending a bit better if he does get some down time sex in the afternoon and I can see what I want before the crowds and take it easy in the afternoon. Plus are both ready for the evening which is DP's favourite bit. Works well when you have the kids too as they don't get bored or overtired.