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To want to call the police about neighbours kids party?

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DollyDayScream · 09/06/2018 22:30

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They are making a racket. Swearing, screaming, shouting, music, unidentifiable noises.

The parents have gone away/out for the night. Last time, they came home at midnight, turfed everyone out and left the neighbours (us) to deal with anti-social behaviour and bottle smashing.

It's Summer, so the windows are open, this makes the noise more intense.

Should I call the police or suck it up (again).?

OP posts:
ObiJuanKenobi · 09/06/2018 23:05

I appreciate in my experience there was a genuine risk and danger. Whereas OP yours is more just noise and nuisance but even so - I sympathise how horrid it is!

Original poster
DollyDayScream · 09/06/2018 23:07

I'm closing the windows. I'll be hot and still hear the shouting and bottle smashing.

I am annoyed. As someone who tries to be considerate, I find the lack of it in others very frustrating. But as I can glean from many responses, I am in a tiny minority.

OP posts:
Mollywobbles82 · 09/06/2018 23:08

You miss my point.

If what they want to do is play music and have a few drinks and be with their friends (which is generally what teenagers and young people want to do at weekends) then your desire for silence DOES impact on them. As you are discovering tonight, the two are mutually incompatible.

Answer honestly. Did you never participate in anything like this in your younger years?

nocoolnamesleft · 09/06/2018 23:10

Some years ago, my then next door neighbours held a very loud party. With lots of music and banging and shouting. All of which came in through the party wall. Until about 4am on Saturday. I was working in the morning, so very cross. The next morning, a discovered that one of the partiers had blocked me in. I took the most enormous satisfaction in ringing the doorbell. knocking on the door, hammering on the door, calling up, kicking the door in the morning, until one of them finally got up. I explained they had blocked me in and had to shift the car. "But it's a Saturday".

So I explained that some of us have to work on a Saturday, and that I would be doing so on less than 4 hours sleep. So they could shift the bloody car. Whole hungover house thoroughly woken. Aww diddums to them. At least they weren't having to do a 24 hour shift on fuck all sleep.

You need a way to waken them up bright and early.

AviatorShades · 09/06/2018 23:15

Tiny minority on MN , perhaps, Molly, but you're certainly not alone Flowers

Slimtimeagain · 09/06/2018 23:23

nocool your situation is way different to ops though. Op posted at about half 10. I think up to 12 is ok on a weekend.
My old neighbour used to call the police on us all the time when I was a student having pre drinks. We were out by 11 at the latest. And I wouldn't say we were that bad. The police just didn't do anything by the end because she was known for calling them so often every year when new people moved in. It was a very student street so to me it was kind of like moving next to a pub and then complaining about noise. She too used to ring the doorbell multiple times in the morning to wake us up. We just used to sleep through or open the door and then go back to sleep!

MrsTerryPratchett · 09/06/2018 23:24

As someone who tries to be considerate, I find the lack of it in others very frustrating.

I recognise this. My DM is considerate all the time. Overly so. And then mentally gives people demerit points for not being exactly as considerate as her.

I find that just understanding we are all different and giving people the benefit of the doubt works much better in terms of happiness.

Go round at some point and ask them nicely not to go on elderly neighbours drive. Nicely! If they are generally OK, they will work on that. That's reasonable.

nocoolnamesleft · 09/06/2018 23:25

Slimtime

You'll notice I still didn't call the police. Though I guess I did get a little restorative justice...

dadshere · 09/06/2018 23:28

The police are unlikely to come, it is a civil matter. They will advise you to call the council.

MyOtherUsernameisaPun · 09/06/2018 23:29

Your council will have noise control officers - they have the power to break up parties. I would call them, the number will be online.

iamyourequal · 09/06/2018 23:31

Answer honestly. Did you never participate in anything like this in your younger years?
I bet she didn’t! She’s away to bed at 10.30am on a Saturday night in JuneGrin.

IWantMyHatBack · 09/06/2018 23:32

Go over and tell them to stfu then

Lizzie48 · 09/06/2018 23:33

I get that it's frustrating, but it's a Saturday evening, and still before midnight so YWDBU to call the police on them. It doesn't sound like it happens all that often so I think on this occasion you should suck it up, close your windows and get yourself to sleep. It's not as if it's excessively hot tonight after all.

Teenagers are allowed to have a party on a Saturday evening occasionally. If there is any broken glass, go round and point it out to them tomorrow, they can sweep it up themselves.

Is this something that happens regularly? If it is, I do understand you feeling annoyed. If not, then just put up with it this once.

Voci · 09/06/2018 23:46

I would call the police. Unless: I know the people in question and it's a one off, they have warned me beforehand or something similar ... They would most certainly turn up since making excessive noise/vulgarity etc between 22.00 and 7.00 is prohibited where I live and results in hefty fines.

Linzerelli13 · 09/06/2018 23:49

@dollydayscream, FWIW I work for the Police and we get calls to deal with what you are describing all the time. Sometimes, we are in the area or passing through whilst an route to another job and quite happy to assist if we can. If there's no one available, the info can get passed to your neighbourhood team who call follow up slow time- like going round and having a word with the neighbours about being considerate in future, not allowing antisocial behaviour to occur in their property etc. Or if you have a similar service in your area, they can refer you to the local authority ASB team who can deal with some of the issues you've described. Calling 101 wont hurt. Just don't expect that a patrol will turn up right away to deal with it. If they can, they will. If they can't, you'll get a phone call to follow up. Hopefully it ends peacefully for you!

mumtomaxwell · 10/06/2018 00:07

YANBU but don’t involve the police.

All those on here saying ‘let them be’ have clearly never had anti social noisy neighbours! And in our 24/7 society loads of people work early at weekends so it’s not reasonable behaviour ever.

The first time my old neighbours kids had a party like the one described in the OP I complained to the parents. They apologised and all was well.

A few weeks later it happened again and they apologised again!

After the third time I rang their landlord. I rang him every single time they did it from then on. They moved out after a few months! I wouldn’t hesitate to do exactly the same again.

McFugget · 10/06/2018 00:14

pity that all the pigs on this thread cant all be put together...

Crikey.

MrsTerryPratchett · 10/06/2018 00:49

They would most certainly turn up since making excessive noise/vulgarity etc between 22.00 and 7.00 is prohibited where I live and results in hefty fines.

Is it Switzerland? Because that country is literally the most boring place I have ever been. What is 'vulgarity' BTW?

MrsTerryPratchett · 10/06/2018 00:52

All those on here saying ‘let them be’ have clearly never had anti social noisy neighbours! And in our 24/7 society loads of people work early at weekends so it’s not reasonable behaviour ever.

Oh and I had neighbours that would come home at 3am from wherever they had been and blast music until 5am. Every single weekend night. Which is why I know 10.30am on one Saturday isn't so bad.

LuluJakey1 · 10/06/2018 01:04

The police here would come out to that. Our neighbours a couple of doors up have a party with their teenagers every summer. One of the neighbours always rings the police at just after 10. The neighbour who has the party is an ex-policeman and very unpleasant if you ask him to turn the noise down- arrogant rugby man who just argues and sneers at everyone. So the police are rung and they always go round and tell him and wait until he has complied They check back as well by driving past. We take it in turns to ring because the lady who lives right next door is old and scared to ring incase he finds out it is her so the rest of us ring.
We have wondered if the police like to go and tell him to keep the noise down because they disliked him also.

Original poster
DollyDayScream · 10/06/2018 07:38

I didn't call the police.

It went in until 3.30.

The windows were closed, I was hot and frequently woken by shouting and breaking glass.

I'm obviously grumpy and tired this morning, but at least the kids who get to sleep all day had a good time.

OP posts:
Angrybird345 · 10/06/2018 07:43

Tidy up outside and make noise!!

DaffoDeffo · 10/06/2018 07:52

Did you go round and ask them to shut up?

WhiteCoyote · 10/06/2018 07:55

Around about now is a great time to get the lawnmower out. Wink

CharltonLido73 · 10/06/2018 07:56

I'm obviously grumpy and tired this morning, but at least the kids who get to sleep all day had a good time.

Led Zeppelin on max volume, speakers turned to face the party wall - that's what you need to do right now.

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