To want to call the police about neighbours kids party?

[DollyDayScream]

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They are making a racket. Swearing, screaming, shouting, music, unidentifiable noises.

The parents have gone away/out for the night. Last time, they came home at midnight, turfed everyone out and left the neighbours (us) to deal with anti-social behaviour and bottle smashing.

It's Summer, so the windows are open, this makes the noise more intense.

Should I call the police or suck it up (again).?

YABU
Please don't waste the police's time.

YANBU to find it annoying, but being annoying isn't a criminal offence. Lots of people are annoying, lots of the time.

10.30 on a Saturday evening isn't unreasonable to be having a party. tbf, they are just as entitled to have their windows open as you - more probably as it will be hot with lots of people in the house.

pity that all the pigs on this thread cant all be put together...

Eh?

I think you have to allow your neighbours a few parties every year.

They will hate you forever. Son't do it. We all were teenagers. This isn't all the time. Live with it, or go over and score some pot to help you sleep :)

@MrsTerryPratchett

That all may be true but around here only the dickhead parents let their kids behave in such away that it seriously impacts on their neighbours, fortunately that family moved away and WE all had a party lol!

The ‘people need to sleep’ argument... does that mean there should be some kind of national silent curfew of 10pm every night? With police enforcement? I get that it’s annoying but as something that happens very rarely and isn’t even that late on a weekend, it’s hardly the worst. Listen to some meditation stuff on YouTube with headphones, that’ll block it out.

Ok, ok, I won't call the police, but I'm really pissed off.

Everyone else on this street is lovely, but this family are different. Just very selfish, do whatever they want.

I will call the police if they trespass on my elderly neighbours land though, she has enough on her plate without putting up with the antics of pissed up kids who haven't been taught consideration.

Under 18 or not makes no difference to level of police interest.

Broken glass etc is not your responsibility. Refer to the parents or the hosts themselves if the former have not returned.

If this kind of thing bothers you regularly, I recommend a good white noise machine. It was a life changer for me.

She would be terrified and is in ill health.

Stop focusing on it and go to sleep then, getting all irate won't help and you definitely can't sleep with your phone, or whatever it is you're using to access mumsnet, in your hand!

Now you are getting angry at them for stuff they haven’t done... imagining them trespassing on your ‘terrified’ elderly neighbours land... sure sign you’ve gone into a rage, which is most likely the real reason you can’t sleep! Stop dwelling on the anger and the “what if they do this!!!” rage and try to chill out. You are making a mountain out of a molehills

@DollyDayScream yes make sure if they climb on your roof or throw bricks through your windows that you report them for that too (you do realise these things haven't happened yet?)

I suggest you maybe put some headphones in and try to get some kip!

@DollyDayScream I feel your pain. I ended up moving house because of neighbour noise annoyance. They would have massive parties every time there was a boxing match on pay per view and end up all screaming at the tv at 5am. However I never called the police, suppose I never thought it was a police matter plus was a scaredy cat incase they turned nasty.

Windows closed, play white noise in kids' bedrooms? My baby is snoozing away right now to 10 hrs "rain on the pond" on YouTube

So true buglife, half the stuff humans worry about is stuff doesn’t happen.

In the morning collect all their rubbish ie broken bottles/ wrappers whatever it is and return it onto their drive.
They should also face inconvenience of tidying the mess too.

Sweep the glass up and return it to the house it came from, on the drive, near their car tyres. It is theirs after all.

Oh Thanks ElMarino.

Obviously, if I could sleep despite the noise, I would actually be asleep and not on mumsnet.

I swear some of you are so intent on making "sound" "reasonable"
"Firm but fair" remarks that you don't actually think your argument through!!

Sorry to be devils advocate when in reality I too hate hearing neighbour noise.. (however like a pp said, I fully recognise that this is unreasonable.)

But when you say they're a selfish family who just do whatever they want (e.g have a party) are you not equally selfish in just wanting to do what you want (e.g go to sleep with your windows open)?

What makes your desire for peace and quiet any less selfish than their desire to celebrate whatever they're celebrating? In fact, could one not argue that given that you nearly always get what you want with no issues that they should be allowed to get what they want once in a blue moon? It's not like they're at it every night or even every week.

I say it as someone who also has a bad habit of fixating on annoying and unwanted noise such as my nightmare NDN who plays shit music at all hours. The more I focus on it the more it annoys me. If you make the conscious decision to rise above it and not let it bother you then you will find it much easier to fall asleep. The fact that you're posting on mumsnet complaining that you won't get any sleep doesn't show that you're trying to go to sleep, it shows that you'd rather complain about the noise and the fact that they're preventing you from going to sleep.

*Molly
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What I do doesn't impact on anyone else! It doesn't bother them, disturb them.

I totally get where you're coming from OP. When my dd had a sleepover for her 15th birthday next door complained about the noise. Her dd needed to sleep. This was a Friday night.

I'm sitting here tonight listening to the racket coming from next door. It's their dd's birthday.

They are far more noisy than my dd and her friends were. It's not a police matter though. Let's keep the police to deal with real emergencies.

I completely get you OP
My neighbours at the back have teenagers (under 18) who do this every time their parents go out for an evening or go away.
Last time there were about 20 drunk teenagers in their garden letting off fireworks - we called the police because we thought there was a genuine risk but by the time they arrived one of them had let off a firework in an enclosed trampoline and caused severe burns to one of the young girls there. I'll never forget that night now and if ever they are stupid enough to do it all again I wouldn't think twice about calling the police.

If you get off your phone you'll have a 100% greater chance of going to sleep.

A couple of years ago I know someone who had her Big Number birthday party - marquis on the lawn, etc. She asked our local police for advice about possible noise disturbance.
Their advice was to invite all the neighbours to the shindig but if there was even one complaint she would have to shut down at 11 pm.
Someone did complain and yes, she had to continue the party more quietly indooors.
11pm is the cut off generally for noise disturbance, even at weekends, so Dolly, if the disturbance is still going on, in your shoes I'd be phoning my local copshop.

@DollyDayScream it's true though. You're probably much more likely to sleep if you ignore the noise and put some of your own music on/headphones in, accept that they are being loud and try to sleep. Moaning on mn (or being in front of a screen at all) isn't going to help. The general consensus is that you don't call the police, try and get some sleep (I suggest you do something such as watch a film if you can't), get over it for the evening and deal with the mess tomorrow.

Or of course you could stay on mn until they stop making noise and stay awake even longer