To lie about my name??

[GetInMyNelly]

I have an abusive ex, who "fb stalks" me.

I resorted to deleting my fb and setting a new one up in a completely different name.

I simply use it for selling sites. No photos or info of me on there.

However, I've set up 2 meetings (babysitting & childminding) with this account.

How do I tell them I'm not "Sarah"??

I don't want to think I come with issues as I don't.

Most people either use their name plus middle name so no surname

But I would look at your profile and find it odd you don't have photos or information to be honest.

Easy just say due to safety concerns and privacy you use a fake name for fb. I use the name Jen for mine. My name is not jen in real life. As long as i explain no one finds it odd.

If it is just a different first name you could say "I normally go by x" which suggests Sarah is your name but you don't use it. Plenty of people use their middle name or whatever for Fb for privacy reasons so doesn't look weird.

I've had to completely change it.

I've absolutely nothing on there bar the groups I am a part of.

I second the whole having nothing on there, I'd think it was odd too.

I'm meeting one woman tomorrow an don't know whether to send her a message and explain??

Plenty of people eg. Teachers, don’t use their real name on FB. I wouldn’t worry about it. I’d just tell them your real name upon meeting with them.

Why didn’t you say in your first message? This would ring alarm bells to me as a parent, I wouldn’t hire you.

I know loads of people who was fake FB names due to working with the public and not wanting people to be able to find them (such as social workers) could you just say something along those lines? Or just that you don't use FB so didn't use your real name to avoid friend requests.

Three members of my family are known to everyone by their middle names, their first names are only used in official circumstances; could you say ‘Sarah’ is your first name, but you prefer to be known as ‘Judy’? A lie, but then you’re referred to as your actual name and it’s a normal enough thing to not bat an eyelid at.

Are you going to meet a childminder or are you advertising as a childminder?

are you the parent or the childminder?

I'm not providing any services with these people.

They are looking after MY DC

I’m a childminder and I’d still think it’s very odd if a parent didn’t mention this in their first message.

You have a very strange writing style OP.

I think it's ok. I have a fake account too for all my hundreds of decluttering groups one or two things. No friends and no personal info on there.

@GeorgieTheGorgeousGoat you are not the first person to say that!

It gets pointed out all the time but it's what I've been doing ever since I can remember.

My dh is a police officer and my friend works I. A nursery. They both use fake names on Facebook to remain anonymous

I always assume that someone using a false name has something to hide, and not in a good way :(

How odd, why didn't you think of this in the first place?

It is not uncommon to use a false name or variant of your name on FB.

Ach dont worry so much, just explain to childminder when you meet why you use a different name. To protect yourself. Job done.

@NotSuchASmugMarriedNow1

@Tara12

Not an excuse no but I'm going through a MC currently and it honestly slipped my mind. I just didn't think of it

notsuchasmugmarried really? Why is that? I use a false name because i have a stalker who likes to follow me even online.

Op hope your ok.

This would ring alarm bells to me as a parent, I wouldn’t hire you.

^This

MarthaArthur - because everybody I know that uses a false name has had something to hide, and not in a good way.

I work in the public sector, and almost all of my colleagues use fake names for FB, so do I. Tell them Sarah is your middle name and you only use it for FB for privacy reasons. It's very common in some professions.