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When you realise why he's an ex

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Ellie99 · 09/06/2018 15:31

So we took the DCs to the farm and a nearby park, me and stbexh. I had an Argos delivery coming between 2 and 6pm. Anyway, at the park I received a text from Argos saying that they will be there between 2 and 3.30pm, at 2.20pm Argos delivery guy called me and said he’s outside the house waiting, I told him I’ll be there in 10 mins and hang up. The park is literally 10-15 mins from our house anyway stbexh heard it and said

Him: There’s no way you’ll be there in 10 mins, you’re such an idiot. Why are you lying to him?

.. I was shocked at he would call me an idiot for such a small thing that had nothing to do with him and in the park!

Me: Why are you speaking to me like that? Even if I don’t get there in time, I’ll call the guy and tell him I won’t make it and I’ll get it delivered another day.

Him: pointing at me, you annoy me and I can’t just sit there and let you lie to someone.

By this point people were looking at us, because he made it look like we were arguing and I just walked off and stopped speaking to him. On the way home we didn’t speak, but I just looked at him and thought to myself this is exactly why we’re getting divorced, it kind of reinforced my feelings. It was such a fun day, and the kids and I really enjoyed ourselves, we stroked the animals, had some ice cream. And the he just killed it in the end.

I made it home on time and the sweet delivery guy was waiting for me in his van, just outside my house.

Anyone had a moment like this where you just think, this is exactly WHY you’re an ex.

OP posts:
redexpat · 09/06/2018 15:39

No but it sounds oh so sweet!

Medea13 · 09/06/2018 16:30

This is missing the point but it was really rude of you not to return home for 2pm when you got the 90-min delivery window. You're lucky the argos delivery person waited for you at all. I can't believe you'd make them call to an empty house, ring you, and then wait 10+ minutes for you to mosey home...

CoolGirlsNeverGetAngry · 09/06/2018 16:32

What Medea said...

AllStar14 · 09/06/2018 16:35

Agree with pp why weren't you home for the delivery? I don't think many drivers would have waited, I believe they have quite strict schedules.

GetInMyNelly · 09/06/2018 16:46

This isn't what op is asking!!

Stop commenting on a moot issue.

BottleOfJameson · 09/06/2018 16:47

I think he was rude but did have a point that it was unfair to get the guy to wait if you weren't really going to be back in 10 minutes - I'm surprised the delivery guy was even prepared to wait that long!

Merryoldgoat · 09/06/2018 16:48

Hmmmmm. I’m a bit conflicted here. The incident you recount here would’ve really annoyed me and I’d probably said so but no shouting or pointing.

That said isolated incidents like this don’t really tell the full story I suppose.

Original poster
Ellie99 · 09/06/2018 16:56

I know I was lucky and shouldn't have let him wait, but tbh is it ok for him to shout call me names and point at me in public? Hmm

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rainingcatsanddog · 09/06/2018 17:08

Learn your lesson and send your ex to the park with the kids next time so you don't have to endure his shit.

redexpat · 09/06/2018 20:56

No of course its not ok. How soon will he become an ex?

Naynayba · 09/06/2018 21:01

Yup i have moments like this allll the time. I told stbxh i was going to do some of the diy he had refused to do fot YEARS during our marriage. Hey presto a few hours later he and his brother had completed the job without my asking. Great job fellas...why didnt you do it when i first needed it and asked tho? Im pleased its done but angry at the same time Hmm

nomoremrsniceguy · 09/06/2018 21:04

Absolutely OP. Every time I have a conversation with my ex he confirms for me that I have made the right decision. Stay positive. It will work out just fine for you.

ToEarlyForDecorations · 09/06/2018 21:15

What.......

The stbx has been a rude cunting arsehole at a public event and all some posters want to do it get goady about the bastard Argos delivery ?

Which she met the delivery guy at home as agreed via phone.

Gah.....

BanginChoons · 09/06/2018 21:31

Yanbu. It sounds like you will be happier without him.

But why are you going on days out together? Maybe time to put some boundaries in place.

Glumglowworm · 09/06/2018 21:36

Of course YANBU about the way he treated you. But why are you going for family days out with such a dick even after you’re separated? Surely the point of splitting up is to no longer have to spend time together?

And fwiw YABU to not be home for the delivery and to expect him to wait for you. They have tight schedules to keep and you’re given a very reasonable 90 minute window to be home for. You were at the park, it’s not like you had an urgent appointment that couldn’t be rescheduled, you should’ve left in time to be home for 2pm.

nomoremrsniceguy · 09/06/2018 21:37

What ToEarlyForDecorations said. Totally agree.

MoonsAndJunes · 09/06/2018 21:44

You were rude not to go home when you were told about the delivery window, you were rude to tell the driver you'd be there in 10 min when you're 10/15 mins away.
Your X was rude to point his finger at you and call you an idiot even if he did think you were taking the piss.

CristalTipps · 09/06/2018 22:37

Why can't we comment on both things? Yes the stbx is clearly a knobhead. I don't think anyone disagrees with that so there's not much to discuss really. Divorce the tosser.

But also, you shouldn't head out for the afternoon when you know you have a delivery coming that you need to sign for. If you know it's coming between 2-3:30pm you make sure you're home before 2pm. I'm surprised he waited for you.

bumbleboots · 09/06/2018 22:49

totally rude and selfish of you to not be home for your delivery at the correct time.

NoFucksImAQueen · 10/06/2018 00:14

if you knew it was due at that time why didn't you go back for 2? you say you know you're lucky but you seem so casual about it, do you not see how rude that is? if they had to then deliver it to you another day that's more work added to another day for them and you would have made them later than they needed to be for the rest of their calls.
are you always so entitled?
your ex was rude but you aren't coming off any better and maybe he s sick of it?

NoFucksImAQueen · 10/06/2018 00:20

toearly- but op was equally rude telling the delivery guy I'll be there in 10 minutes and hanging up.
she didn't meet him at the time, she was late and kept him waiting because she didn't want to go home for the time slot she'd been given. of course people are going to comment on it

Shumpalumpa · 10/06/2018 00:54

Sounds like it's death a by a thousand cuts for you, OP.

That kind of behaviour is exhausting and wears on your confidence over time.

You are doing the right thing. Did you initiate the split?

Shumpalumpa · 10/06/2018 00:56

toearly- but op was equally rude telling the delivery guy I'll be there in 10 minutes and hanging up.

Don't take everything so literally. OP probably meant she kept the short i.e. Said bye and hung up so she could start walking.

she didn't meet him at the time, she was late and kept him waiting because she didn't want to go home for the time slot she'd been given. of course people are going to comment on it

Well the driver should have just told OP he wasn't go to wait. His choice to wait.

Butterflykissess · 10/06/2018 01:01

im surpised he waited aswell. next time dont go on family days out with an ex.

GetInMyNelly · 10/06/2018 09:23

Lord knows! You lot need to get a grip.

The delivery driver was fine with waiting!!

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