Music teacher used my daughters clarinet and then expected her to play it

[HarrietSpecter]

AIBU? I was horrified. Isn't this totally unhygienic??

She also said that the smell left on it made her nauseous and almost sick.

It was a supply teacher at school, so not her usual teacher.

Should I say something to school, or am I being unreasonable?

And I forgot to mention fingering is important too. A thought for you I'd blow anything people.

Off to bed now - dreaming sounds of clarinet - and thanks for reminding me, that i should get another one.

Are you sure he didn't use his own mouthpiece. My daughter usually takes just the mouthpiece to school and attaches it to one of the schools own instruments for her lesson. She only brings her entire instrument for concerts and rehearsals. Likewise if the teacher wants to show her something she will transfer her own clarinet mouthpiece to the one her student is using. The school encourages this as it helps guard against instruments getting lost, damaged etc.

Yes, the mouthpiece can be interchangeable but if there was a problem with the reed then the best way to test it out is to actually try it. So not a lot of point changing the mouthpiece.

They should have switched to their own mouth piece when appropriating a students instrument, which they ought not to do either.
Yes you should complain to the school.

I don’t think you’re overreacting or being unreasonable at all.
It’s gross and for the people saying they wouldn’t make a big about it, you don’t just blow, you put your top teeth directly onto the mouthpiece.

I remember my clarinet teacher (Male) using mine and I felt totally sick.
Putting your mouth directly on something which has been in a stranger adults mouth is not only gross but impersonal and unnecessary.

Op, I would speak to her music teacher and say you’re not happy.
m.youtube.com/watch?v=TEIxSabJ67c

Oh FFS. Get a life.

Well, at least you don't have to worry about her ever kissing anyone.

Verbena

Oh dear
Lesson one don't turn lip under.
Lesson two don't bite the mouthpiece .
Lesson three don't blow cheeks out.

But apart from that

Thanks for your opinion, I still don't think I'm being unreasonable

Why post on AIBU then?

and YABU my flute teacher played my instrument sometimes and she was a fab teacher and very well qualified. Music teachers do this, it is a thing.

Your daughter has been brought up by you and you are clearly paranoid about these things so she will be. There are germs everywhere, there is saliva on all sorts of surfaces. It's just a fact of life.

Hateisnotgood 😀😀😀

Reminds me of my favourite Debussy prelude, The Girl With The Flaxen Hair fingered by Harold Craxton

Get a grip, please.

And of course who could forget this seminal work?:

www.amazon.co.uk/Penetrating-Wagners-Ring-Capo-Paperback/dp/0306804379/ref=mp_s_a_1_1?keywords=penetrating+wagner%27s+ring&pi=AC_SX236_SY340_FMwebp_QL65&tag=mumsnetforum-21&ie=UTF8&qid=1528411969&sr=8-1

OP, YANBU a million times over.

Musicians do not do this, they know better if they are professionals. They need to be able to work, not have sore throats and other things they've picked up. It may be common amongst amateurs though.

I do know it can happen at the highest level of teaching, it doesn't make it right though.
My dd would point blank refuse and if there was any come back she'd get a hcp to back her up, so would her peers.

Plastic reeds are better for being able to be wiped, there is no time a teacher would need to test a reed though.
The student can either play on it or they can't, it's either suitable for them or not. If they need another put a new one on.
I've known some players go through a whole box of reeds to find a good one.

given she'll spend her teenage years snogging randoms in pubs/nightclubs I think you're being a teeny bit neurotic here.

This ^^
And she will, however much you think she won't now!

gilly apart from blowing cheeks, I was taught to bite top of mouthpiece, just like girl in video.

Ew not OK.
I play the clarinet, some people here who clearly don't aren't getting it. The mouthpiece goes in your mouth, right in there, the tongue touches the reed. Verbena is right.
I'd be making a complaint OP.

Verbena

Very bad technique, not a natural position for air flow if you consider it.
Biting which is what occurs with that position only goes to restrict.
The positioning should be far more open using muscles which are developed through practice.

I'm very hygienically lax by MN standards but I'd be a bit grossed out by this.

And the argument that it's OK because you kiss people just grosses me out even more because now I'm picturing a schoolgirl kissing a teacher.

It's really not a big deal.
It's fine.
This is ok , not unusual at all.

Just give it a wipe. As you would a spoon

It’s disgusting. I’d definitely complain xx

It's completely normal. Conplain if you want. The teacher was probably disgusted to have to demonstrate on a childs instrument anyway- but sometimes needs must! She should have asked to go and wash it afterwards .

YANBU OP, it's totally, totally gross. A clarinet reed is well coated with saliva which soaks in, so it's not a case of simply wiping it afterwards.
However, despite that, I wouldn't bother complaining if I were in your position. As you can see from the responses on this thread most people won't take it seriously. In any case it's done now. Personally, I'd be speaking to my DD about how to deal with the situation should it arise again.

imagine if someone spat at you - that's 'just' saliva So is kissing but I digress.

Perhaps your DD will find a string or percussion instrument may suit her better?

Then again the amount of kissing that goes on amongst musicians in their teenage years...

YANBU

I wouldn’t be happy about it either.