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To ask for really silly things that made you love your DP

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Hamandcheesebaguette · 07/06/2018 20:03

Silly, not at all romantic things your DP/DH whatever has done that made you feel a rush of love for them.

Mine is really weird not sorry

I thought I had worms yesterday.
As well as several other health issues that have been making me miserable. Retrospectively I think I was overreacting but we have all medicated in case. When we turned off Netflix to go to sleep he (like he does every night) said "Night night honey, love you" and I said night night honey, love you too" and he patted my tummy and said night night Jims.

As in, EARTHWORM JIM (cartoon from the 90s that I loved). Not only did it help me get over the sheer embarassment at having to text him at work that I might have wot, and was feeling miserable and gross about it all day, he just cheered me right up and I had to grab his face and give him a big kiss.

Oh and when I was ill and asked him to get me something nice from the shop and he bought me fish fingers "because he has never seen me sad whilst eating a fish finger sandwich
"
Has your DP ever done anything stupid that really cheered you up?

OP posts:
DitheringBlidiot · 07/06/2018 23:22

When he curls up into a tiny ball and snuggles into me and says he feels safe. My heart bursts when I know the upbringing he has had

DitheringBlidiot · 07/06/2018 23:23

Or when he brings me wine home and says “treats, wine” in the style
Of the child catcher “Icecream, lollipops”

FairNotFair · 07/06/2018 23:25

Years ago, a colleague came back from lunch and said "I just spotted MrFair helping an old lady across the road"

sirmione16 · 07/06/2018 23:34

He often leaves for work before me, and whether I'm awake or asleep he will always kiss me goodbye, on the hand, shoulder or cheek. Without fail. Also I get a text simply with hearts on when he's arrived to work (and I do the same when I'm awake) it's like a reassuring everything's okay and I love you text in our own language. There's so many other examples but it honestly has become just a part of life!

Heighwayqueen · 07/06/2018 23:40

He turns my electric blanket on for me every night so my bed is nice and warm when I hop in. I never ask, he just does it.

MonumentVal · 07/06/2018 23:43

He blows me a kiss to say goodnight and I pretend to catch it in my mouth, so he pretends to aim it at funny angles...

He tried to get me through finals helping me revise various diagrams but he made up what the letters stood for because he knows no biology at all. 20 years later he asked me what on earth his story about the QE2 etc actually meant.

He bought me some lovely watercolours and paper after hearing about a really dismissive art teacher I had at school. Believing in me and encouraging me to try stuff is why I fell for him.

FoodGloriousFud · 08/06/2018 09:02

Not silly but he will do absolutely anything for anyone. If someone needs help he does it without question. Kindest person I've ever met.

RhubarbRhubarbRhubarbRhubarb · 08/06/2018 09:09

Aw these are lovely!

OhHolyFuck · 08/06/2018 09:17

These are lovely, gives me hope that there are nice men out there
and if anyone's got a spare one, send them my way!

MyRelationshipIsWeird · 08/06/2018 09:18

Quite early on in our relationship my DP took me out to Tesco late one night and told me to pick some posh orange juice - more than one kind!

I’d previously told him that XH used to go through the shopping receipts complaining about any frivolous purchases I’d made. DP instructed me to choose whatever I wanted because I’m worth it!

£5 worth of juice may seem a little thing, but it was so lovely to me,and stand out above all the expensive things he’s bought me since because of how sweet it was.

He also didn’t make a fuss when I’d forgotten my Cineworld card and had to go home and get it. I felt terrible for making him drive another 10 mins and he was just so chilled about it. XH would have made me feel terrible about that too! He wasn’t a bad man, just very regimented and set in his ways. DP is the polar opposite Grin

crispysausagerolls · 08/06/2018 09:21

When a specialist told me I had to have an operation and it was highly unlikely I would ever conceive, and I thought I would never be happy again - he made me laugh within about 5 minutes of seeing him with his attitude of "you have eggs, I have sperm, we have the raw ingredients to somehow make something happen". It was just so silly and optimistic.

Also, he had never had a dog and in the beginning was so annoyed with our puppy doing normal puppy things eg DH left his breakfast on the side of coffee table, puppy obviously ate it. DH wanted to send him back to the breeder! Fastforward a little while and he is always rolling around on the floor with the puppy, letting him kiss him on the mouth (which I think is disgusting) and as soppy as hell.

Luxembourgmama · 08/06/2018 09:24

Him being late back to work after we met for lunch because he took the time to persuade a caterpillar to get onto one of his business cards so he could move it away from the footpath so it wouldn't get squished. Totally melted my heart.

MyRelationshipIsWeird · 08/06/2018 09:25

These are so lovely, it really is the little Jim’s things isn’t it.

FASH84 · 08/06/2018 09:25

Bought me earrings from the cat, German Christmas cookie hearts with ich liebe dich on them, with the message 'merry Christmas love you and your ears, and I don't understand you whatever language you speak, love catname' . For context I speak German, I tell DH off for saying things to the cat in an affectionate tone (oh you've got such a massive nose, you're such a dim little creature) because I say he'll get upset (I know he won't but it's an ongoing thing) and the cat had a weird habit when young of waking me up by trying to suckle my earlobes, which I found both disturbing and gross.

multivac · 08/06/2018 09:27

We got together in my gap year, between sixth form and university. He's 8 years older than me, which seemed like a massive age gap at the time - and I was pretty immature in many ways, although I'd left home, and we were living together by then. Certainly, I was inexperienced in relationship terms (he definitely wasn't).

I didn't want to leave him to take up my university place, three hours away from our flat. The morning I had to go, I sobbed hopelessly while waiting for my mum to come and pick me up to drive me there.

He was practical, pragmatic, and solid as a rock. Just before I got in the car, he gave me a huge hug, and said: "Do well. Win awards. Make lots of friends. Don't sleep with any of them."

I laughed through my tears. And I did; I didn't; I did; I didn't. That was 27 years ago.

littlestrawby · 08/06/2018 09:30

soddingunicorns that made me cry. how absolutely lovely

BoneThugs · 08/06/2018 09:35

because he has never seen me sad whilst eating a fish finger sandwich
See, that right there is true love! Buying flowers and chocolates and all that is sweet, but you know they really love you when they think about the things you didn’t realise they’d even noticed. Like when I’ll call DH at work sometimes just to hear his voice because the kids have stressed me out, or work or anything. I don’t even tell him I’m stressed, he’ll just know and he always comes home with a little treat for me. We couldn’t go out once for our anniversary as dc were sick so I asked him what he wanted me to cook, and he said ham and cheese toastie. I didn’t even remember but apparently it was the first meal I ever made for him when we were first dating. Love that man

serendipitintea · 08/06/2018 09:37

That he can spin out a stupid hilarious story at the drop of the hat. When I laid on him one day and told him he's comfy, he spun out that he was a couch in a past life. A gorgeous beige one who was the centre of the family and was treated well. But then he got traded for a super corner couch and was given to a family who let their kids jump on him and dog sleep on him. He eventually ended up ending his days in the tip, and came back as a human in his current life. And that's how he came to be so comfy.

He's absolutely fucking weird Hmm

littlestrawby · 08/06/2018 09:39

I was about 24 weeks pregnant and had had a panic about reduced movement while I was away for the night looking after my dad (all was fine with the baby). I'd also had a terrible night's sleep the night before in my parent's house as their bed for some reason destroyed my back. When I got home the next day he had laid a trail of notes on the floor from the front door to our living room. Each one said something like "sit back and relax" "treat yourself" etc. and then led to our living room which had a big comfy pillow and duvet arrangement, a hot water bottle, a pile of treats and Greys anatomy box set waiting on the tv!

KittyHawke80 · 08/06/2018 09:39

My kids’ dad is a moody, ill-tempered fuck. But he can be so kind. A friend came into my work to tell me she’d been queuing at the supermarket, and a little old lady the next line over couldn’t pay for her stuff: she was so embarrassed and was getting flustered over what to back. Apparently, the cashier was being a bit of a turd, too, pointing to the Victoria sponge and saying: “Well, you don’t actually need that, do you?” etc etc. KD paid for the old lady’s shopping because he’s lovely. But he’s also an arsehole so, knowing him, he probably called the cashier an effing bitch, or something.

fluffypudcats · 08/06/2018 09:45

These are all so cute and I am incredibly envious (single spinster teacher with cats!)

@cheshiremama89 that had me laughing out loud, has really tickled me.

@Avonandice that is so adorably wonderful

BuntyII · 08/06/2018 09:45

It's not really silly as in daft. But the moment I was most overwhelmed with love for DH was the morning of my Caesarean section. He put my surgical stockings on for me because I couldn't reach my feet.

FoodGloriousFud · 08/06/2018 10:31

@SoddingUnicorns That really is the kindest thing. He sounds like a wonderful man.

SoddingUnicorns · 08/06/2018 11:03

@FoodGloriousFud he is, it’s part of why I love him so much. He’s decent, a fundamentally decent and kind man. I’m very lucky Smile and I don’t take that for granted. He does silly stuff too but those small acts of kindness really make me love him more.

echt · 08/06/2018 11:08

A lovely thread. Such good chaps.

It made me cry too much to write about my late DH.

Thanks to Ham for starting this thread.