....to be annoyed by my son's Father's Day song

[artmo]

So my son is 5 and is practising songs for a little Father's Day concert the school are doing for the dads next week. So last night he's just singing along to himself and he sings....
' don't tell mum cos she'll get cross. In our house my dad's the boss....'

I just really don't think it's ok but not sure! Don't really want him thinking that, or singing that or even really considering the idea of there being a boss at all in the house. I know it's a joke but....

As a teacher I would agree you need to make them see this is completely inappropriate. I am like other posters however amazed they do so much for fathers day. Many schools quite rightly in my opinion don't due to the challenges of differing family dynamics. It is much fairer to ignore both days than risk upsetting children who have no father or mother in their lives!

These are all such interesting thoughts and I so appreciate you all taking the time to write. I do have a busy life and lots of other things to think about (we all do!) but at the same time trying to ensure that my son grows into a kind man who has respect for women is pretty high up on my priority list. This seems like a small thing on its own of course. But I think it represents an attitude of the school (even if it's just that they haven't changed the song lyrics for 20 years) that I am wary of. I guess it's horses for courses. It's a very traditional school and I am not a very traditional person...

Also wanted to say that I completely agree with those who have said it is inappropriate to be doing such a big thing for Father's Day anyway BTW.

It's a very traditional school

Traditional or not I would put money on the fact that not every child there has a father and I would imagine there are likely to be a couple who don't have a mother either (statistically this is likely even at the smallest of schools). I am amazed not one teacher has stopped to think how it would make these children feel, to celebrate fathers day on such a large public scale when they might not have a father.

I really hope you say something and that it makes someone stop and think about how cruel it could be.

I don't agree with Mother's or fathers day being celebrated outside the home; there are too many different family setups these days and families should choose what is celebrated and how

Definitely complain. I'm hoping that there might be a twist to it and DC say that's what he thinks and wink or something.

I do remember DS was learning songs about the alphabet many moons ago. Annie Apple makes aaing sounds was fine but Fireman Fred makes ffing sounds was not.

You are all so right. They shouldn't be celebrating it in such a public way anyway.

Ffs ! Why do schools do this ! What a stupid message to give to kids.

YANBU. The vast majority of mothers/fathers day songs, activities, etc are hugely outdated & don't reflect modern life.

🎵 My teacher came from Adam’s rib
She’s never heard of women’s lib 🎶

Inspired Lalliella 😆

🎵 My teacher came from Adam’s rib
She’s never heard of women’s lib 🎶
Her husband is the boss of her
And so in school she caused a stir.🎵

(Assuming teacher is female and married to a man in much the same way the school assumed all children have fathers, and fathers that are the boss of the household at that.)

Get a grip! It's a daft song lyric and is unlikely to overturn anything your child sees daily at home! I should think most children are intelligent enough to know it's silly.

I told my mum about this and she was horrified. She's 78 and was a 1950s housewife.