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To think a toddler telling me this in public wasn't rude!

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LittleMe03 · 06/06/2018 15:55

Just got off the bus with DC 22months. On the bus, sat in his pushchair he said to me 'I done a poo' I reply 'ok sweetie, we will be getting off the bus and home in a few mins'

Sat quietly again I hear a lady in the seat behind me tut and say to the lady next to her 'why do parents not teach their children to not say such rude disgusting things' I ignored it thinking, surely not talking about us? He's 22 months and it's not rude or disgusting, is it?? Confused

She then says 'my nappy needs changing would have done' so this time I know she is obviously talking about us so I turn to her and say 'he's just a little boy, he's not rude, that's ridiculous. Please keep your opinions to yourself'

She stays quiet for the next few minutes but just before we are about to get off the bus I hear her tut. I look at her to give her opportunity to tell me what the problem now was but she doesn't say anything, just stares! The women next to her looked embarrassed.

Hmm
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singadream · 08/06/2018 18:37

I would have taken the opportunity to teach her a few rude words of my own!

CantGetDecentNickname · 08/06/2018 18:39

You can teach them to say toilet all you want, but once they hear other kids saying “poo” and realise how much easier and fun it is to say that’s what they’ll use. The woman clearly knew little about kids. He was doing well to tell you. She was BU.

LuMarie · 08/06/2018 18:41

I think your child is doing well with potty training and articulation, full sentences and recognising then communicating bathroom needs!

The woman is rude, your child is definitely not!

I once was with a couple and their child, a little girl who looks a lot more like me than her Mama, we were on a train and she needed the bathroom but was scared of the moving room and we were almost home. I was holding her as the poor thing was screaming "I'm gonna pooooooooooo!!!!!!", I could barely stand up for laughing (she couldn't see my face and I was soothing her, I'll tell her about me almost having a bathroom accident from laughing when she's a lot older!), everyone on the train was smiling.

Including my friends who stood back with no attention on them and enjoyed what they said felt like the first thirty seconds of not worrying about how their child was behaving in public for three years because everyone assumed she was mine.

I heard a Mum and daughter in an airport bathroom once, the Mum was asking her daughter to use the toilet, the little girl said in a cute little worried tone "but you'll see my bum". The Mum answered "I see your bum every day" and the girl's cute response of "oh" as she realised the flaw in her concern was so cute:)

Personally I love it when random kids say funny or cute things. Brightens my day!

AmazingBouncingFerret · 08/06/2018 18:42

My son had not long been toilet trained when we visited a national trust property with my mum. He needed the loo so my mum took him in whilst I waited outside with my newborn daughter.
He came running out and proudly yelled to me ‘I did a poo on the toilet mum!’ Right in front of lots of poor people eating their cream teas outside the orangery cafe. I was slightly embarrassed but most of them laughed

bluebell1981 · 08/06/2018 18:43

Goodness, the time my 2 year old loudly announced in Sainsbury's that "my penis is itchy so I'm going to give it a scratch", followed by said scratch, would really have knocked her over!

People can be ridiculous - you handled it perfectly OP.

Littlenic73 · 08/06/2018 18:47

It's not like buses have toilets or he had a choice. If it's any consolation a 20something patient of mine asked if I minded if he farted yesterday, and then let rip. He then did it later in a room full of people, loudly and not at all subtly, lifting one cheek from the chair in a long ,loud rumble. The poor woman next to him was not remotely impressed! That would be far more offensive IMHO

GetInMyNelly · 08/06/2018 18:48

Anyone in favour of the woman kicking off. Please remember you were all once BABIES!!

Stop being stuck up your own ass

NataliaOsipova · 08/06/2018 18:49

*Your son is two and he politely stated something that was going on, to which you replied nicely.

That woman is a grown adult and she loudly criticised other people on the bus, making them feel uncomfortable.

In that scenario, who's the one with the bad manners???*

This. This! Absolutely.

LuMarie · 08/06/2018 18:50

Genius children in these stories.

Personally loving the SLUTS!!! SLUTS EVERYWHERE!!!!!!!

Terramirabilis · 08/06/2018 19:09

Woman on bus was a loon. Don't give her another thought.

Topseyt · 08/06/2018 19:16

She was a twat.

Toddlers often announce their bodily functions. They are still rather uninhibited. There is nothing offensive about it. He didn't say "I've shat myself", although her reaction would have been fascinating if he had. She might have spontaneously combusted on the spot.

TestingTestingWonTooFree · 08/06/2018 19:49

My 3.5 year old announced tonight that he “needs some peace and quiet”; he wanted a private poo.

Yanbu OP.

LokiBear · 08/06/2018 19:49

The woman is an idiot. My dd1 spoke in sentences before 2. It isnt uncommon (I only say that because some people have expressed surprise that am almost 2 year old is communicating that well.) Dd2, who is 17 months, will say 'uh-oh, poopoo mama' as she is doing a poop. She is a baby, shes practising communication. People who are offended by the word 'poo' need to get a life.

Liverpoolmumof1 · 08/06/2018 19:58

I was shopping with my sister and her kids a few years back when her eldest started nagging to leave the shop immediately. He did this frequently as he hated shopping. After about 15 mins the poor lad, purple in the face, got really annoyed and blurted out “mum, if you won’t leave now I’ll have to drop the kids off in my undies” - he was 8 And didn’t feel the need to say publically at first that he needed the loo but he had us in tears laughing.

Hygge · 08/06/2018 20:10

Why don't people believe that a 22 month / almost 2 year old child can say "I done a poo"?

Is it really that unusual?

DS would have been that age when the doctor was trying to get him to talk at the hospital once. He had croup and needed a steroid, and the doctor was asking how many words he knew. I said I didn't know exactly, but lots.

DS didn't say a single one of those words until the doctor left the room and then said "My not like him and my not like hims stick" because the doctor had used a tongue depressor to look at his throat.

It made the nurse laugh.

DS was speaking single words at seven months so sentences at 22 months seems normal to me.

Being offended about a toddler saying poo is ridiculous. It's not like he was shouting it over and over while she was eating or anything.

SirGawain · 08/06/2018 20:26

Mountainsoutofmolehills
Which planet are you on?

TinkyWinkyStoleMyHandbag · 08/06/2018 21:08

riddleyw

I honestly just belly laughed. Thankyou for sharing that gem. Needed a giggle

DappledThings · 08/06/2018 21:24

DS is 2.3. He recently did a poo while we are at the table in a cafe where he always has the same thing (cheese sandwich).

He later that day solemnly told DH "I do a poo in the cheese sandwich shop". I laughed, he realised it was therefore funny and now repeats the sentence 3 times a week.

Sometimes I ask him if he has done a poo. Regardless of the truth of the situation he always answers, "It just a fart".

Hushhush89 · 08/06/2018 21:34

I'm 347 months and 18 days...

hotstepper4 · 08/06/2018 21:39

I'm actually crying at long vagina

Babynut1 · 08/06/2018 21:56

My DS couldn’t even say Mammy at 22 months and didn’t start talking until he was 2and half.
DD would have said that at 22 months though, she’s 2.5 now and would say exactly the same thing!

Carly46 · 09/06/2018 05:24

Yer was thinking the same must really offend some people counting in months haha

littlemisssunshine81 · 09/06/2018 07:19

This has made my cry laughing 😂 😂😂😂

littlemisssunshine81 · 09/06/2018 07:23

Sorry my previous comment was @Shoutylady
“My gran once got funny about me saying poo when I was 4. Two weeks later, she flew to Australia to see my 3 year old cousin. He ran up to her at the airport and shouted “hi granny, how the fuck are ya?!”

Poo didn’t seem so bad then.” 😂😂😂😂

goodbyeeee · 09/06/2018 07:59

She'd love my 2 year old who thinks it's hilarious to shout "poo poo pants!" at the top of his voice. Disclaimer: he was taught this by older DC when I wasn't in the room....Grin

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