To think a toddler telling me this in public wasn't rude!

[LittleMe03]

Just got off the bus with DC 22months. On the bus, sat in his pushchair he said to me 'I done a poo' I reply 'ok sweetie, we will be getting off the bus and home in a few mins'

Sat quietly again I hear a lady in the seat behind me tut and say to the lady next to her 'why do parents not teach their children to not say such rude disgusting things' I ignored it thinking, surely not talking about us? He's 22 months and it's not rude or disgusting, is it??

She then says 'my nappy needs changing would have done' so this time I know she is obviously talking about us so I turn to her and say 'he's just a little boy, he's not rude, that's ridiculous. Please keep your opinions to yourself'

She stays quiet for the next few minutes but just before we are about to get off the bus I hear her tut. I look at her to give her opportunity to tell me what the problem now was but she doesn't say anything, just stares! The women next to her looked embarrassed.

"Sorry about that. We're getting him a copy of Debrett's for his second birthday". Accompany with eyeroll.

Poor woman needs to get on bus. Has to sit near crapped kid. It stinks, BUT the mother feel she is entitled to stink out the bus, because it's kids isn't it?

So what do you suggest I should have done then?

Mountainsoutofmolehills

Are you feeling ok?

YABU for having your child in nappies still. Don’t you know that in her day, children toilet trained by 18 months? Parents nowadays. Tut.

People offended by what is essentially a baby need to get a bloody grip

Would she had prefer your ds to say - mum I’ve had a shit. What the hell is wrong with some folk!!!!

Seriously some people like this older lady should shut the feck up

YANBU. Mine is nearly 3 and has regressed totally in the toilet training department, to the point where he's been trying to hide the fact that he's pooed. I would be (and am) delighted if he told me every time!

In my experience, though, the general public has an awful lot of opinions on what you should and shouldn't be doing with your child and you can't please them all. Shrug it off.

@RiddleyW

From the mouths of babes

That’s sarcasm btw

Mountainsoutofmolehills yes it is ok because it is a kid, in a nappy.

What is your solution? Push the poo back in? Only take constipated babies out? Wait until they can use the toilet?

Jee wizz, some people really need to lighten up. Anyone would think some people come out toilet trained.

I'd have thought seeing how young he is she could have made allowances.
Little kids' voices carry too so typically clear and audible when discussing bodily functions, appearances etc.

@Mountainsoutofmolehills
Babes, going on public transport is hard. She had to sit next to a kid with a smelly nappy. Recently a mother thought it was ok to bring a portable pottie and drop it in waitrose mid aisle for id to crap in. I also was disgusted. This is the reality. You've chosen to have a kid. Poor woman needs to get on bus. Has to sit near crapped kid. It stinks, BUT the mother feel she is entitled to stink out the bus, because it's kids isn't it?

Whaaaaa?

Oh god, she'd hate us. I still sometimes tell DD2 to stop doing the wee wee dance and go to the toilet, and she's 6

I find that the oddest attitude really, to have a problem with a little boy using a perfectly innocent word for a bodily function that he still needs help for. If "poo" is the worst she ever hears she should be very grateful. But of course if an adult came on the bus and sat in front of her effing and blinding the whole way she would say nothing, because they're only brave enough to have a go at mother's with small children because they think that because we're nice to our kids we'll be too nice to tell them to get to fuck. I will admit I loudly disabused one or two people of this notion when my kids were little

22 months = nearly two, time to stop counting in months

What utter bollocks. A 12 month old is very different from a 23 month old. Months are still helpful until they’re older and the range of development isn’t as wide.

OP - my twins are 20 months. One of them says “ga” exclusively and neither have any idea when they’ve done a poo. So I think your child sounds amazing, although mine probably piss off fewer old ladies ;)

When my same age child is asked if he has done a poo, because of a whiff.

He replies no, just flatulence.

Bet she wouldn’t approve of that either

mountainsoutofmolehills so children shouldn't be on buses? Is that what you are saying? Or that parents should time bus catching with bowel movements? Or get off the bus as soon as baby fills it's nappy?

Yes bat shit crazy

@cadburyegg don't worry, I got it was sarcasm

Mountainsoutofmolehills would I suspect be happiest if mothers and their children did not leave the house at any stage until the children turned 18, and even then. I suspect their problem is with the rest of the human race in general, so ideally nobody other than mountainsoutofmolehills would leave their houses at all, lest they feel so entitled as to disturb her precious peace.

"What is your solution? Push the poo back in? Only take constipated babies out? Wait until they can use the toilet?"

Thanks, RideOn, that made me laugh out loud

Recently a mother thought it was ok to bring a portable pottie and drop it in waitrose mid aisle for id to crap in.

Yeah, that's gross.

No issue with the kid pooing in a nappy on a bus though - totally different.

Mountains you ok hun?

Good that we actually have a more sensible society nowadays. There is nothing disgusting about what your son said, perfectly reasonable thing for him to say. Just be glad you're his mum, not either of them!