to think its embarrassing being an adult and unable to pump car tyres or add screen wash?

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Just that really, I know a friend that's broke but still goes to pay someone to do simple tasks like that.

I think she likes to play the pathetic woman, and says she wants to get experts to do these jobs..

I didn't know how to do these things, so I looked it up and learned! Paying a mechanic to top your screen-wash up? Really?

DazzlingMilton
I would never use a travel agent or go on a package holiday but wouldn't bitch about anyone who chose to.
Key thing I notice is your use of the word friend. I don't think you're being a nice one.

I can do screenwash but totally feart of doing tyres as the one time I tried ot actually ended up letting my tire right down. Everyone has their strengths and weaknesses.

I’ve never heard anyone bemoan a man for getting a takeaway when he’s broke because he can’t cook?

Really? I've told plenty of housemates over the years not to complain they're broke if they're buying takeaway. They've never suggested they couldn't cook, though, just that they can't be bothered.

I used to be able to then DH just took on those tasks. I'm sure I probably still could if it came to it but after ten years I'd probably have to do a bit of googling

I can't. I don't care to learn. And I'm not embarrassed.

You just don't like your friend that much so YABU.

thats very basic maintenance. if you are not checking these basic safety issues then get a bus.

wheel changing can be very difficult if the nuts have been done up with power tools but any monkey can check pressures.

There are always fuckwits that are incapable of performing everyday tasks.

I try not to judge them too harshly - the poor things....

but any monkey can check pressures.

Apparently not......

If you cannot perform those simple tasks and have no disabilities you should not be driving a car.

I pay a fiver for the local garage to top up my oil, coolant, washer fluid and do my tires. It takes them ten minutes, it's supporting a local business, and it saves me hassle.

I can do it, but it's literally cheaper for me to get it done this way.

I can not drive but
I can put air in the tyres,
Know how to tell if the car should have diesel or petrol and fill the tank.
Refill the screen wash .

I can also
assemble flat pack furniture ,
wire a plug ,
connect washing machines up ,
and wall paper walls ( though that takes me three time longer than anyone else )

It's dangerous not to check your car regularly for water, tyre pressure, and oil, especially if you are about to go on a long journey. These are basic checks and are not difficult.

They may be basic but I couldn't do them... or well I could as no doubt the car manual will tell me or I could just google it & follow the instructions. Does it matter? I bet there are a whole load of things I can do that you can't. It doesn't make me a better or worse person, just someone with slightly different priorities.

sorry posted too soon ,

It is your friends money , she can spend it how she wants , I know plenty of people that complain about been short of cash but can still buy ciggys / booze / the latest whatever , , , , ,
Offer to show her but if she declines , tell her you will do it for the same as she pays the garage , you both win then .

I don't understand why you've given it any headspace though. Is she forcing you to pay for it?

Yabu. Learn the basics at least

I remember when I first met DH and he was amazed when I checked my own oil and refilled the screen wash - he'd always done that for his ex. I've even changed a tyre myself but doubt I could be arsed nowadays - that's why I keep him .

I don't understand why people pay for grated cheese when they could do it themselves, but we all have different things we're willing to pay for.

I can't either as I've never had to , OH has always done it. I ran out once and when I stopped to get petrol a chap working there put it in for me. I was only embarrassed when he asked me to pop the bonnet and I didn't know how

I can dust, vacuum and mop a floor but in the past have paid people to do these for me.

I see it as she's outsourcing the work therefore making her life easier.
I don't see the problem of paying someone to do a task you don't want to do.
Is it embarrassing people hire cleaners. Or someone to iron. Or someone to fix their phone. No.
She doesn't want to, has the money to do it clearly and therefore kelp your nose out

I do my own car engine fluids and screen wash .... and tyre pressures. If I waited for DH to do it I would be lucky if it got done once a year. He normally forgets to do his car at all, and I like mine done every month to six weeks.

This post has reminded me that it is about due now.

I can also wire plugs.

I don't get on with flat packed furniture though. I just don't. I get there eventually, but I don't like it and find it frustrating.

Agree that you shouldn't be driving if you can do basic maintenance, it's dangerous.

Nothing like buying grated cheese, unless you go on about "using a grater is so complicated to do I can't be bothered to learn" and buying pregrated has no dangers unlike a vehicle.

This thread has reminded me to check my tyre pressure. I absolutely hate doing it for some reason despite being quite a practical person. I beg dh to do it but he just laughs at me. I think it's because Ive only done it a few times (we used to share a car and dh did it) so not confident about what I'm doing

I don’t know, I see so many women on here saying their husbands ‘can’t cook’ etc, surely it’s the same thing?
FWIW I can do the things in the OP, and if someone told me they couldn’t do it I’d tell them to look it up. Same as if someone says they can’t cook I would tell them to follow a recipe.
Wouldn’t get worked up over a friend choosing to have someone else do it for her. I pay someone to clean my car because they do a better job of it than me.