To worry that my wedding might end up being one big cliche?

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So, dp and I are getting married spring/early summer, right in wedding season - mainly because it happens to be a very significant date for us!

I have my eye on a very pretty garden venue and I would really like the decorations/invitations etc to reflect that, flowers, butterflies, etc.

I'm really into all the pastel colours, I think they are most fitting for the venue/season/people who will be wearing them.

But I just can't help feeling like it's a little bit 'wedding by numbers' and will be virtually identical to every other spring wedding. I don't care about being unique and different to everyone else and 'standing out' but I just don't want the guests to find it all vomit inducing and boring.

AIbu to worry that everything I like/want for the wedding is very 'overdone' and repetitive. Or should I not care and just go for it anyway?

I've never planned a wedding but the thing that will make yours unique is bringing both your family and friends together.
Choose what you like, no one will remember it for the decor or the colour theme, it'll be the people that make it.

I wouldn't worry about it - pretty much every wedding is one big cliché. Nobody will remember anything about it in a month's time, except for good conversations and good fun.

Who cares? Do what you want to do and enjoy your day.

Sorry for the cross post!

Most weddings are the same no matter how much bridezillas like to think they’re being unique.

As the above poster says, it’s the people that make the memories.

Do what you love - and enjoy

I think you'll be fine as long as you avoid a dove or butterfly release and an ice sculpture if you and your new husband.

Have some small unique touches to the wedding like unudual favors or food/snacks which will make it a little different and more memorable. Pintrest is your best friend

Unusual*

A lot of weddings are very similar. Since getting married 5 years ago I have been to 3 weddings at our venue and all have had things similar to ours because they suit the venue. I have been to weddings elsewhere that have also been similar due to decor, colour scheme, time of year themes etc. However every wedding was different and special due to the mix of people there and each couples personal touches that whilst may seem small do out them apart from each other. People take ideas from other weddings they have been to, so the same things do crop up time and time again but are never done exactly the same way.

Don't focus on other people's weddings, just do what you want to do and what will make your day special.

The difference about your wedding isn’t the theme or colour palette. It’s that it’s you and your fiancé are getting married.

Don’t stress about pastels. Have a great wedding.

Have some small unique touches to the wedding like unusual favors

I would avoid this. Favors are such a waste of time and money, and the vast majority get left on the table.

Theres a reason that popular things are popular - they are well liked by a lot of people, so must be doing something right!

Just plan the wedding you and your fiancé want, don’t worry if it ticks a few spring wedding boxes or if you’ve seen some features elsewhere, the main thing is that you and your guests will enjoy the day and you’ll look back and be pleased you did it your way.

Save your money on invitations and extravagant decorations. I've been to many weddings and the best had the best food and lots of free booze as well as my best friends. Good weather helped. I have yet to see anything truly original at a wedding

The only wedding invite I can remember was because it was INSANE (about a dozen cards inside a thick embellished envelope, covered in gold and so on - extravagant Indian wedding)

No one cares about invites, favours and all that.

What most PP said! I've been to about a hundred weddings in the last decade plus. Couldn't tell you about colours etc. at any, except the one where I had to wear a pretty horrible dress as bridesmaid, and just managed to keep my mouth shut! If you are talking about a wedding next year ( spring/ early summer) YABU thinking about it too much now! Do yourself and everyone around you a big favour and don't talk wedding for months on end...

What wedding guest would find a wedding "Vomit inducing"?
These people are presumably your friends who are keen to see you get married, not strangers out to judge you.

Harry and Meghan's wedding was a pastiche of every spring wedding ever (with the possible exception of the lovable mad pastor!) but it was gorgeous.

What would you rather have - an unusual wedding, or the wedding you want?

As we’re already nearly into summer, I’m assuming you’re talking next year - in which case what seems ‘unique’ right now might be on the cover of every bridal magazine going by then. Go with what you would like best rather than worrying if others have already done it.

People will find it wonderful if

• You are clearly enjoying it and having a good time
• They are part of a good mix of friends and family who love you and wish you well
• There is plenty of food and plenty of drink.
• There is not too much hanging around waiting for you to have 'special moments' which exclude your guests [this will mainly depend on your photographer. A good, quick, 'photograph what is happening rather than formal groups who have to be carefully arranged' photographer can make or break a wedding]
• You are not overly controlling of every small detail.

Choose what you like, cut out too many fripperies that don't add to the enjoyment of the guests (colouring books and pencils for the children - absolutely. Individual fancy 'favours' for adults - perhaps not) and aim to enjoy it rather than making it 'picture perfect'.

Apologies if you're not christian - do insert religious festival/customs as necessary.
Weddings are a bit like Christmas - there is a general plan to follow but the choices you/your family make because that's what you like mean that it's like no other. Think about all the Christmas trees you've seen in your life but not one is exactly like your tree. Wedding dresses are the same: most of them are white(ish) but they're not identical either. Ditto for food: some Christmas dinners must have turkey and sprouts, others have everything but.

As so many have said, it's all about you and your fiancé, so don't waste any time trying to be 'unique' or avoiding clichés, just choose what you like so it's a day you enjoy.

If you watched Prince Harry's wedding recently, you'll have noticed plenty of clichés plus plenty of adaptations to suit him and Meghan and their families. It was definitely a wedding and yet no one's will be like it and not just because of the celebrity/royal factors.

All weddings are similar really and popular things are popular because they work well.

The main things for a good wedding are that it is the way the bride and groom want to celebrate, that it is about them and not simply doing what they think they should. Also, make sure you look after your guests, lots of food so they are not standing around too long waiting for photos to be done whilst starving and they have time to relax and laugh.

Your plans sound fine to me 😊

I think most weddings have elements of cliche about them.
If you want to do something a bit different and personal - go for it.
But I would avoid doing anything unsusual just for the sake of being unusual iyswim, because it can come across as very contrived.

Just go for what you like. No one will notice, or even really care. They will just be happy for you.

(although second the idea that you avoid favours!)

Will you be happy and will your guests enjoy it? If the answer is a yes to both it is the right wedding for you.

Serve decent wine with the meal. It will be remembered for years.

Just keep it simple and short!....pleasee