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Original poster

To book DS an extra session at nursery because I’m shattered?

27 replies

FS84 · 04/06/2018 22:09

I’m run down and in pain (chronic health condition) so have booked DS (26 months) an extra day at nursery this week. I’m already feeling guilty because it’s our time together that I should be enjoying every second of 😭

OP posts:
SadTrombone · 04/06/2018 22:11

Don't be daft Flowers Rest up and enjoy

RedOrange21 · 04/06/2018 22:11

Ha ha ha who enjoys every second?! YANBU surely you being less exhausted will mean better quality time with him?

AvocadosBeforeMortgages · 04/06/2018 22:14

Of course not. If you can't look after yourself, you won't be able to look after him as well as possible. He's probably off having lots of fun at nursery and will come back to a mum that's in a much better place to manage his evening and bedtime story.

Marmablade · 04/06/2018 22:18

My 2 DDs cried this week because the teacher training day meant no preschool/school! DD3 loves preschool so much she's in for half a day longer than she needs to be.

Enjoy the rest so you have the energy to be a good mum the other days.

Dreamingofkfc · 04/06/2018 22:20

I'd love to do this but my nursery never have space when I try!

Mrskeats · 04/06/2018 22:21

Would there be space for a 21 and 19 year old back from uni at the nursery?
Back from uni and doing my head in Grin
Seriously don’t feel guilty: sounds like you need a break.

foxedupfox · 04/06/2018 22:21

DO IT! And do not feel guilty, enjoy Wine

AlpacaLypse · 04/06/2018 22:22

Sleep well and have fun with your rocket fuelled small child the next day. I don't know where toddlers get that energy from, I'd love to find out and then patent it and sell it.

scurryfunge · 04/06/2018 22:23

DS had an extra day in kindergarten each week when I briefly worked part time. Take back your sanity and enjoy the recuperation.

MsMotherOfDragons · 04/06/2018 22:28

YANBU, do it, do it, do it!

You need to take care of yourself in order to be the best possible mum! Getting a bit of a break (physically and mentally) will help you to make the most of the rest of your time together.

And don't feel guilty, seriously. You need to take care of yourself, in order to take the best possible care of your DC.

SugarMiceInTheRain · 04/06/2018 22:28

Of course Yanbu. Enjoy the rest. Parenting is knackering. I just booked my 4 year old into a holiday club for 2 sessions because I am finding her so difficult atm and need a break before I lose the plot entirely. I don't even have a chronic health condition, just depression.

Gillian1980 · 04/06/2018 22:29

Yanbu!
I bloody like be a day off when DD is at nursery. We all need a bit of rest time now and then.

Dontrocktheboat · 04/06/2018 22:31

I have done this - you need to have some time to yourself and it will be happier all round!

Orangepear · 04/06/2018 22:32

My 26mo chose to go to nursery one day last week instead of soft play! DH had a day off work so was planning to take her out but she didn't want to. Enjoy your day!

MollyCule · 04/06/2018 22:32

YANBU. I onc sent DD to nursery when I had the week off. I was exhausted and also really needed some time to myself. There's no need to feel guilty. Get some rest!

Mammalamb · 04/06/2018 22:44

Do it! You need some time to recharge and you’ll be a better mum for it xx

Original poster
FS84 · 04/06/2018 22:48

Thank you everyone! Flowers I will try to relax and enjoy the rest

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Spudina · 04/06/2018 22:50

I do this. Last time I had a cold. So not il, just knackered. I watched made for TV movies and napped on the sofa. Was a lovely day! Rest up!

Nefney14 · 05/06/2018 11:48

I do a whole day every week that I don't 'need' I work full time 12 hour shifts and I feel so much better having that 1 day a week to catch up on cleaning, shopping, coffee with friends etc it's made such a difference to the time I have with the kids too because now I can just focus on them and doing fun stuff and I really enjoy it rather than the stress of dragging them around the supermaket etc

BestZebbie · 05/06/2018 11:52

My son did two days a week at nursery when I was only being paid for one days work per week when he was very young and I was chronically ill - that allowed me to do the other five days properly with him, instead of constantly being knackered and trying to play catchup whilst he needed more than I had the energy to give. On the day he was in nursery I was happy that he was getting proper food, changes and naps in a safe environment, and had other children and suitable toys to play with - what's not to like?

Lindy2 · 05/06/2018 11:54

I'm a childminder and parents regularly ask for my childcare so that they can rest, sleep or get things done around the house. It's no problem at all.

justanotheruser18 · 05/06/2018 12:27

Don't feel guilty, please. You will benefit from your child having an extra session at nursery so you have more energy when he/she is home.

Pollaidh · 05/06/2018 12:28

DS is at nursery for 4 days a week, I work 3. I have a chronic health problem and this extra time allows me some rest, time for house, and time for physio etc.

If I am particularly unwell I've been known to put him in for an extra day on the day I have with him.

SoyDora · 05/06/2018 12:29

I’m a SAHM and sometimes book mine in for an extra session at pre school if I’m feeling crappy! I’m 10 weeks pregnant with awful morning sickness so it’s happened a few time recently.
Nothing to feel guilty about! If you worked full time and were ill you’d take a sick day while your DC was at nursery/childcare. It’s no different.

Thebluedog · 05/06/2018 12:29

Do it! I’ve been known to put my dc in after school club just so I can grab some sleep for a few hours after finishing work

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