Would you put your half-clothed glamour shots on FB?

[TheClaws]

... like a friend did? I still can’t quite understand it. She had only a shirt on, not buttoned. I don’t have an issue with her having the photo shoot, but having the image of her mostly unclothed mostly on a rug pop up on my FB feed while I’m sipping my coffee. Plus the 10 other images she posted separately.

Isn’t that weird? For context, she is 45, has 2 DDs, and is divorced. Supposedly this was for a new-ish boyfriend.

It depends..ahem..on how 'wide open' her profile is.

Can it be seen by any Tom, Dick or Harry, or is it locked down to Friends only? If it's only visible to people who already know her, then that's not so bad, but if it can be used as wank fodder by some grubby guy in a flat in Woking then I'd think differently.

Alonso 1. I’m not sneering at her - I don’t understand her choice. 2. I don’t apologise for having a few FB ‘friends’ I keep just to see the shenanigans they get up to. I’d say most people do, and if they say they don’t they’re telling you a lie.

Personally, no. But people do. It’s up to them. You could always “hide” her, I think. (No idea really, I don’t do Facebook)

Sexual poses.... I presume she isnt legs akimbo flashing her fanjo

In one, yes she did have legs akimbo. Thankfully fanjo not visible!

I wouldn’t, because I think all these sexy photo shoots people do are ridiculous and embarrassing. You are not a celebrity, no one wants to see you trussed up like that. I think it is the height of narcissism, with a strong undercurrent of low self esteem.

Also, I’ve never seen a man put up photos from a ‘sexy’ photo shoot, I don’t understand some women’s desire to present themselves as some sort of amateur glamour model/piece of meat. At least the professional ones get paid for getting their kit off and having it publicised, paying to have it done yourself so you can broadcast your bits on Facebook to former colleagues and family is cringe. Best case scenario Dave from the local pub is having a wank over your pictures, worst case, everyone you know is laughing at you.

Burn the witch.

My mum is on Facebook, as is my daughter, so no, I wouldn't put semi erotic pictures of myself on Facebook. Obviously it is her own page to run as she sees fit, but I don't think it is wise to share more intimate pictures and details about yourself, unless you are happy with your mum, dad, children, employer etc (depending on your settings and who's on your friend list) being privy to everything.

Does it look anything like this, OP?

I think a lot of these 'glamour' shots are the height of unglamorous and perhaps taken up by women who are quite insecure and requiring a bit of validation. Our local beauty salon has started doing these and posts them on their FB page and they are so cringey it is painful. The women are all 40+ and very overweight but wearing very badly fitting underwear and either lying down on the beauty couch or straddled over a chair. There is always a feather boa involved too. The really sad thing is that the women look very uncomfortab!e in themselves. It looks as if they have been forced into it yet they do put them as fb profile pictures so either like them or feel the need for validation.

These 'Glamour' shots are the tackiest things I've ever seen. No, no and no on so many levels!

Not a bully, not gossipy, not smug. Just surprised by tits when I didn’t expect them. Also surprised so many of you think it’s okay. I must be very old-fashioned

@lastnightidreamtofpotatoes
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I do have to laugh at the MN high and mighty squad, never had a judgemental thought enter their virtue signalling little heads. Bless them.

This with bells on. They are always the most vociferously judgey and spiteful of the op’s opinion too, funnily enough.

In answer op no I wouldn’t, and yes I would judge anyone that did as attention seeking and insecure.

I must be very old fashioned too but I'd be horrified if a friend did this and would block them from FB so I didn't have to look at them.

I wouldn’t in a million years, and don’t particularly want to see anyone smouldering at me in their scanties when I log on. Have an ‘intimate’ shoot by all means, just don’t over-share.

Would it matter if I had? You’re ramping up now.

Your op said glamour shots mostly unclothed on a rug and now you’ve moved on to soft porn?

I'm with you op. Probably embarrassing for her kids.

I certainly wouldn't! It's rare I post a true selfie with me as centre focus...it's usually me and the cat, or a cake, or dh

However and I am aware this probably makes me a terrible person, there is a woman on my fbfriends list from a camera club and she actually takes these sort of photos and they are all unutterably awful, she posts them as teasers Just a preview of XXX for you hun

pregnancy tits and tattoos out shots, glamour bajingo out in the park shots, boudoir pile of laundry behind the bed shots, wedding elderly aunt necking baileys in the background

So to sum up, I wouldn't and I do judge wonder about the people who take and post these.

I wouldn't but I have a few friends on Facebook who do lots of 'modelling' and then their own boudoir shoots and they always have photos from studios and set where they're done up like call girls etc.

Saying that, there seems to be quite a few people I know booking photographers for their own shoots at the moment so they get all dolled up, play model and then put snaps on facebook.
Do whatever snaps you like, but endless posing sessions is a little odd to me.

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Can it be seen by any Tom, Dick or Harry, or is it locked down to Friends only? If it's only visible to people who already know her, then that's not so bad,^

Yes, but your friends can save photos from your page (certainly from an iPhone) and then they could do anything with them. You never know when you’re going to fall out with your friends!

Yes. If they made me feel confident about my body and I liked how I look.

Can someone please clarify when it's OK to celebrate how we look, and when it's not? I'm getting super confused.

@altkat
I don't like them either but in fairness the ground would be a bit cold for a newborn without the rug

Absolutely but it's always the same fluffy rug, baby shoot - rug, nudey shoot -rug, cheesy family shoot -rug. I think there's a huge supplier out there called photography rugs who have a monopoly on this market... 😁

@absolutelybeginning ....add in a tree and a very VERY short skirt and I think we have the same friend on fb.

Also, I’ve never seen a man put up photos from a ‘sexy’ photo

Get yourself over to gay Instagram @silkpyjamasallday - you're missing a treat.

@MsHomeSlice