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To not let her go ahead of me

52 replies

DarkRosaleen · 02/06/2018 18:48

DH and I flew back from holiday yesterday. We sat in the middle and aisle seats next to an exit, so we had lots of leg room. When we reached the seats I was standing and sorting my seat belt whilst DH put the bag in the overhead locker. I wasn’t farting about but the window seat passenger just pushed past me to take her seat. DH and I raised our eyebrows and exchanged a look.

When the plane landed, we all stood up, DH opened the locker to retrieve my handbag and she pushed passed me again to stand in the aisle and get her wheelie type small suitcase which she left in the aisle and then returned to her seat where her handbag was. No excuse me, or gesture to ask me to move. Just barged me out of her way.

DH was still in the aisle and I stood in front of him. Bargetta ( as I like to call her) was clearly frustrated at having to stand in the seating area and not the aisle. She tapped me on the shoulder and pointed at the case and said it was hers and she wanted to stand in front of me. The queue in the aisle was stationery, everyone was still pulling their stuff down and the door wasn’t open yet. She explained that she was in a hurry to disembark. Because she had made my hackles rise, I said no. She said she had a bus to catch. I said (truthfully) that so did we and probably so did a lot of the other people on the flight. She tried to argue with me but I turned away and didn’t engage.

DH and I are not rude and are quite happy to wait our turn in a queue and to let passengers in seats ahead of us get their stuff and go in front of us. Equally we are happy to wait when getting on the flight to let people take their time to stow their bags and settle into their seats.

Anyway we made our way off the plane but noticed a family with young children slipped in behind us and we could hear her tutting and even a hiss. DH said when she was behind him, he could feel her pushing him and he had to brace himself against a seat to prevent him going into me. She also hit the back of his legs with her case but DH thinks this could have been accidental.

When we got off the plane she ran along the corridor in front of us but as she was wearing high heels she really didn’t make much of a head way and we actually cleared passport control and customs ahead of her.

For full disclosure she was immaculately dressed and groomed. She was in her 50s and was foreign. Possibly from the Mediterranean country where we had our holiday.

Was I a cah? Should I have let her go in front?

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LadyintheRadiator · 02/06/2018 18:50

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DewDropsonKittens · 02/06/2018 18:53

Yanbu but I don't think i could be bothered to argue with her about it and would have let her go but pointed out her manners were poor

Yokatsu · 02/06/2018 18:56

If my bus wasent urgent I'd have let her pass. It's kindly thing to do and I rather have someone like that ahead of me than behind

DarkRosaleen · 02/06/2018 19:02

I suppose I could have had better manners but I thought I had done well to have stood my ground and not let the arrogant madam push in. Standing in front of me wouldn’t have made any difference. We were 2/3 of the way down the plane. It was the other hundred in front that caused the delay.

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Wellfuckmeinbothears · 02/06/2018 19:03

I don’t think any of you handled it well to be honest.

GabsAlot · 02/06/2018 19:03

everyone has somewhere to go though dont they-trains buses to catch shes noone special

Pebblespony · 02/06/2018 19:06

Life's too short. I would've let her off.

Babdoc · 02/06/2018 19:06

If she was “from the Mediterranean country” where you had your holiday, she probably doesn’t have the British culture of queuing and taking turns! I’ve been gobsmacked over the years by watching people of various countries swarm round a bus stop and elbow their way into the bus with no regard for who got there first.

gabsdot · 02/06/2018 19:07

I'm amazed there was room for her to get out of the window seat before you moved.
Obviously not Ryanair.

ALongHardWinter · 02/06/2018 19:08

Bargetta? Don't you mean Bargezilla?! Grin

BlueBug45 · 02/06/2018 19:08

I have no sympathy for her as when you are planning flights it isn't hard nowadays to find out how to get to and from airports leaving yourself sufficient time.

Andrewofgg · 02/06/2018 19:10

"Madam, we are all in a hurry, we all want to get of the plane, just wait your turn."

Yokatsu · 02/06/2018 19:14

Standing up for yourself is turning around and saying"please don't push past me, I'm happy to move if you ask) or even "its polite to ask before hinges past. You ended up going for tit for tat. There's a big difference

MatildaLovesBooks · 02/06/2018 19:14

She was rude, and you know that. I would have personally let her go in front, just so she was out of the way and not near me anymore. But good on you for defending your ground and not letting Rudezilla win.

FreeMantle · 02/06/2018 19:16

we reached the seats I was standing and sorting my seat belt whilst DH put the bag in the overhead locker. I wasn’t farting about...

I beg to differ.

On arrival she was in a window seat and still managed to get her bag out and into the aisle whilst you guys are faffing about with handbags in a locker. Shesh. Just let her go first.

greendale17 · 02/06/2018 19:16

You did the right thing.

She was rude. She can wait her turn

Candyflip · 02/06/2018 19:19

I am generally quite easy going but getting off planes gives me the rage. There are unspoken rules about how to disembark and anyone who disobeys them gets a very hard stare from me. Tossers.

PlumsGalore · 02/06/2018 19:19

Babdoc, I agree. I think sometimes only the British queue. When I'm abroad and this happens I stand legs apart with my elbows out as far as they'll go. Anyone attempting to squeeze in fronts gets a leg in front of them or elbow.

NotTerfNorCis · 02/06/2018 19:20

It can be stressful when you have to be somewhere and people are dawdling about in front of you. I know what it's like to want to shove people out the way (I never do, though!).

TenuedeNimes · 02/06/2018 19:21

She was being ridiculous.

I agree that it sounds like she was from a non-queueing culture. I live in one and it gets a bit crazy at times. I probably would have said no too.

halesie · 02/06/2018 19:22

OP I'm a longtime commuter and I would have done the same, but I confess I'm petty and the rudeness really winds me up.

Would bet you anything the knock with her case wasn't accidental.

TenuedeNimes · 02/06/2018 19:23

@notterfnorcis it doesn’t sound like people were dawdling though? I read it as being that non-moving stage when the plane has stopped but the doors haven’t even opened yet, but everyone’s standing up already.

DarkRosaleen · 02/06/2018 19:23

@gabsdot
It was an emergency exit so it had extra legroom. I agree about Ryanair.

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auntyflonono · 02/06/2018 19:24

If people are standing too close behind me in a cue like you were I like to take a large step back, then apologise of course Grin

Namechangedname · 02/06/2018 19:25

How was the holiday?

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